The Psychology of
Awakening
Tricycle - John
Welwood
Conventional psychotherapists often look askance at spiritual
practice, just as many spiritual teachers disapprove of
psychotherapy. At the extremes, each camp tends to see the other as
avoiding and denying the real issues.
When
I first encountered Zen in the 1960s, I found myself particularly
drawn to the mysterious satori—that moment of seeing into one’s own
true nature, when all the old blinders were said to fall away. In
such a moment, I imagined, one became an entirely new person, never
to be the same again. I found the prospect of this kind of ultimate
realization compelling enough to turn my life in that
direction.
Yet
along the way I also discovered something I was not prepared for:
that spiritual realization is relatively easy compared with the
much greater difficulty of actualizing it, integrating it fully
into the fabric of one’s daily life. Realization
is the movement
from personality to being, the direct recognition of one’s ultimate
nature, leading toward liberation from the conditioned self,
while actualization
refers to how we
integrate that realization in all the situations of our life. When
people have major spiritual openings, often during periods of
intensive practice or retreat, they may imagine that everything has
changed and that they will never be the same again. Indeed,
spiritual work can open people up profoundly and help them live
free of the compulsions of their conditioning for long stretches of
time. But at some point after the retreat ends, when they encounter
circumstances that trigger their emotional reactivity or their
habitual tensions and defenses, they may find that their spiritual
practice has hardly penetrated their conditioned personality, which
remains mostly intact, generating the same tendencies it always
has.
Of
course, realization has many levels, from temporary experiences to
more stable attainment. Yet even among advanced spiritual
practitioners, certain islands—unexamined complexes of personal and
cultural conditioning, blind spots, or areas of self-deception—may
often remain intact within the pure stream of their realization.
Some would say that these shadow elements are signs of deficiency
in one’s spiritual practice or realization, and this is undoubtedly
true. Yet since they are so common, they also point to the general
difficulty of integrating spiritual awakenings into the entire
fabric of our human embodiment.
In
the traditional cultures of Asia, it was a viable option for a yogi
to pursue spiritual development apart from worldly involvement, or
to live purely as the impersonal universal, without having much of
a personal life or transforming the structures of that life. These
older cultures provided a religious context that honored and
supported spiritual retreat and placed little or no emphasis on
individual concerns. In Asia, yogis and sadhus who had little personal
contact with people could still be venerated by the community at
large.
Many
Westerners have tried to take up this model, pursuing impersonal
realization while neglecting their personal life, but have found in
the end that this was like wearing a suit of clothes that didn’t
quite fit. Taking on the challenges of a fully engaged personal
life—finding right livelihood in a complex materialistic world,
being involved in a committed intimate relationship, dealing with
the social and political concerns facing us at every
turn—inevitably brings up unresolved psychological issues. For this
reason, Western seekers may also need the help of psychological
methods to help them more fully integrate spiritual practice and
realization into their lives.
For
most of my career I have explored what the Eastern contemplative
traditions have to offer Western psychology. Yet more recently I
have also become interested in a different question: How might
Western psychological work serve a sacred purpose, by helping us to
integrate our spiritual insights into our everyday lives? In its
ability to shine light into the hidden nooks and crannies of our
conditioning, psychological inquiry can serve as a powerful ally to
spiritual practice. It can help break up the hard, rocky soil of
our personality patterns so that this soil becomes permeable,
allowing the seeds of spiritual realization to take root and
blossom there more fully. Of course, this kind of psychological
work would require a much larger understanding and aim than
conventional psychotherapy, whose focus is on pathology and cure
rather than transformation.
Psychological and spiritual
work address different levels of human existence. If the domain of
spiritual work is emptiness—unconditioned, universal, absolute
truth—the domain of psychological work is form—our individual,
conditioned ways of experiencing ourselves and the world—or
relative truth. Spiritual practice, especially mysticism, points
toward a timeless trans-human reality, while psychological work
addresses the evolving human realm, with all its issues of personal
meaning and interpersonal relationship.
