Fourth, was there
any enjoyment in the Buddha's life?
We all hope that we can enjoy life a little bit more. Even coming
to this Dharma talk, we want to have a good seat where we can sit
comfortably, or hope that the room is air-conditioned and the floor
is carpeted, and the list goes on. This is enjoyment for our daily
living. People pursue fame and wealth to improve their living
condition, so that they can enjoy life a little bit more. In
actuality, fame and wealth can bring forth its own set of problems.
Is that enjoyment? Not necessarily so. The enjoyment of our senses
is very limited. The eyes crave to see pleasing sights, the ears
crave to hear delightful sounds, and the body craves the feel of
soft and luxurious clothes. But when these sensations pass, we soon
feel empty and lonely again. This is no different from when a party
ends, dirty dishes and trash are left behind. The price to pay for
worldly fame and wealth is just enormous. When we are controlled by
the external environment, we cannot find inner peace. If we are not
affected by what we see and hear, then there is nothing to bind us.
The Dharma joy within ourselves will begin to flow; this will bring
us lasting enjoyment.
Among the Buddha's disciples was the former Prince Bhadrika. Once,
while he was doing sitting meditation with the other bhiksus, he
suddenly called out, "This is happiness, happiness!" As it turned
out, the Buddha passed by, so he asked, "Someone just yelled out
happiness. What is the happiness? Why did he scream happiness?"
Bhadrika replied, "In the past when I was still living in the
palace, I was constantly surrounded by guards, yet I was afraid
that others would harm and assassinate me. In the palace, the food
is of the best quality and the bed is very comfortable, yet I did
not enjoy the food and my sleep was not sound. Now that I have
renounced the secular life, I can cultivate in the remote hills and
woods. Now that I feel free, I am not afraid of anything. I find
the simple vegetables and carrots that I get from the alms round
extremely tasty. When I sit here to meditate, I just feel cleansed
and without any worries. I enjoy the path of cultivation so much
that I cannot control myself and must cry out with elation!" Is
this not another form of enjoyment?
What is the happiness that the Buddha enjoys? It is the happiness
of nirvana. The happiness of nirvana has four special
characteristics: eternity, bliss, true nature, and purity. His
happiness was to feel the duration of life, to feel the natural joy
of life; to feel the existence of life, and to feel the simplicity
of life. Now, a lot of people are so busy that they have forgotten
about themselves. When they have lost touch with themselves, they
have also lost touch with happiness.
Serene happiness is a characteristic of nirvana. If we understand
Buddhism, we would know that we can easily find serene happiness in
our daily lives as well. We always say, "Helping others is a source
of happiness," "To be content is to be happy," and "With patience,
comes peace." We can enjoy happiness in contentment. We can even
find happiness when we are truly remorseful. We can also find
happiness when we are respectful of others, when we have faith, and
when we remain calm and peaceful. We should not try to find
happiness from our senses; the source of happiness lies within our
hearts. When we find ourselves, our own hearts, then we will find
happiness. There is happiness in reciting the Buddha's name, in
meditation, and in paying respect to the Buddha. Sometime, when you
do sitting meditation, you will discover that all your thoughts are
calm and not a desire is in sight; you want to stay in this
peaceful Dharma joy forever. Is this not happiness? Or, we can be
proactive in aiding those in need and helping to repair roads and
bridges, then we can also enjoy happiness. When we build good
causal relationships with others, we will find support from all
sides and we will be naturally happy.
Buddhism of the past had a tendency to equate cultivation with
asceticism. Actually, this is quite misleading. Buddhism is a
religion of happiness; it does not dictate suffering to its
devotees. When it talks about "suffering," it is telling us that
suffering abounds in life and that it is a phase that we have to go
through to reach happiness. A butterfly has to come out of its
cocoon before it can fly. A tree trunk has to be sawed before it
can be of any use. In Buddhism, we have to cross the sea of
suffering before we can reach liberation. When others reprimand us,
criticize us, or even slander us, we should not get angry but
should thank others for giving us the opportunity to clear some bad
karma from the past. When others defraud us of our hard-earned
money, in the absence of an understanding of the Dharma, we would
become very frustrated; however, if we practice the Dharma, we will
look at the situation as a way to pay off some old debt. Being
without debt and without worries, is this not a cause for
happiness? In this way, we can even find happiness under
adversities. Like the Buddha, we would be able to enjoy the serene
happiness of nirvana.
In this world, we are happy when good things happen. When we have
the Dharma, we will be able to handle misfortunes and
disappointments with equal ease. As in the saying, "When the mind
is pure, the land is pure," we can use our pure and calm mind to
transform the world. Grief is bodhi, and affliction is happiness.
If your mom and dad are very strict, you need not be distressed.
You should think to yourself, "It is good that my parents are stern
with me; they help me stay away from trouble." With every situation
in this world, as long as we can change our perspectives, we will
find happiness always!
Let me share with you a secret that few of you know. For many years
now, unless I am dining with guests, I always eat my dinner
standing up. Usually there is not a chair in my living quarters, so
I just eat my meals standing up. I doubt if any of you knew. I lead
a very simple life, and I do not enjoy my meals any less.
