Anybody....?
A friend of mine told me that he's getting married some time
back... He really ain't prepared for the wedding but he thought he
would go into it anyhow and see how things go... And if it seems
that he might take if he takes it positively, things would just
turn out to be quite positive for his marriage....
So somehow it occurs to me, what makes a marriage successful...?
And for that matters, what makes relationships successful....? Is
there a secret formula for combination...? Who + who = Yes, and Who
+ wHo = No? Or is it that anybody with anybody would actually holds
that certain level of chance for the relationship to work out for a
specific period of time....? Non-specific period of time.....?
If my friend thinks VERY POSITIVELY and is VERY COMMITED to make
his relationship work, would it work....? Or would it really
matters because it takes 2 hands to clap...? That his thoughts and
actions alone is not enough but what his spouse do would matter to
a great extent too....? To make things even more complicated, does
the closest of people around his spouse have a great say to which
whether the relationship would work out too....? So how many hands
actually does it take to clap for the marriage or even a
relationship to work.....?
Still.... I finally thought.... In order for a relationship or
even a marriage to work, it would take LOTS of EFFORTS...
COMMITMENT from BOTH PARTIES.... Somehow I think the arena has
changed... People are more open..... Given more options and more
alternatives... More things to handle, more things to 'commit'
to..... Life isn't all that simple anymore... Where family and
marriage used to be the root support of many's lives... The level
of commitment we devote to our relationship nowadays tend not be
that at that 'sacred' level unless it's still something very new
and 'honoured' by us....
I must admit that even with LOTS of EFFORTS and COMMITMENT from
BOTH PARTIES, things might not work out well and it might not be
enough to overcome everything in this now complicated world... But
instead, I thought this might be the bare minimum requirement for
now....?
