Set your priorities as a couple. What is truly important to each
of you?
Discuss how you both feel about home cooked meals versus quick
meals or eating out now and then.
Sit down together and make a list of the chores that each of you
absolutely hates to do.
What one hates, the other may be able to tolerate.
It is important, too, to be considerate of one another's body
clocks.
Some folks are morning people and some folks are night owls.
Let one another know what the coming week is going to be
like.
Then decide who is going to do what, make a list, post the list,
and then let it go.
If one of you doesn't follow through on promises to do his/her
share of the work around your home,
try and discover together why there is such reluctance.
Don't nag. Keep lists of chores written and posted if this is an
issue in your home.
After a while, the written lists probably won't be necessary.
Be flexible and allow your spouse to accomplish a task in his/her
own way.
If having the towels folded a certain way is super important to
you, then you fold the towels.
If after discussing the situation, your mate absolutely refuses to
share equally in household chores,
and you're tired of carrying the load yourself, then you have some
choices to make.
Bottom line, you can't change your spouse. You can hire some
outside help,
or you can quit doing some tasks that you don't want to do
anymore.
The roof won't fall in just because you don't cook a 3-course meal
every night,
or you don't clean the bathroom on a daily basis.
