I'm sorry for the repeat post but.. did anyone take notice of
this at all
Maybe we should ban (the clone's) IP address.
Its not being mean or cruel, its good for the person so that
won't create more bad karma for themself. No point keep criticising
clone when they don't seem to want to change, after being given
many chances, and always saying sorry in the end but still do it
again.
The only way to help this person might be just to permanently
ban his IP address, so the habit lessens down
To the clone: Pls dun get angry with me. I'm sincerely, really
trying to help you. I see that you cannot cut down on the habit
yourself.
Leave him/ her be, I used to be annoyed, but now he amuses
me.
Anyway, let him/her be here, it will do him good,
eventually:-
孟母三遷
Legend says that the name of Mencius' mother was Chang-shih and
that she changed her residence three times on account of her
concern for Mencius.
The traditional Chinese four-character idiom (孟母三迁) refers to the
legend that Mencius' mother moved their house three times - from
beside a cemetery to beside a marketplace (other versions of the
story said the move was to a house beside an abattoir), to finally
beside a school - before finding a location that she felt was
suitable for his upbringing. As an expression, the idiom refers to
the importance of a proper environment for the proper upbringing of
children.
At first they lived near a cemetery, and the young Mencius amused
himself with acting the various scenes which he witnessed at the
tombs. "This", said his mother, " is no place for my son;"—and she
moved to a house in the market-place. But the change was no
improvement. The boy took to playing the part of a salesman,
boasting about his wares, and exchanging light chaff and banter
with customers.
His mother sought a new house, and found one at last close by a
public school. There her child's attention was caught by the
various exercises in correct manners by which the scholars were
taught, and he endeavored to imitate them. The mother was
satisfied. "This," she said, "is the proper place for my
son."
Another story of this period tells of a pig-butcher's shop near
their house. One day Mencius asked his mother what they were
killing the pigs for, and was told that it was to feed him. Her
conscience immediately reproved her for the answer for she had not
been able to afford pork. She said to herself, "While I was
carrying this boy in my womb, I would not sit down if the mat was
not placed square, and I ate no meat which was not cut
properly—thus I taught him before he was born. And now when his
intelligence is opening, I am deceiving him: this is to teach him
untruthfulness!" With this she went and bought a piece of pork in
order to validate her words.
When Mencius returned home one day from school, his mother looked
up from the web which she was weaving, and asked him how had got
on. He answered her idly that he was doing well enough. On
this, she took a knife and cut through the thread of her shuttle.
The idler was alarmed, and asked what she meant. She gave him a
long lecture, showing that she had done what he was doing—that her
cutting through her thread was like his neglecting his learning.
The admonition, it is said, had its proper effect; the lecture did
not need to be repeated.
There are two other narratives concerning Chang-shih later in
Mencius's life.
His wife was squatting down one day in her own room, when Mencius
went in. He was so much offended at finding her in that position,
that he told his mother, and expressed his intention to put her
away, because of "her want of propriety."
"It is you who have no propriety," said his mother, "and not your
wife. Do not The Rules of Propriety say, "When you are about to
ascend a hall, raise your voice; when you enter a door, keep your
eyes low?" The reason for the rules is that people may not be taken
unprepared. But you entered the door of your private apartment
without raising your voice, and so caused your wife to be caught
squatting on the ground. The impropriety is with you and not with
her." On this Mencius rebuked himself, and did not put away his
wife.
One day, when he was living with his mother in Ch'i, she was struck
with the sorrowfulness of his aspect as he stood leaning against a
pillar, and asked him the cause of it. He replied, "I have heard
that the superior man occupies the place for which he is adapted,
accepting no reward to which he does not feel entitled, and not
covetous of honor and emolument. Now my doctrines are not practiced
in Ch'i—I wish to leave it, but I think of your old age, and am
anxious."
His mother said, "It does not belong to a woman to determine
anything of herself, but she is subject to the rule of the three
obediences. When young, she has to obey her parents; when married,
she has to obey her husband; when a widow, she has to obey her son.
You are a man in your full maturity, and I am old. Act as your
understanding of righteousness tells you, and I will act according
to the rule that applies to me. Why should you be anxious about
me?"
Legge concludes "Such are the accounts which I have found of the
mother of Mencius. Possibly some of them are inventions, but they
are devoutly believed by the people of China—and it must be to
their profit. We may well believe that she was a woman of very
superior character, and that her son's subsequent distinction was
in a great decree owing to her influence and
training".