My
initial interest in psychotherapy developed in the 1960s, at the
same time as my interest in the Eastern spiritual traditions. At
first I imagined that psychotherapy could be the Western version of
a path of liberation. But I quickly found Western psychology too
narrow and limited in its view of human nature. As I became more
involved in Buddhism, I went through a period of aversion to
Western psychology. Now that I had “found the way,” I became
arrogant regarding other paths, as new converts often do. I was
also wary of becoming trapped in endlessly processing emotional
issues. But in my newfound spiritual fervor, I was falling into the
opposite trap—of refusing to face the personal "stuff" at all. In
truth, I was much more comfortable with the impersonal, timeless
reality I discovered through Buddhism than with my personal life.
Compared with the peace and clarity of sitting still and following
the breath while resting in the open space of awareness, my
personal feelings seemed messy and entangling.
Yet
in studying Tantric Buddhism, with its respect for relative truth,
I began to appreciate aspects of Western psychology in a new light.
Once I accepted that psychology could not describe my ultimate
nature, and I no longer required it to provide answers about the
nature of human existence, I realized that it had an important
place in the scheme of things. I also found that my own personal
psychological work helped me approach spiritual practice less
encumbered by unconscious agendas.
It
can be difficult to understand or appreciate why we might need to
resort to psychological work when many Asian spiritual
practitioners have found liberation solely through the profound
teachings and practices of Buddhism for thousands of years. But it
helps to recognize that the highest, nondual Buddhist teachings,
which show that who you really are is absolute reality, presume a
rich underpinning of community, religious customs, and shared moral
values that the West mostly lacks. Modern Western culture is marked
by social isolation, personal alienation, lack of community,
disconnection from nature, and the loss of the sacred at the center
of our lives. And the Western self is riddled with inner
divisions—between self and other, individual and society, mind and
body, spirit and nature, or the guilty ego and the harsh, punishing
superego—that were mostly unknown in the ancient cultures in which
the meditative traditions first arose.
Many
Western children also grow up lacking close, sustained early
bonding with their parents, in contrast to the practice in
traditional cultures, where parents often hold young children
continually and even let them share their bed. Developmental
psychologists argue that children with deficient parenting tend to
hold onto the internalized traces of their parents more rigidly and
develop parental fixations that haunt them in later
life.
Thus
Western children often grow up without the support of what the
psychologist D. W. Winnicott called a good “holding environment"—a
context of love and belonging that contributes to a basic sense of
confidence and to overall healthy psychological development.
Children who grow up in fragmented families, glued to television
sets transmitting images of a spiritually lost, narcissistic world,
lack a meaningful context in which to situate their lives. As a
result, many Westerners suffer from what the psychologist Harry
Guntrip considered to be the emotional plague of modern
civilization: ego weakness, the lack of a grounded sense of oneself
and one’s place in the world that shows up as self-hatred,
insecurity, and self-doubt.
Because their ego structure
serves as a defense against inner fragmentation, many Western
seekers find that they are not willing or able to let go of their
ego defenses, despite all their spiritual practice and realization.
On a deep, subconscious level, it is too threatening to let go of
the little security that their shaky ego structures provide. This
is why it can be helpful for Westerners to work on dismantling the
defensive personality structure in a more gradual and deliberate
way, through psychological inquiry—examining and dissolving false
self-images, distorted projections, and habitual emotional
reactions—and developing a fuller connection with themselves in the
process. In this way, psychological work can serve another
important function for Westerners: helping them to individuate by
clearing up the emotional conflicts that prevent them from finding
an inner core of authenticity.
If
the great gift of the East is its focus on absolute true
nature—impersonal and shared by all alike—the gift of the West is
the impetus it provides to develop an individuated expression of
true nature—which we can also call soul, or personal
presence.
For traditional Asians, soul (defined as the rich, colorful
qualities of our humanness) was thoroughly woven into the warp and
woof of their culture. But in a materialistic culture that has lost
its soul, it becomes more important for people to individuate—to
cultivate individual soul qualities and find an authentic inner
source of personal meaning and purpose not found in the society at
large.
