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Slow Down, You Move Too Fast
By: Sakyong Mipham Rinpoche
Speed creates its own power and momentum, which begin to rule us,
says Sakyong Mipham Rinpoche. When we speed around, are we
mastering our life or hanging on for dear life?
A month or two after returning from a trip to Tibet, I ran into
Aaron, a physician who had traveled with me. I asked him how it
felt to be back in the West. He said that he felt as if he were
winding up and getting speedy. I reminded him of our busy schedule
in Tibet. People would arrive to see me early in the morning. There
were ceremonies to conduct. Monks, nomads and family members needed
attentionspiritual, medical and mundane. Yet we were relaxed. We
always had plenty of time. Was it the rural setting, or the absence
of clocks?
Wherever we are, from one day to the next, the Earth is moving at
the same speed. Yet in the modern world, weve convinced ourselves
that the world is moving faster, and that speed is the way to make
our life work. Under the pressure of schedules and commitments, we
think we can accomplish more if we speed through our day.
Speed gives life a frantic quality. It is an anxious state of mind
that keeps us from settling into whatever we are doing. There is
always something more important than what were doing now. Were
double-parked outside a store, trying to find what we need, while
talking to our mother on the cell-phone. Rather than accomplishing
our activity well, we are nullifying it, because we arent really
there for it. That self-generated speed creates its own power and
momentum, which begin to rule us. Its a form of small-mindedness
that blinds us to what life really offersthe opportunity to
develop wisdom and compassion.
The speedy mind is like an internal combustion engine. So much
effort goes into the energy it produces, creating the harmful,
wasteful byproducts of exhaustion and pollution. Even when were
reading a book or watching a movie, the idling mind of speed does
not shut off. With a speedy mind we never enjoy the fruits of our
labor, our love, or our life. We cant relax.
Speed comes from being overly ambitious. We arent content with our
own mind, so we become aggressive in how we conduct our life. In an
effort to match a concept of what success might be, we fill our
calendars and spend the whole day holding on to our to do list.
We chase after appointments, phone calls and meetings with
jealousy, competition, fixation and irritationwhatever it takes to
get us where we think we need to go. When life still wont match
our concept, we get madmad that others are late, or mad that we
are early. We get mad at getting older, mad at getting sick, and
mad at others getting old and sick.
Wisdom tells us that we are meant to enjoy our life and use it in a
meaningful way. A successful life is not determined by the speed
with which we live. If were always flapping our wings, endlessly
trying to get what we need with aggression, we will always be
exhausted. Well never find what were really looking for, which is
our own contentment. Speed only brings us closer to the next
speed-fueled moment.
Parts of my calendar are often filled months and years in advance.
I could feel completely suffocated by the pressure of knowing what
Ill be doing next year on a Thursday at two in the afternoon.
Bouncing from one appointment to another, I could become seduced by
speed, as if doing things faster would make a vacation come sooner.
Ive realized now that if I relax into what Im doing and enjoy it,
I am relieved of monitoring myself, checking off every hour as
though Im engaging in a scientific experiment to see how efficient
I can be. When I dont waste energy by engaging in pressure and
speed, I actually get more done.
Watching champion runners and golfers on television, I see this
principle at work. They often seem to be moving in slow motion, yet
they are running faster than the others, or hitting the ball
farther. Their discipline looks graceful and effortless, because as
masters, they have eliminated unnecessary moves. When theyre asked
what they did to win, they often point to an inner balance and
relaxation that enabled them to perform well, and rarely to a
desperation that drove them to move faster in order to beat someone
else.
Some years ago, it was my good fortune to study in India with His
Holiness Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche. Khyentse Rinpoche was a great
Tibetan meditation master, a teacher of teachers and kings. He was
an incredibly soft-spoken person who radiated power in a gentle
way. He was old and big, and he would often spend his days just
sitting on a bed, his favorite blanket wrapped around his waist,
with his students gathered around. In his presence, it often seemed
as if nothing much was happening. Yet at the end of the day he
would have composed poems, written essays, and taught us dharma.
His accomplishment was effortless and graceful, because it was
fueled by love, not speed.
When we speed around, are we mastering our life or hanging on for
dear life? Mastering our life comes from the ability to be content
with life as it unfolds. The first step is recognizing that we can
be happy and at peace. Wanting to be anywhere but where we are,
doing anything but what were doing, are unnecessary moves that
throw us off balance. We can develop patience, which means not
being so aggressive with our life. We dont have to buy into
speeds game plan. We can slow down. Eating more doesnt
necessarily make the food more delicious. Getting angry over
traffic doesnt make it move faster.
The practice of meditation offers us the opportunity to slow down
for a short time every day. This is how we can begin to step out of
the cycle of speed. In sitting still and focusing our mind, we are
declaring daily that this human life is precious. Taking time to
appreciate it comes from our own determination and wisdom. Through
this discipline, we simplify our life. We regain the space to
appreciate it, having lost nothing but speediness. We learn how to
float aloft, carried by the winds, appreciating what we see in
every direction. We learn to relax.
Great masters accomplish a lot without speed, because they are
running on the clocks of wisdom and compassion. Wisdom dwells in
the moment of endless time, and compassion appreciates that
everlasting moment. For the rest of us, aggression fools us into
feeling that time is running out before our eyes. Lets set the
clock of aggression back, and the clock of wisdom and compassion
forward. We can simplify our lives by canceling our appointment
with anger at seven, with jealousy at noon, with pride at five, and
with regret at ten. Lets wake up and realize that we dont have to
speed. With love as our only appointment, we have all the time in
the world.
Sakyong Mipham Rinpoche, is spiritual director of Shambhala, an
international network of meditation and retreat centers. He is
author of Turning the Mind into an Ally.
Slow Down, You Move Too Fast,
Sakyong Mipham Rinpoche, Shambhala Sun, March 2005.