i was a jc guy.. in fact last yr im still one. so, naturally i
heard lots of jc gals who ran away, or break off.
first of all.. i will take the assumption of 'jc gals always break
off with guys during ns' true.
now, have u ever put in mind. why will the relationship with these
young ladies b more fragile as compared to poly or other
counterparts?
to acknowledge this problem, u have to look into the background of
these ppl.
of course i'm one of those sad souls who r now unattached. i will
still speak for them into some extent. those ex-jc girls, are
normally in universities, working part-time when their bf are in
army. so as to say, they are actually proceeding with another stage
of their life. a stage of life when they begin to realise what
theyy wan and dun wan. university is often the place where ppl meet
their lifelong partner.
and when u are getting on with ur life. in this newly unexplored,
more advanced level. u bound to see guys who have better qualities,
character.. who have matured tru the yrs and the ns-term. these
young man who just ord-ed normally have in mind what they want.
they normally have a greater insight than man who haven't
served.
jc relationships are often like not as sturdy.
becoz, u know that u will still have another level to carry up to.
and yes, u need someone to share the pain and tears of studying
with u, so when u find someone who matches u. why not?
pardon me for my stereotyping and over-generalising.
but on the other hand, the poly girls having a more sturdy
relationship.
why? becoz they are still in an unchanged environment... whereas
they r still in poly. the ppl are more or less.. the same lv.
environment is still status quo.
even for poly graduates, more or less.. the relationship is
expected to last into working environment. which is normally
hostile to fresh bloods. simply becoz of the age-difference in ppl.
which keeps these young adults to their own clique. and it is
harder to penetrate into the hearts of these pppl.
another thing is... just like dilution
u put ppl into the society, it is 'harder' for ppl to match. becoz
of the age difference. company size. the approachability of
ppl.
in U its difference la.. in the same fac there are just hundreds.
which u see daily... there's orientation.. cca. most important of
all .. it's a new environment..
just my 5 cent worth.
