i am very stressed

iluvmilky SG

i am from 40sar yesterday just bookout here is my problem inside camp i can’t speak up cause i am too quiet then all my bunk platoon mates are talking about me behind my back i just can’t mix in with them because all is pai kia

^tamago^ SG

find someone closer to u in terms of interests and background, and start from there?

<Precious> SG

Aren't you being a lil' judgmental dat your platoon-mates are pai kia here? Evil or Very Mad

Like it or not, you guys need each other in there. So loosen up a bit and try to associate with them. Adjust your mentality lah..... Wink

iluvmilky SG

the sargent even make me the platoon ic he knows that i talk too quietly but still
make me do the job now i feel like the whole platoon is hating me say i am ah gua

Daisuke-kun SG

cause u r.
u must how dem.
SPEAK UP.

Marco_Simone SG

Wat ur edn level?

iluvmilky SG

when they are joking i just sit 1 place and listen i am too quiet how can i make myself talk more please tell me cause i need to book in by tmr and i dun want to face them like a quiet guy

iluvmilky SG

N level

dkcx SG

His purpose might not be top bully you or anything but as a way to make you open up and speak up more. As others mentioned, you'll be there for your entire NS life, everyone have to depend on each other for the next 2 yrs and for the next 10 reservist cycles.

If you really can't fit in with the general population, try to find a few people who are more similar to you and start from there. You can't be the only 1 that is quiet there and sure to have others who might also feel like you.

Rejected SG

went in early?

terabyte SG

hey bro. i think you should not disappoint your sarge. do everything you can to make sure that you do a good job on being a platoon IC. it is time to wake up your idea. you're gonna meet all kinds of people in the future and if you don't take this chance to speak up and expand your social circle, i think your situation will be much worse after you ORD and enter the working world. right now, don't care about what others think of you, their opinions about you don't matter; what matters is how you look at yourself as a person. do your best in your role as IC, get the commands right and project your voice. if you need help with commands, ask your sarge, i'm sure he'll be there to help you.

this is your chance to show them what you got.

Short Ninja SG

If you dont talk much that is ok but you have to show your bunk mates that you are not a weirdo and an anti social freak.Maybe you are all new to each other and they are trying to make you one of them.If you ask me I would say that everyone in the SAF is a pai kia or at least a pai kia wannabe cuz the thougher you are the happier you will be in there.When you book in just make an effort to get along with the rest of your platoon cuz you are the minority

snk86 SG

A coy i assume?

can suggest you talk to your PS, last i remember those 3indian idiots are freaking nice people, if you manage to make them like you.

Troy437 SG

I think I know how you feel as I went thru something like your situation during my NS.
There is this one guy who think he is pai kia and always want to makan me.
Then when I am ic, he even slaps my head for fun when we are jogging.

Just do what you are required to do in your job, and put everyone on their role.

Remember one thing, in this unhappy time, do not vent out on ppl who is not making things difficult for you. I made this mistake in that situation and I regret it till now.

blitzonic SG

Only you yourself can know what works best in improving your socialization/interaction skills.

I can only suggest the usual icebreaking tips for NS, mainly those that share common ground or can life morale during the appropriate occasions: transistor radio (better yet, self-appoint yourself Radio I/C); latest newspapers; updated magazines; heating coil & metal container (for cooking Maggi Mee); pork floss (or any finger food that doesn't count as snacks & can pass around when outfield); prickly-heat talcum powder, etc. But take it slow, lah. Don't come across as overbearing, or inadvertently kena Blanjah King.

Learn to talk c-o-c-k too, without faking it. Be moderate cuz, if you stay with the unit after BMT, the specialists will likely be posted in (to train together with the mono-intakers) during trade course &, subsequently, the officers & Tekong-trained men too. Unit lingo tends to be traditionally Hokkien or at least Singlish, but once the other English- & Malay-speaking personnel join up, the balance shall be more evenly tilted & "cosmopolitan."

[Hey, moderator: "c-o-c-k" is censored here?]

Short Ninja SG

During my BMT all the 'hardcore' would group together to light up during smoke break and then there was this guy who came over and asked me for a stick like he was John Wayne,he then asked me to light it up for him....but the cigarette was still in his hand Shocked he kena farked by me teruk teruk until end up one corner like a sick puppy Crying or Very sad

blitzonic SG

During my BMT all the 'hardcore' would group together to light up during smoke break and then there was this guy who came over and asked me for a stick like he was John Wayne,he then asked me to light it up for him....but the cigarette was still in his hand he kena farked by me teruk teruk until end up one corner like a sick puppy

~lol~

Cigarettes were arguably the best ice breaker ever. Too bad even reservists cannot afford to pass around a pack anymore.

Quinsy SG

army guys are sooo cute

specialOps SG

sometimes not everything need to 'speak up'....u can still be urself and do what u believe without offending pple..

dun keep to urself...sometimes little actions of kindness can break the cold and pple will know u're not a bad guy.

pple usually treat badly or talk behind their backs if the guy is a self-centered, selfish guy....if u help others, little little things, pple will take note and know u're a good guy.

Don't think of all as pai kia....different upbringing, different languages, different behavior, but u'll be surprised they can be loyal friends....dun discriminate others or think too highly of urself.