The life of the Buddha might have been very simple and fraught with
hardships, but in the vast wisdom of the Buddha, he always enjoyed
the wondrous wisdom of nirvana.
Fifth, did the Buddha have affection?
Do you think that the Buddha had affection? We Buddhists like to
deify the Buddha and claim that the Buddha was different from other
human beings. Because affection can be tainted and can bring us
afflictions, we prefer to think that the Buddha did not have
affection. No, this is not so. The Buddha was rich in affection!
The Buddha's affection, however, was to love all sentient beings
equally. The Buddha's affection was the kindness and compassion
that was described in the saying, "Great kindness without
conditions, great compassion as we all are one." A step above love
is kindness and compassion, and above kindness and compassion is
"Great kindness without conditions; great compassion as we all are
one." It is difficult for us to understand the love and affection
of the Buddha.
What is meant by "great kindness without conditions"? If we examine
our kindness, we will notice that our kindness is limited. We are
kind toward those we have a relationship: you are my neighbor, my
classmate, my colleague, or my relative. This type of kindness is
conditional. The kindness of the Buddha is to give happiness to all
without conditions. When we can help a total stranger that we have
never met in our entire life, when we can help just because the
person needs our help, and when we can help without any strings
attached, then we are practicing "great kindness without
conditions."
What is meant by "great compassion as we all are one"? It means
that I feel your pain as if it is my pain, and I want to relieve
your pain as much as I want to relieve my own pain. Often our
compassion is limited to giving once or twice, and we get tired if
we are called upon time and time again. The Buddha's compassion and
kindness is not like this at all. Let me illustrate the point with
this example. Suppose my hand has an infected wound with a
repulsive stench. Because the hand is part of my body, I will take
very good care of it. I will not get tired of it, but will instead
clean up the infection and dress the wound. When we can treat all
sentient beings with the thought, "We are all related; he is like
part of my limb," then we have the compassion to treat others like
ourselves. This is "great compassion as we all are one." To
practice "great kindness without conditions, great compassion as we
all are one," we should do a little role reversal. If we can put
ourselves in their shoes and project ourselves into their
situation, then the spirit to practice "great kindness without
conditions, great compassion as we all are one" will begin to bloom
within us.
Let me give you another example. Does any of you ever have
athlete's foot? Although athlete's foot can give off a really
offensive smell, some people still like to give it a good scratch
and may even put their fingers to the nose afterwards. Why? This is
because the foot, though smelly, is one's own foot and in which
case even the stench may seem pleasant. Thus, if we can treat all
sentient beings as ourselves, how can there be any
complaints?
The Buddha went to the Trayastrimsas Heaven to preach the Dharma to
his mother, and he was the pallbearer at his father's funeral. Do
you think the Buddha was sentimental? While I was writing The Story
of Sakyamuni Buddha, I was most impressed by the way the Buddha
showed his sentiments—purely, immaculately, and without leaving
behind a trace.
The second year after the Buddha attained his enlightenment, he
returned home to preach to his father and brothers. Princess
Yasodhara, the Buddha's wife before he renounced his household
life, waited impatiently to see the Buddha. What took him so long?
After a prolonged wait, the Buddha finally arrived. Princess
Yasodhara thought to herself, "When I see him, I really have to
give him a good piece of my mind for being such an ungrateful and
heartless person." When she finally saw the Buddha, she was moved
by the compassionate and majestic aura of the Buddha and
immediately fell to her knees. When I reached this point in my
writing of this book, I wondered to myself: What should the Buddha
do? At this time, the Buddha was a completely enlightened
individual; he was then not an ordinary person and was no longer
the husband of Princess Yasodhara. What was the Buddha to say to
Princess Yasodhara? The great Buddha was most remarkable. He looked
at Princess Yasodhara and said to her, "Yasodhara, I apologize to
you, but you should be happy for me. I live up to my responsibility
to all sentient beings. I have attained Buddhahood; I am now the
Buddha." With these words, the Buddha managed to put Yasodhara at
ease, yet conveyed the standpoint of the fully enlightened one. For
most of us, although we may have the aspiration to cultivate, it is
difficult for us to achieve perfection in both compassion and
wisdom.
As I had not seen my mother for a few decades, I really hoped I
could reunite with her in Japan. When the opportunity finally came,
I waited for her arrival at the airport in Japan. When I spotted
her at a distance, I wondered, "Is that really mother?" As she drew
close, the emotions of reuniting with her son after so many years
finally hit home, and tears began to well up in her eyes. So I said
to her, "Do not cry here. Come with me!" I could almost see her
trying to pull her tears back into her eyes. My intention was this:
Before we cry, we should at least consider where we are. No matter
what kinds of emotions and sentiments we experience, we should not
be consumed by them. We need to manage our emotions and sentiments
so that they will not become out of control.
The Buddha is rich in affection. He served his sick disciples tea
and water; he threaded needles to help his older disciples to mend
their clothing. This pure affection is what is meant by
"compassion" in Buddhism.