Coming out of traditional
Asian societies, many Eastern spiritual teachers have a hard time
recognizing the developmental challenges facing their Western
students and may not understand their pervasive self-hatred, shame,
and guilt, as well as their alienation and lack of confidence.
These teachers may also fail to detect their students’ tendency to
engage in "spiritual bypassing"—a term I coined to describe the use
of spiritual ideas and practices to shore up a shaky sense of self,
or to belittle basic needs, feelings, and developmental tasks in
the name of enlightenment. And so they often teach
self-transcendence to students who first of all need to find some
ground to stand on.
When
people use spiritual practice to try to compensate for feelings of
alienation and low self-esteem, they corrupt the true nature of
spiritual practice. Instead of loosening the manipulative ego that
tries to control its experience, they strengthen it, and their
spiritual practice remains unintegrated with the rest of their
life.
Using spirituality to make
up for failures of individuation—psychologically separating from
parents, cultivating self-respect, or trusting one’s own
intelligence as a source of guidance—also leads to many of the
so-called "perils of the path": spiritual materialism (using
spirituality to prop up a shaky ego), self-inflation, "us vs. them"
mentality, groupthink, blind faith in charismatic teachers, and
loss of discrimination. Spiritual communities can become a kind of
surrogate family, where the teacher is regarded as the good parent
while the students are striving to be good boys or good
girls—trying to please the teacher-as-parent or driving themselves
to climb the ladder of spiritual success. In this way, spiritual
practice becomes co-opted by unconscious identities and used to
reinforce unconscious defenses.
For
example, people resorting to isolation and withdrawal because the
interpersonal realm feels threatening often use teachings about
detachment and renunciation to rationalize their aloofness,
impersonality, and disengagement when what they really need is to
become more fully embodied, more engaged with themselves, with
others, and with life. People with a dependent personality
structure, who try to gain approval and security by pleasing
others, often perform unstinting service for the teacher or
community in order to feel worthwhile. They confuse a co-dependent
kind of self-negation with true selflessness. And spiritual
involvement is particularly tricky for people who hide behind a
narcissistic defense, because they use spirituality to make
themselves feel special or important while imagining they are
working on liberation from self.
Spiritual bypassing often
adopts a rationale using absolute truth to deny or disparage
relative truth. Absolute truth is what is eternally true, now and
forever, beyond any particular viewpoint or time frame. When we tap
into absolute truth, we can recognize the divine beauty or larger
perfection operating in the whole of reality. From this larger
perspective, the murders on tonight’s news, for instance, do not
diminish this divine perfection, for the absolute encompasses the
whole panorama of life and death, in which suns, galaxies, and
planets are continually being born and dying. However, from a
relative point of view—if you are the wife of a man murdered
tonight—you will probably not be moved by the truth of ultimate
perfection. Instead you will be feeling human grief.
There are two ways of
confusing absolute and relative truth. If you use the murder or
your grief to deny or insult the higher law of the universe, you
would be committing the relativist error. You would be trying to
apply what is true on the horizontal plane of becoming to the
vertical dimension of pure being. The spiritual bypasser makes the
reverse category error, the absolutist error: He draws on absolute
truth to disparage relative truth. His logic might lead to a
conclusion like this: Since everything is ultimately perfect in the
larger cosmic play, grieving the loss of someone you love is a sign
of spiritual weakness.
Since it is the nature of human beings
to live on both the absolute and relative levels, we can never
reduce reality to a single dimension. We are not just this relative
body-mind organism; we are also absolute being/awareness/presence,
which is much larger than our bodily form or personal history. But
we are also not just this larger, formless absolute; we are also
incarnate as particular individuals. If we identify only with form,
our life will remain confined to known, familiar structures. But if
we try to live only as pure emptiness, or absolute being, we may
not engage with our humanity. In absolute terms, the personal self
is not ultimately real; at the relative level, it must be
respected.
