Is it wrong to do things by myself?

last SG · 2005-01-02T12:18:42+00:00

Okay get what you guys mean. Sometimes, I do enjoy being by myself, got time to relect. BTW, has anyone gone for DISC workshop?

icyprincess SG

Is there something wrong with doing things by yourself? Like going to the movies by yourself? Everytime I told people I do that, they would look at me with this pitying look, i really hate it. And when I told people I went shopping alone, most will either scoffed or asked,"Why you go alone??", as if it is a crime to do so. Actually I prefer to go shopping on my own, dun get me wrong, I love it when he went out with me several times when I wanted to shop, but thing is I wun feel so guilty when I am doing it on my own cos I can take my own sweet time and dun feel like I am wasting someone's time when I went to the dressing room to try on like 5 clothes and they have to stand outside the room and wait for me.

And sometimes I feel like going on walks by myself, people oso tink that is wrong...sigh.

i.c.y

spaded SG

yah lor.

i like doing certain stuff myself too. like sitting in the library reading etc. don't see anything wrong with that.

i admire girls who can watch horror movies alone. I remember seeing 3 girls at different seats alone in the same theatre. There I was screaming my head off and they were so calm. totally amazing..

droopyeyes SG

same here. i prefer doing shopping alone.. sometimes, it's so much better to shop alone. let's say if i go shop with my friends/sis.. i find it so hard to buy things.. cos i care abt the comments they given.. in the end.. i end up buying nothing.

but of cos, if i shop alone, i will buy too much things. haha..

icyprincess SG

oh hehe. I can't watch horror movie alone. Since very hard want to find people to watch with me, I just stopped watching.

i.c.y

jolin80 SG

well i dun think doing stuff n shops alone is sumthing bad as i had used to it so i dun really cares wad ppl think or comment
but if he wan to shop wif mi i dun mind i jus dun wan him to wait for mi as i shop for my clothes or other stuffs

droopyeyes SG

oh.
one thing i'll never do alone is.. to eat alone at foodcourt. i rather takeaway, and eat at home.. or just buy some fingerfood so i can eat as i shop.

icyprincess SG

Most of the time I dun want to go shoping wif people cos yea, they comment too much, and I will feel like they should be doing something else other than following me all over the place. And who thinks it is a duty of a boyfren to accompany her girlfren to shop evtime? Actually I dun really care if he doesnt go shopping wif me, but my frens put pressure on me to force him to go wif me. I still din force him, but he went anyway cos I think he thinks I like him to do it. That's why I felt bad abt it.

i.c.y

icyprincess SG

yea, if I cant find anyone to eat wif me, usually I just order take away lor...

i.c.y

Patrik SG

I alwaz do things alone.I go out alone,go gym alone,do everything alone.
Whwn pple ask and i say i go alone,they give me a face like "Do u have to be that loner?"
Rolling Eyes

zrahf SG

nah...think its pretty normal ba....all ppl needs to hab a time when they do things alone.....a world or time when its really 'theirs' ba.... Rolling Eyes

Lord Kang SG

I find that there is nothing wrong with doing things alone…I go to the movies alone and go out alone sometimes…Even though maybe a little lonely at times…

tia SG

dere is nth wrong wif it wat..
i like shopping alone sometimes.
i agree wat u think..

sometime when shopping alone.. i can go into which shop i like..
buy the things i like.
but when shopping wif someone eles.. or wif a grp of frends..
i tend to juz follow them..
they wanna go which shop den i will juz follow.
tats kinda bad huh..

but i dun dine alone.
if i were to dine alone,i rather dun eat..
sometime i will pity those who dine alone..
tats the only thing.

but go shopping alone.. catch movie alone..
tat seems rather alrite to me..
its something everyone has to do..

ditzy SG

If its wrong, then if I can't find someone to lunch with, I have to forego lunch and starve myself all the way to dinner? Laughing

icyprincess SG

I know it is alright, even enjoyable sometimes but I cant stand those stares people give me when I told them I went out alone. They will assume I have had a tiff with him and then asked all sorts of questions.

i.c.y

icyprincess SG

no la, u can order take away and eat alone in ur house, no one will have to know. talking abt dat, suddenly I feel like eating KFC Wink

i.c.y

spaded SG

hmm let's say you're out watching movies alone. will you sit beside another lonely soul? Wink

just wondering.

nightzip SG

yah, same same.

i go to see movies by myself, go to restuarants myself, walk shop myself and even go bowling myself.

i see it as perfectly normally lor..but me guy. Mr. Green

think those who "pity" us is that they are the "sociable" people, not that i not sociable, i very sociable one, but its that sometimes you could do things on your own better mah...

like shopping, then pple will be waiting for me..etc,
see movies i also last-min, walk walk then see got good movie, then buy tickets, can watch liao, dun need prepare..etc. Mr. Green

icyprincess SG

hmm, I wun mind. but usually ppl watched movie with some other people so I will end up sitting next to no one...

i.c.y

EricDraven SG

Of course it's not wrong to go to movies alone or shop alone!

That's even better than going with friends...

You will appreciate the movie more, more focused...
You can shop better at your own time, own leisure pace...

In fact, people who can't go to movies alone or shop alone are pathetic...
They can't even do things alone... Are they so scared of spending time alone by themselves? They think they are not entertaining for themselves?

Alone <> Lonely (Does not equal)

huiz SG

i dun mind. i oso prefer to be on my own sometimes. for eg shopping, i can take my time browsing thru & trying on coz i dun make up my mind fast. i will consider this & tat b4 i make a decision. Laughing