Is love supposed to be this painful?

last SG · 2004-12-30T12:44:35+00:00

keke okie i trust my brother's taste *scurry to go request naruto* how many episodes are there anyway? i.c.y

icyprincess SG

is love this painful for everyone?

nobody tells me that it is this painful to love someone...i have only heard about the good side. i have no idea the bad side can be so torturous.

i.c.y

leong_tx SG

well.. everything have it's different point of view...
sometime it seem very bad when u first look at it...
but if think some about it some more it might be different...

mine love relationship is not so gd either but it is not mine gf or mine fault but some other problem that was in our way....

sometime we will quarrel but we get closer n able to understand more after quarrel...

well maybe you can read something like this below

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One day a Professor ask his student Why when ppl quarrel they need to shout ?
One student answered, It is because when one is angry one loss its cool.
Then the professor ask again why shout during a quarrel when the person is beside you ?

No one was able to answer this question. So the Professor explains.

During a quarrel one-person shout is because he/she want the other party to listen and understand. So when two-person quarrel, both party will shout louder to each other because when the other one is begin shouted at feel angrier, while the one who shout feel that the other dont understand.

But when one is in love they start to talk softer and softer because both start to understand each other. And to a point where no talking is needed as both heart is as one

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ditzy SG

You have to taste the bitter then you can savour the sweet. Laughing

Kismet SG

Very Happy

_Aaron_ SG

I like this.. never thought of it this way.

As someone who has never been in love(i think), i can only say...

Without the pain, you cannot fully enjoy the happiness.
When the happiness is gone, the pain and loss surfaces stronger.

Love is a give and take thing. You cannot be happy all the time.

Instead, You're :-

Happy when he's around
Sad when he's away
Moody when you want to talk but he's not there
Disappointed when he forgets your birthday

And so on.

Therefore i believe that Love isn't a single feelings, but a rainbow of feelings mixed into one, with happiness the one 'colour' that everyone is achieving for.~

icyprincess SG

yea, i guess it is not happiness all year round...I know have to compromise and work things out...it is just frustrating when I dunno how to...

i.c.y

subzero_baby SG

hi icy,

no one can promise you good or bad, happy or sad in a relationship... But most of the time we focus on the bad than the good... maybe you can think about the sweet moments you had with him and take a positive approach towards the issues.

I learnt that negative feelings/ thoughts can be felt by your partner even though we try to hide and pretend we are ok. Subconsiously, our feelings/ thoughts are relvealed, your partner might not want to confront you as he might think that he got the wrong signal that's all. he would actually think that if there is a problem you would have already brought it up to talk...

men are from mars, women are from venus.. endless arugementive topic Wink

good luck gal! If you believe in love, don't give up. Taste the "sour, sweet, bitter, spicy" feeling in love. then you got my point.

zacken99 SG

erm... u still beri ziao...

Fuqua SG

i'm a slow learner and maybe a glutton for punishment so at my age, i'm only beginning to understand that I am 100% responsible for my own happiness. Mere words and well-meannig advice no good for u now, u have to reach that point urself. good luck and happy holidays.

icyprincess SG

I think he cud feel it too, cos the last time I was angry wif him he knew it and asked me to talk to him...I wish I can talk to him right now...I dunno wat to do...

i.c.y

Patrik SG

We all fall in love.Cos its the same as falling down,it hurts.

icyprincess SG

Reminds me of the movie I just finished watching, "How To Deal"

cos at one point Mandy Moore said,"Then why do you think they called it falling in love?"

I guess both of you does make a good point.

i.c.y

EricDraven SG

The course of true love never did run smooth.
- William Shakespeare

icyprincess SG

yea, it is bumpy then smooth then bumpy again.

it is just dat i never seem to know whether it is just temporary obstacles or if it is already the end of the ride.

i.c.y

Patrik SG

True Love never runs smooth.-Love Generation

EricDraven SG

If the love you think you felt goes away quickly, then what you felt was never love to begin with.
- Henry Mac

icyprincess SG

Mine doesn't. I have tried. But it wouldn't go away. I am half wishing it would, so I dun have to be in this kinda pain anymore...

Sometimes I wonder if he ever feels this pain too. Or was it just me?

i.c.y

EricDraven SG

What do you do when the only one who can make you stop crying is the one who is making you cry?
- Unknown

There is no difference between a wise man and a fool when they fall in love.
- Unknown

Princess, everyone can give you advice but love is such a mysterious thing that you have to venture and know for yourself...

I can only wish you luck and happiness... Wink

I wish I had the guts to walk away & forget about what we had, but I can't because I know you won't come after me & that's what hurts the most.
- Unknown

icyprincess SG

I guess I am showing that I am just a naive and silly little girl huh?

i.c.y

EricDraven SG

Nope, that's normal behaviour really... Love is such... Throws all logic out of the window...