Be gentle.
As a zen-ish yogi, this is what I learned from my teacher, whose
name he does not bother, and whom I refer as a way to address
anything from a cat to a bowl of porridge to my most revered
teacher.
Sometimes reading nice discussions like this make me fall back
to basics. What basics? The basic truth of human inner goodness. I
have to push myself a little to ask this: will you, anyone, whether
angry or happy, wish harm upon ....
... a little kitten?
.... a little newborn?
or raindrops that fall on your window pane creating a nice
melody of sounds?
YET!
Towards fellow human beings, especially those who live immensely
close and share strong hate and love with us, sometimes death we
wish upon them. Evil is fuel. Good is fuel. The Buddha taught only
to Abandon Evil, Do Good, Purify the Mind. Purifying the mind, i
guess, i am not too sure, i have not so much experience, simply
refers to a stage when... having seen that evil is well.. heck..
indeed evil, and that good is.. wow, great, but only this much, the
next time we see the duckhead who somehow or rather, makes us
angry... i imagine there are two approaches or more.
The first one, is we imagine them to be ikan bilis, put them
into our mouths, crunch crunch crunch. The second, we imagine
ourselves to be ikan bilis, they want to crunch us, we put up a
struggle, then somehow or rather, words won't win the argument, but
experience does.
If love do not separate us, and hate cannot, maybe yeah,
forgiveness might.
Go mind your own business! Shoo!
Crunch cunrch...