Final advices for me

last SG · 2007-12-12T00:08:11+00:00

Yes it takes time and it might requires external help but are you even trying? If you really wanted to overcome it, i was willing to help and i dare say ther...

AhJun SG

i think my anxiety is somewhat different. its not the culture shock tt kind of nervous emotion though

Detached SG

You clearly recognize that those excess worrying are just some GAD symptom, then simply don't succumb to them.

It's like knowing that stabbing your leg with a jack knife would hurt; yet stabbing so furiously and refusing to stop.

Neutral

dkcx SG

In the army a spec is a spec whether logistics or combat. We are all given the authority to exercise any forms of punishment within our level. Log specs rarely punish/pump/fuk their men doesn't mean we can't when we are required to.

If you do not open yourself to people to accept their help, what sort of help you expect to get. Its just how much you really want to cure yourself. I've a friend who has a similar condition and he has managed to get over it with alot of determination and help from friends. Its going to be a very difficult battle and its not going to be won if you intend to fight on your own.

AhJun SG

No one gives me determination. My family onli say ns is easier now, everyone is doing it together tt kind of thing which doesn't seem to help. And, i practically haf no friends now. I can't make it to poly. They may haf gatherings but i wasn't informed. Even if i do, i won't show up. I take olvl failure as humiliation. What i haf told u i fear to see friends/teachers outside. When i was in sec sch, if there r gatherings, i will be the last informed or not informed at all. And facing humiliation frm my family side is worst enough. I dun want to face humiliation from my frens side. Worse still, my mum seems to enjoy telling her colleagues tt i am entering NS and even changed the subject to ME entering NS if she call my aunts or my aunts gave her a call. I dun think not being able to enter poly and haf to go for NS is something worth to mention and repeat many times right? even if u finished poly/jc education and move on to NS, ur mum also dun spread it to other pple tt u r going NS every now and then right? The humiliated one is still me..of cos

mhcampboy SG

U think too much.

No one gives u the determination? Is because you yourself rejects it.

The solution lies only with you.

I will say this again as I did in PM.

Army wont be as what you think it is. You will have bonding with ur mates. You will have fun together.

However, I will not say training is easy. it will be tough. You may cry even at certain levels of training. But it is still bearable. Remember, your mates will be doing the same thing as u. And thousands more have endured before you.

Education you can find anywhere. So many schools now. All you have to do is to pick and choose.

dkcx SG

I was willing to be your friend. I was willing to try help you overcome some of these problems but you choose to reject my help.

Everyone of us have met with failures in our lives, some more than others but its hard to find anyone who has had a smooth sailing life all the way. I've told you more than once that you have to face your failures. It might be humiliating to have failed but its just 1 failure, its not the end of the world. Not all successful people are degree holders. I've a friend who left sch in sec 3 to go out to work and hes now a manager in an IT company. Its not about your education level but about how commited to your job you are etc that will determine how you will fare. People like us who have degrees or persuing our degrees, so what? That cert is only useful maybe the first few job applications, after that its all base on performance etc that determines who gets the job. Pay might be higher i won't deny but who says you can't study part time etc and still achieve some sort of success in future? The point is not to give up on yourself. So what if your friends laugh at you or something, they might laugh once, twice but will they laugh forever? Is it worse to let them laugh at you a few times or worried about being laugh at all your life?

So what if your former friends don't call you for their gatherings? If they don't want to be friends, just find new friends. Start from a new beginning and not dwel in the past. You need to move forward.

mhcampboy SG

Yeap. The point here is to move forward...

TS, u r still young..... why bother abt the past...

Fatum SG

you know .... I've always believed that the army is a microcosm of one's life ... one's attitude towards the army, even though it's so called an "in-voluntary service" ... is also one's attitude towards life's adversities and trials ....

yes, NS is involuntary servitude, but your attitude towards NS is often a preview of your attitude towards your own career and life ... people will argue that, no, you'll pia when it comes to your own career, etc etc ... but I say ... your future job is often an "involuntary servitude" as well ... you won't be going to work because you feel like it, you'd be going to work because you have to ... just like NS ... and how you carried yourself in your NS duties will be how you carry yourself in your career as well ...

so ... is this GAD thingy going to stay with you all your life ? .... it's up to you ...

(note that I'm not talking about chionging to become officer or commando or what not ... but doing what you have to do ... being responsible, taking pride in doing what you have to do ... I believe these characteristics are with you whatever you do, whereever you go ... in or out of NS)

dkcx SG

Don't you get it that his problem is not due to NS at all? NS is just 1 of the things that happens to be the top thing in his life at the moment and even if not for NS, he will still be having worries for something else. What he needs to overcome is not really NS but himself

Fatum SG

I'm talking about NS ... not him .... Wink

I'm not a psychiatrist ... nor am I particularly sympathetic ... you may be right, his problem is himself, not some quirky acronym'ed malady ...

dkcx SG

The problem i would believe is real but as with most mental problems, it requires the sufferer to be willing to accept it and accept help. As long as the person doesn't open himself to help or doesn't want to help himself, no psychiatrist or counsellor can do anything.

Fatum SG

I'll leave the psycho-analysis to you, I'm not a shrink, nor do I believe in them .... I'll stand by what i say about NS ... the TS can choose to wallow in self pity or he can choose to correct it himself ....

popikachu SG

After reading all your post and the PM you send me...

I just feel that you just take the GAD thingy as an excuse to try to slack...
And... I said EXCUSE not reason...

You just keep blaming and blaming on that stupid medical reason you have again and again non stop...

Plz dude... Stop that...
See... It's all about up there... About how you think...
Enduring through NS is not an impossible thing...
Stop finding excuses and blame on your GAD...
Go through this 2 years proudly...
And you will be proud of yourself that you have gone through that 2 years without finding excuse and endure it like a man...

Be brave...
Wink

AhJun SG

what for i keep blaming on the medical reason? kaoz i doubt u understand my condition. u dun believe my condition is true? then i got nth much to say.

AhJun SG

i can't help it. if i can i would haf stopped long ago. and ns is juz the part at the moment i haf excessive worrying abt. its not becos of NS tt i began to worry. i was alrdy having constant worries when i was young.

AhJun SG

yes ur first sentence alrdy kinda sums up my condition alrdy. I think too much.

AhJun SG

i think tt ur initial ways of helping wasn't effective at all. u r juz dragging the process and wasting time and u think tt can change my mentality so easily.
but the scars r there

AhJun SG

its the scars..sometimes the past is somewhat impt too..

ad3285 SG

If you want answer, i'll tell you now.
Every recruit who goes into a unit will get interviewed by their PC (Platoon Commander) within 48hrs. During this interview, just declare and talk to your PC YOUR problems. If you think he can't help much, you can always request to talk to your OC (Officer Commanding) instead.

If after talking to OC also can't help, for BMT phrase there is always a OO (Orientation Officer) attached to the unit for recruits with problems. They are the trained one to handle all these problems.

OO will always take all these things into matter. so just trust them. if you don't trust them, i really don't know who can help you with YOUR problems.

AhJun SG

but right now i haf supporting documents alrdy- my IMH appointment card, a couple of receipts to show medication and visits and also some medicine labels i got. so i declare and show pc all these too? i am worried this whole thing might juz drag too long and i wun be able to survive. some pple in this forum say tt there r no OO attached to mono units. all go to tekong. i think they probably dun wanna help us cos we got lesser education.

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