practising metta

Rooney9 SG

I been meditating on metta for while everyday, but when I get angry, feelings of ill will, anger, frustrations arose and I am aware of it.

when you are meditating on metta, its easier because you are basically focusing on your breathe and metta. but once you are in office or at home, you are afflicted by the turmoil of office politics etc etc.

Rooney9 SG

when people are rude, backstab behind your back, or scolding you for something you dun think you deserve, I tend to feel pissed and will be moody and angry over the whole day. its difficult to wish these people really.

anyone facing same problem or scenario as me?

Isis SG

If you practice metta meditation to a certain level, anger will not arise easily but does not mean it will not arise. One's mind will also have better concentration and gain samadhi - the mind is clearer to discern what is wrong or right.

I faced the same problem at work too but bo bian, need to ignore and work out a solution to deal with it. Sometime, anger and even murderous thought arise the whole day. However, office politics are actually quite common everywhere. I accept it liao.Treat it like cultivating your paramitas of forbearance. It will be good to learn to forgive and forget.

Also remind me of a story, when someone insult the buddha, buddha also not affected. When someone ask Budda why he is not angry. Buddha said if someone gives u a gift, if you don't accept it, you are not accepting the gift. Similary when someome try to hurl insult, you don't have to acknowledge it.

When someone gossip/taichi stuffs, No need to feel frustrated.. If you do more, you will learn more. Gossip are wandering talks. Sometime it is not based on who you are but what they interpreted. As such u should know yourself best.

Cheers

Jiexi2007 SG

Hi Rooney,

Share with you Pema Chodron's talk on "Troublemakers" :
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m7qFi52FX1Q

Difficult situations or people show us where it is that we still have work to do. Others might not be perfect, so are we. We need to learn to put our spiritual practice into daily life. Like what Isis said, it's like cultivating our paramitas. Just be mindful.

I'm also learning.

大家一起加油！

-StarDust- SG

anyone facing same problem or scenario as me?

Many ppl ( countless) have this kind of problem/scenario.

Amitayus48 SG

It is the perception of sight and perception of form from one's Ālaya, the eighth consciousness. Once it has enlightened, the Alaya will manifests as the Endurance in the Realization of the No-birth of Dharmas (無生法忍). The lasting realization of the truth that dharmas in true reality have neither birth nor death as they appear and disappear through causes and conditions.

Three Endurances in the Dharma (三法忍). According to the Sūtra of Infinite Life Buddha (CBETA, T12n0360), these are (1) Endurance in Hearing the Sounds (音響忍), which means acceptance of the Dharma through hearing it; (2) Endurance in Accord (柔順忍), which means agreement with the Dharma through pondering in accord with the truth; and (3) Endurance in the Realization of the No-birth of Dharmas (無生法忍), which is the lasting realization of the truth attained through spiritual training.

SevenEleven SG

When practicing meditation, anger doesn't disappear. However you can become aware of it when it arises. That's when you can decide on how you are going to react to it. Metta or Loving kindness is one way of reducing your anger on your "foe"

I have always feel that our thought is like a 24 frames motion picture. If you put it on high speed, you see a high speed motion picture. If you put it on slow motion, you get to see the interval between the frames. By increasing the length of the interval, the speed becomes slower. This interval is where I get the most peace at heart.