A
client of mine who was desperate about her marriage had gone to a
spiritual teacher for advice. He advised her not to be so angry
with her husband but to be a compassionate friend instead. This was
certainly sound spiritual advice. Compassion is a higher truth than
anger; when we rest in the absolute nature of mind, pure open
awareness, we discover compassion as the very core of our nature.
From that perspective, feeling angry about being hurt only
separates us from our true nature.
Yet
the teacher who gave this woman this advice did not consider her
relative situation—that she was someone who had swallowed her anger
all her life. Her father had been abusive and would slap her and
send her to her room whenever she showed any anger about the way he
treated her. She learned to suppress her rage and always tried to
please others by being “a good girl" instead. So when the teacher
advised her to feel compassion rather than anger, she felt relieved
because this fit right in with her defenses. Since anger was
threatening to her, she used the teaching on compassion for
spiritual bypassing—for refusing to deal with her anger or the
message it contained.
As
her therapist, I had to take account of her relative situation and
help her relate to her anger more fully. As a spiritual
practitioner, I was also mindful that anger is ultimately empty, a
wave arising in the ocean of consciousness, without any solidity or
inherent meaning. Yet while that understanding may be true in the
absolute sense, and generally valuable for helping dissolve
attachment to anger, it was not useful for this woman at this time.
Instead, she needed to learn to pay more attention to her anger in
order to move beyond a habitual pattern of self-suppression, to
connect with her inner strength and power, and to relate to her
husband in a more active, assertive way.
How then do we arrive at genuine
compassion? Spiritual bypassing involves imposing on oneself higher
truths that lie far beyond one’s immediate existential condition.
My client’s attempts at compassion were not entirely genuine
because they were based on denying her own anger. Spiritual
teachers often exhort us to be loving and compassionate, or to give
up selfishness and aggression, but how can we do this if our
habitual tendencies arise out of a whole system of psychological
dynamics that we have never clearly seen or faced, much less worked
with? People often have to acknowledge and come to terms with their
anger before they can arrive at genuine forgiveness or compassion.
That is relative truth.
Psychological inquiry starts
here, with relative truth, with whatever we are experiencing right
now. It involves opening to that experience and exploring its
meaning, letting it unfold without judgment. As a therapist, I find
that allowing whatever arises to be there as it is and gently
inquiring into it leads naturally in the direction of deeper truth.
This is what I call psychological work in the service of spiritual
development.
Many
people who seek out my services have done spiritual practice for
many years. I have often been struck by the huge gap between the
sophistication of their spiritual practice and the level of their
personal development. Some of them have spent years doing what were
once considered the most advanced, esoteric practices, reserved
only for the select few in traditional Asia, without developing the
most rudimentary forms of self-love or interpersonal sensitivity.
One woman who had undergone the rigors of a Tibetan-style
three-year retreat had little ability to love herself. The rigorous
training she had been through only seemed to reinforce an inner
discontent that drove her to pursue high spiritual ideals without
showing any kindness toward herself or her own
limitations.
In
addition to spiritual bypassing, another major problem for Western
seekers is their susceptibility to the "spiritual superego," a
harsh inner voice that acts as relentless critic and judge telling
them that nothing they do is ever quite good enough: "You should
meditate more and practice harder. You’re too self-centered. You
don’t have enough devotion." This critical voice keeps track of
every failure to practice or live up to the teachings, so that
practice becomes more oriented toward propitiating a judgmental
part of themselves than opening to life unconditionally. They may
subtly regard the saints and enlightened ones as father figures who
are keeping a critical eye on all the ways they are failing to live
up to their commitments. So they strive to be "Dharmically
correct," attempting to be more detached, compassionate, or devoted
than they really are, while secretly hating themselves for failing
to do so, thus rendering their spirituality cold and solemn. Their
self-hatred was not created by the spiritual teaching; it already
existed. But by pursuing spirituality in a way that widens the gap
between how they are and how they think they should be, they wind
up turning exquisite spiritual teachings on compassion and
awakening into fuel for self-hatred and inner bondage.
