Relationships with a military man

last SG · 2006-06-27T03:50:03+00:00

I suspect in Singapore, there's this unofficial policy that requires senior officers to be married as well, just like our members of parliament .... probab...

singaporesodapop SG

Do guys in the Special Forces (SEALS, SOF, NDU, Commandos, Rangers, etc.) have worse relationships than "regular" soldiers? I have a friend who is dating a Navy SEAL, and quite frankly, I'm concerned for her. Just want some opinions...thanks!

mhcampboy SG

why are you concerned about her?

singaporesodapop SG

Well, I saw a documentary which said that the SEALS have the highest divorce rate among all the branches in the U.S. military. I'm thinking along the lines of the SEALs clandestine operations. But, I guess it's her fault for marrying him, since she should have known what she was getting into.

saline SG

well. in a relationship, u want to share your probs and achievements. how u expect special force guy to share his feelings and probs? so whatever probs the man has, he would keep it to himself. thus u can expect the guy to be abit cranky at times.
so the wife have to be super understanding to his job. she has to understand that he would be gone for missions for days or weeks at a time and he might not be around when she needs him.

just my 2 cents. Smile

ditzy SG

Navy seal nia, not some cia secret agent. Laughing

schoolworkphobia SG

I going to get posted to MIB soon.

martin_lim85 SG

Laughing Rolling Eyes

Obersturmfuhrer SG

It makes no difference. SF guys dun have an outlet for their problems since no one would understand the tremendous pressure and stress they go thru since all you junkies view them as some sort of super heroes.

MobyDog SG

I think it is the problem with Free available Time with their spouse.

My second GF dumped me for a Army regular, and within a month she regrated it, saying he has no time with her.... Very Happy

Obersturmfuhrer SG

Serves her right. Rolling Eyes Laughing

singaporesodapop SG

So, if the boyfriend was a SF soldier, would that mean that he wouldn't be allowed to tell me? For someone who's in the SEALS or SOF, are they allowed to tell their significant others what their job specialty is, or would that be a breach of their security clearance?

Gedanken SG

I don’t think it’s any different from the norm. While there were some guys who did get divorced, most of the others were in reasonably happy marriages.

dakkon_blackblade SG

In TV dramas and detective fiction it's always the policeman who has the relationship problems. I don't recall actually watching any show or reading anything in which the soldier has such issues. In fact if the hero is the soldier he always gets the girl in the end, while if he's a detective he always loses her. I wonder why is that so... Rolling Eyes

Obersturmfuhrer SG

The real world dun end up like Hollywood films do they? If they do, OBL and the rest of the Al-Qaeda network would have been killed by Rambo by now. Laughing

wonderamazement SG

I concur... Very Happy

Hellraiza SG

Im curious sodapop, why do your posts always seem to center along SF? Wink

well, ive observed that MOST soldiers who are in very physically demanding units, really wreck havoc out in town once the weekend hits. Me included. If you were to ask about the method behind the madness, from my point of view : you get treated like shit for 24 hours 5 days a week (at least, over here its like that) once you're set free, you're like a lion in the Coliseum who's seen the first piece of meet in days.

singaporesodapop SG

Hey Hellraiza,

Well, to answer your question, my Dad used to be in the SAF a long time ago, so I still have the military blood flowing in my veins Wink Besides, I served in the U.S. Army for some time after graduation, so there you go Smile I've always had lovin' for men in uniform, especially the Special Ops guys-- to me, they're still smarter than the average grunt.

I suppose having a group of alpha males stuck in a place where shit gets flung at them would cause them to break free once TGIF hits.

Makes good sense.

Call me crazy, but I think I'm one of the rare breed of girls who actually digs military stuff. Yeah, weird, I know...

Lovin' Singapore and soakin' up the sunshine-- damn, it sure is better here compared to the U.S.!

kwlee SG

u mean the man in uniform or the place... Laughing

singaporesodapop SG

What place? Are you referring to the "alpha male" portion? OK, how about this: the man in uniform in the place Cool

Shotgun SG

You’ll be surprised how well some CIA officers keep their marriage. =D