Let me relate this true true story to everbody here about
holding/cannot hold joss sticks.
My aunt died. She was converted by her daughter. So, the wake
dont hv any joss stick, only song and prayer.
My uncle, his sister, was a toaist, he loved his sister so much,
cried and forgot he brought the joss stick.
The daughter asked her uncle, my uncle too, to offer the joss
stick outside away from the tend. My uncle was so sad with this
act.
Then a sudden gust of wind toppled the table and threatening
lift up the tent.
After quickly offering the joss stick with some fruits and food
at one quiet corner of the floor , the wind suddenly gone and
become peaceful.
I am sadden by their children act too. But we cannot do much and
cannot meddle their family affairs.
I will slap that daughter.