This raises the question of how much we
can benefit from a spiritual teaching as a set of ideals, no matter
how noble those ideals are. Often the striving after a spiritual
ideal only serves to reinforce the critical superego—that inner
voice that tells us we are never good enough, never honest enough,
never loving enough. In a culture permeated by guilt and ambition,
where people are desperately trying to rise above their shaky
earthly foundation, the spiritual superego exerts a pervasive
unconscious influence that calls for special attention and work.
This requires an understanding of psychological dynamics that
traditional spiritual teachings and teachers often lack.
Paul, a therapy client of
mine, had been a dedicated Buddhist practitioner for more than two
decades. A husband, father, and successful businessman, he had
recently been promoted to a position that involved public speaking.
After a few experiences in front of large audiences, he started
feeling overwhelmed by anxiety, worry, tension, and sleeplessness.
At first, he tried to deal with his distress by meditating more.
While this would help him regain some equilibrium, the same
symptoms would recur when he next faced an audience. After a few
months of this, he gave me a call.
From
the Buddhist teachings, Paul knew the importance of not being
attached to praise and blame, two of the eight worldly concerns,
along with loss and gain, pleasure and pain, success and failure,
that keep us chained to the wheel of suffering. Yet it was not
until his fear of public speaking brought up intense anxiety about
praise and blame that he realized just how concerned he was about
how people saw him.
As
our work progressed, he realized that he used detachment as a
defense, to deny an underlying fear about how other people saw him.
He had developed this defense to cope with not feeling seen by his
parents. His mother had lived in a state of permanent tension and
anxiety. Regarding him as her potential savior rather than a
separate being with feelings apart from her, she led him to feel
responsible for her happiness. To shield himself from her
intrusiveness, Paul had adopted a defensive stance of not feeling
his need for her, and by extension, for other people. Having tried
all his life not to care about how people regarded him, he was
particularly attracted to the Buddhist teachings of no-self when he
first encountered them. After all, in the light of absolute truth
there is nobody to be seen, nobody to be praised, nobody to be
blamed, and Paul found great comfort in this. Yet on the relative
level, Paul carried within him a frustrated need to be seen and
loved. In denying this need through “spiritual work,” Paul was
practicing defensiveness, not true nonattachment.
Paul
was doubly trapped. As long as he could not acknowledge the part of
him that felt, "Yes, I want to be seen and appreciated," his
frustrated need for love kept him tied in knots, secretly on the
lookout for others’ praise and confirmation. And his inability to
say, "No, I do not exist to make you happy," kept him susceptible
to potential blame whenever he failed to please others.
Yes and no
are expressions of desire and aggression—two life energies that
philosophers, saints, and psychologists, from Plato and Buddha to
Freud, have considered particularly problematic. Unfortunately,
many spiritual teachers simply criticize passion and aggression
instead of teaching people to unlock the potential intelligence
hidden within them.
The
intelligent impulse contained in the yes of desire is the longing
to expand, to connect more fully with life. The intelligence
contained in no is the capacity to discriminate, differentiate, and
protect oneself and others from harmful forces. The energy of the
genuine, powerful no can be a doorway to strength and power,
allowing us to separate from aspects of our conditioning we need to
outgrow. Our capacity to express the basic power of yes and no
often becomes damaged in childhood. And this incapacity becomes
installed in our psychological makeup as a tendency to oscillate
between compliance and defiance, as Paul exemplified in his
attitude toward others, secretly feeling compelled to please them,
yet secretly hating them for this at the same time.
As
long as Paul failed to address his unconscious dynamic of
compliance and defiance, his spiritual practice could not help him
stabilize genuine equanimity, free from anxiety about praise and
blame. Although he could often experience equanimity during periods
of solitary spiritual practice, these realizations remained
compartmentalized and failed to carry over into his interpersonal
relationships.
