How To Win A Argument With Regular..Or should i not start it

last SG · 2007-09-02T22:41:34+00:00

just last week, me n my boss was having a arguement, he throw pen on table, spew vulgarities. Well as for me i lose my cool n do the same n walk off from h...

borntolive SG

haiz i m working under a regular (SSG) whom in my opinion CMI....Always talk big, qn ppl, n give those kind of look u wana punch.

I was given so little training in wad i am supposed to do, in fact i am doing the actual stuff while learning and of course i m bound to make mistakes etc. N when it happen he explodes, questioning me n scolding me. There was even once my colleague parents when to screw the regular. I have been working overtime to meet the demands n when i call him after office hrs to ask him soemthing, he argued back,saying why i always give him so much trouble even after office hrs...

This is it, i am not going to suffer like a dog, there are several times i almost wanted to explode n argue back but i held back. I was wondering should i vent it out. Seriously i still got until MAY 2008, do i need to show him i m not a person to be easily taken advantage of?

leo-kun SG

this arguement sounds like you are doing his job...maybe you might want to state clearly what is the arguement about.
as NSF i always think you are required to do what you suppose to do
nothing much nothing less.
if he take advantage then better sound off.

borntolive SG

i dont think i wana say exactly wad happen la, afriad leak out too much info,

basically i was doing this stuff which supposed to be done long ago, but with so much work to do,i cant finish it. I overlook something, thus forgotten to do it. This happen after office hr, i want to finish something then i realise i forget to do something which is my mistake, i called my regular and asked him wad to do n he scolded me, saying why he gimme so much trouble n told me to see him on Mon. Yes i may have overlooked, its my mistake but i m learning while doing it. PPl bound to make mistakes wad, why does he have to do this?

This aint the 1st time, always accusing me of doing wrong stuff, procastinating etc

ditzy SG

Just remind yourself, you fcuk out of there in less than a year, he's in it for life. Laughing

leo-kun SG

if you dont wan to argue with him then be more careful in future and use the black note book to joint down whatever you suppose to do and you wouldnt forget after sometime.
rem is just a matter of time you go ORD. endure!

eemtij SG

Can we know the nature of your work? Store clerk? Medic? S1 clerk?

Depending on your work and how close you are with more senior people, there are many solutions but argue back not the ideal solution.

yuko-ogura SG

unless he overdoes it, dun start any debate.
u will be glad that u withstand all his nonsense when he's good to u again.

i got a suggestion.
next time he flares up at u, u jus say "okok.np." then smile back at him.
if he asks why u smiling so widely, tell him that "nothing la..im juz amazed at how people can be so angry when under stress. learn how to relax a bit ok, staff?" then pat him on the back and smile at him.

i bet he will be so taken aback and wun be so mean to u next time. Smile

Gordonator SG

i think it’s not wise to argue cos lets face it, the army is about ranks, no matter how fark up they are, they are still higher rank than u. u can’t win.

borntolive SG

ok i gona reveal this for a while, i m a medic

borntolive SG

So u guys suggest i just endure and swallow the scoldings? i have been doing this for 9-10 mths already haiz..

borntolive SG

yup i do take notes, basically i m doing store work other than my medical duties. There are ALOT of stuff to account for and i can safely say i gona screw things up when i do the next check cause alot of stuff dont tally with system, medics will understand here,

eemtij SG

Sigh.... I was hoping that you are not cos normally medical centre staff most officers don't like to meddle with.

But as a medic, I suggest you talk to your SSG and tell him straight that you will work better with less shouting. But you are there already so many months, isn't it time you get a hold of things there and make less mistakes.

crimson soldier SG

you cant win.

let him scold you lah. why would you care?

unless he confines you or something, then go somewhere for justice Laughing

lwflee SG

You are in the Army. There is no such thing as 'after-office hours'.

You made a mistake, expect to be fecked for it. Take it on the chin like a man.

You sound like you have an attitude problem. I might not be right but you certainly come across as such.

borntolive SG

well in the 1st place i wasnt train and taught properly. For e.g theres a task for me to do, i learn n pick up from SSG n do on the spot. Now tell me when i do something new, mistakes are bound to be made rite?

dragg SG

argue for what?

you will be out in max. 2 years.

borntolive SG

i took the initiative to work after office hours wad, anything wrong with that?

Of course if i did made a mistake, i get fked ok nvm, the prob is i get fked for something that wasnt taught and handed over to me properly in the 1st place.

lwflee SG

You haven't been taught or you forgot? In the posts above you said you forgot. If you forget something it implies that you know that you should have done something but you did not do it.

As I said, suck it in and stop whinging like a girl.

And what do you mean by you took the 'initiative' to work after office hours. That is not a valid concept, the concept doesn't exist in the army. YOu have work to do, you finish it!

lwflee SG

But if you feel aggrieved, I suggest you go up the chain of command.

Hellraiza SG

seriously. just explode one times good one. he won’t touch u in future