There are things which are not necessarily criminal, but still
cause harm to others. Having affairs is not a crime by law, but
recognised by law to be a good legal basis for divorce.
What is wholesome and unwholesome in various real-life
scenarios is still vague to me, that is why I'm going into
specifics.
I'm asking about examples of misdirected compassion which are
not necessarily criminal in nature, and or may look trivial and
insignificant to most...
And furthermore, the examples you gave suggest more
strongly the nature of the doer being totally
uncompassionate at all, rather than misdirected compassion.
For example, forcing people to do things when they don't
want to or can't do at the moment, by constantly harping,
suggesting in various ways, on the serious cumulative effects
of their karma if they don't change...
That to me is misdirected compassion.
Misdisdirected compassion, has two components, original intent
and course of action:-
Few examples:-
Small boy sees fish in fishtank, see fishfood, says fish is
hungry, proceeds to empty the contents into fishtank.
Proponent argues for pro life, good, abortion, bad,kills life.
Put up protest, escalates to killings abortion doctor!
The lost generation of Australia, forcible schooling Native
Americans, denial to speak native language, customs, forced to
learn the "western ways and gods" as they are godless savages. Bad
in modern context, acceptable,back then, acceptable, maybe
noble.
Democracy and western values(Christianity?) is good, proceeds to
send troops to a sovereign country in a"crusade".
Allah, Creator of the world is good,Islam is good, the rest is
infidels, immoral, decadent. Proceeds to send suicide bombers, in
a"Holy jihad", proceeds to up everybody to bits, being a Muslim is
no immunity either!
Everybody starts with the noblest intentions!
So if a person choose to practise compassion, it should from the
point of selflessness, in chanting and visualisation practice, one
would visualise uponthe breath intake, drawing all the bad karma,
with emanation of rays of good karma to all illuminate and liberate
all sentients beings.