Before Paul could find and
express his genuine yes—to himself, to others, to life—he had to
say no to the internalized mother whose influence remained alive
within him: "No, I don’t exist to make you happy, to be your
savior, to give your life meaning." But it was not easy for him to
acknowledge his anger toward his mother for making him the object
of her narcissistic needs. Quoting spiritual doctrine, Paul
believed it was wrong to hate. Yet in never letting himself feel
the hatred he held in his body, he wound up expressing it in
covert, self-sabotaging ways. I did not try to push past his inner
taboo against this feeling but only invited him to acknowledge his
hatred when it was apparent in his speech or demeanor. When Paul
could finally let himself feel his hatred directly, instead of
judging or denying it, he came alive in a whole new way. He sat up
straight and broke into laughter, the laughter of an awakening
vitality and power.
A
second defining moment came when Paul finally acknowledged his need
to be loved for who he was, which triggered a surge of energy that
filled his whole body. Yet this was also scary, for it felt as
though he were becoming inflated. And for Paul, with his refined
Buddhist sensibilities, self-inflation was the greatest sin of
all—a symptom of a bloated ego, the way of the narcissist who is
full of himself.
Seeing his resistance, I
encouraged him to explore, if only for a few moments, what it would
be like to let himself become inflated, to feel full of himself,
and to stay present with that experience. As he let himself fill
up, he experienced himself as large, rich, and radiant. He felt
like a sun king, receiving energy from the gods above and below,
radiating light in all directions. He realized that he had always
wanted to feel this way, but had never allowed himself to expand
like this before! Yet now he was letting himself be infused by the
fullness that had been missing in his life—the fullness of his own
being. To his surprise, he found it a tremendous relief and release
to allow this expansion at last.
As
Paul got over his surprise, he laughed and said: "Who would have
thought that letting myself become inflated could be so
liberating?" Of course, he wasn’t acting out a state of ego
inflation, but rather feeling what it was like to let the energy of
desire, fullness, and spontaneous self-valuing flow through his
body. In this moment of according himself the recognition he had
secretly sought from others, he did not care about how others saw
him. Nor was there any desire to lord his newfound strength over
anyone.
Many
spiritual seekers who suffer, like Paul, from a deflated sense of
self, take spiritual teachings about selflessness to mean that they
should keep a lid on themselves and not let themselves shine. Yet
instead of overzealously guarding against ego inflation, Paul
needed to let his genie out of the bottle before he could
distinguish between genuine expressions of being such as power,
joy, or celebration, and ego distortions like grandiosity and
conceit.
As typically happens in many spiritual
communities, Paul had used spiritual practice as a way of trying to
deny certain basic human needs. Yet trying to leap directly from
rejecting his need for love to a state of needlessness was only
spiritual bypassing—using spiritual teachings to reinforce a
subconscious defense. When he could finally acknowledge his need,
he found that it contained within it a genuine, powerful yes to
life and love that diminished his fixation on outer praise and
blame.
Although Paul’s spiritual
practice had helped loosen his identification with a fixed
self-concept—what I call the conscious
identity—it
had not helped him fully address his lingering sense of inadequacy
and unworthiness stemming from childhood—an even more
problematic subconscious
identity.
It is often hard to dislodge or transform this kind of subconscious
identity, which has its roots in interpersonal dynamics, through
meditation practice alone, which is mostly a solitary activity. Our
work together, with its relational focus, brought Paul’s
underground sense of deficiency to light so that he could work with
it directly. This also had a clarifying effect on his spiritual
practice, helping him make an important distinction between
absolute emptiness—the ultimate reality beyond self—and relative,
psychological emptiness—his sense of being lacking or deficient.
Because he had previously conflated these two types of emptiness,
his spiritual practice had in some ways served to reinforce his old
sense of inadequacy.
