Hi all brothers. Thanks for your kind advises.
I can fully comprehend his family situation, but he just can't
force people around him to help him boost his sales just out of
sympathy towards his wife and daughter. In actual fact, a few
of my relatives, including myself and my father has already
supported his sales buy, and it's one of those higher range like
above $200K cars just to make sure his commission is sufficient to
pay for his wife's medical bill. We weren't exactly satisfied
with the aftersales services provided by him, but we didn't really
complain anything to him, we just sort out the problems
ourselves.
I know he is desperate to make ends meet, given that his wife's
medical bill is mounting, I did told him to recite Guan Yin's name,
but as a free thinker, he thinks I'm a total bonker to suggest
this useless tactic.
Syncopation_music, I agree with you that he should let go his
resentment, but I think it's hard for him to do it, because he
seems very self pitying. He has been telling everybody about
his family problems (ie. his colleagues, his friends, his bosses,
sometimes, even taxi uncles). He's stuck in his own world of
problems, and feels that he has the worst or worst family problem
in the entire universe and whole world owes him his living.
He don't have any medical insurance, because at that time he does
not felt the need. If I'm not wrong, it's too late for him to
buy for his wife and daughter.
Hi Canihelpyou02 and Isis, thanks for your advise. My
father told me that I've helped him enough and he should be left
alone to stand up by himself. I really don't know if I should
do it because he is like my very close brother.
It's really a hard decision.
Hi, I agree with you that public sympathy should not be used in
such a manner by your close cousin; for most of us here would know
it would only help him, at the most, a couple of months. He still
needs to find a long-term solution.
I'm not wise and capable like most of the dharma brothers and
sisters here. So I wish to say I have nothing to offer as a form of
advice.
But I do wish to share something here:
1) Please refer him to interim or long-term financial help
schemes and other relevant counselling services available at CDCs
or family service centres. Call 1800-222-0000 (a one-stop public
help service for referral to all kinds of help schemes and relevant
social help organisations.
2) As a guy with some financial and emotional problems of my
own, I can empathise with your cousin in how he thinks, feels and
responds to his own problems in life. I'm not saying he's right;
I'm just trying to see things from his point of view.
3) I feel happy for your cousin as he has a very caring and
sincere cousin in you. How many of us here can say we treat our
cousins like our close brothers, and not as a matter of lip
service? I for one, don't even know how to care about others, much
less really going to lengths to help others with their problems, to
help them sort out their thoughts...
Please do not give up on him. If you do not know what to do to
help him now on your own, find help or advice from professionals
who can help you to help him.
In the meantime, may I suggest that you continue to do what you
can for his wife and kids. It is another form of help to him. And
it need not be entirely financial in nature, all the time.
Hope you can consider the above suggestions.
May your care and concern for him, together with your daily
cultivation in compassion and wisdom under the Triple Gems, help
him to stand up one day.
When he does, do let us know. At least I want to know how his
family and him are getting on.
Take care, cleopraya. ^_^