Paul’s psychological
conflicts also cut off his access to deeper capacities such as
strength, confidence, and the ability to connect with others in a
genuinely open way. These intrinsic human capacities—traditionally
described as “the qualities of a Buddha”—can be seen as
differentiated expressions of true nature. If realizing pure,
undifferentiated being is the path of liberation, then embodying a
full spectrum of these differentiated qualities of being is the
path of individuation in its deepest sense: the unfolding of our
deepest human resources and imperatives, which exist as seed
potentials within us, but which are often blocked by psychological
conflicts.
This
understanding of individuation goes far beyond the secular,
humanistic ideal of developing one’s uniqueness, being an
innovator, or living out one’s dreams. Instead, it involves forging
a vessel—our capacity for personal presence, nourished by its
rootedness in deeper human qualities—through which we can bring
absolute true nature into form—the "form" of our person.
By person I do not mean some fixed
structure or entity, but the way in which true nature can manifest
and express itself in a uniquely personal way, as the ineffable
suchness or "youness" of you. Since individuation involves
clarifying the psychological dynamics that obscure our capacity to
shine through, it is not opposed to spiritual realization. Instead,
it involves becoming a more transparent vessel—an authentic person
who can bring through what is beyond the person in a uniquely
personal way.
Working in this way to clear
up old emotional conflicts can help us develop a richer quality of
personal presence and begin to embody our true nature in an
individuated way. Our individuated nature can then become a window
opening onto all that is beyond and greater than
ourselves.
While spiritual traditions
generally explain the cause of suffering in general terms as the
result of ignorance, faulty perception, or disconnection from our
true nature, Western psychology provides a more specific
developmental understanding. It shows how suffering stems from
childhood conditioning; in particular, from static and distorted
images of self and other that we carry with us in the baggage of
our past. And it reveals these painful, distorting identities as
relational—formed in and through our relationships with
others.
Spiritual traditions that do
not recognize the way in which ego identity forms out of
interpersonal relationships are unable to address these
interpersonal structures directly. Instead, they offer
practices—prayer, meditation, mantra, service, devotion to God or
guru—that shift the attention to the universal ground of being in
which the individual psyche moves, like a wave on the ocean. Thus
it becomes possible to enter luminous states of trans-personal
awakening, beyond personal conflicts and limitations, without
having to address or work through specific psychological issues and
conflicts. This kind of realization can certainly provide access to
greater wisdom and compassion, but it often does not touch or alter
impaired ego structures which, because they influence our everyday
functioning, prevent us from fully integrating this realization
into the fabric of our lives. Thus, as Sri Aurobindo put it,
“Realization by itself does not necessarily transform the being as
a whole. One may have some light of realization at the spiritual
summit of consciousness but the parts below remain what they
were.”
We
in the West have been exposed to the most profound nondual
teachings and practices of the East for only a few short decades.
Now a deeper level of dialogue between East and West is called for
in order to develop greater understanding about the relationship
between the impersonal absolute and the human, personal dimension.
Indeed, expressing absolute true nature in a thoroughly personal,
human form may be one of the most important evolutionary potentials
of the cross-fertilization of Eastern contemplative traditions and
Western psychological understanding. Bringing these two approaches
into deeper dialogue may help us discover how to transform our
personality in a more complete way—developing it into an instrument
of higher purposes—thus redeeming the whole personal realm, instead
of just seeking liberation from it.
Buddhism has always grown
through incorporating methods and understandings indigenous to the
cultures to which it spread. If psychotherapy is our modern way of
dealing with the psyche and its demons (analogous to the early
Tibetan shamanic practices that Vajrayana Buddhism integrated into
its larger framework), then the meditative traditions may find a
firmer footing in our culture through relating to Western
psychology more fully.
For
psychological and spiritual work to be mutually supportive allies
in the liberation and embodiment of the human spirit, we need to
re-envision both paths for our time, so that psychological work can
serve spiritual development, while spiritual work can take into
account psychological development. These two traditions would then
come together as convergent streams, furthering humanity’s
evolution toward realizing its true nature—as belonging to the
universal mystery that surrounds and inhabits all things—and
embodying this larger nature as human presence in the world, thus
serving as a crucial link between heaven and earth.