How to be a kind and gentle?

Isis SG

Eh the topic might sound abit bo liao...

but i could like to hear tips about developing to be a kind and gentle buddhist?
Kind and gentle in words, actions and thought... i think not easy wor..

From what i know, Morality helps to develop one to develop to be kind and gentle.

Personally, im quite a firm person so being gentle isn't my forte.. could like to hear tips on how to develop into one? Laughing

Isis SG

Eh.. just to share my friend who is actually quite a kind and gentle person.. i feel.... her tactics are...

Practise to be kind and gentle with yourself, then towards your parents and sibilings and then to close friends who treat you well. Further extend to the people outside your social circle.. Not to judge too much and accept people as whom they are.

Practise compassionate and patience with people.

Advent_Surge SG

i think it depends on the mood sometimes…

An Eternal Now SG

I think you answered your question very well... hehe

I think our words should be gentle, loving words... that can only come from loving-kindness, compassion, concern for other people.. in this case our words will never hurt them though we still have to be mindful not to use the wrong words unintentionally.

Isis SG

mmm i think not easy... im still quite agressive by nature... i want to tone it down..

erm anymore tips?

neutral_onliner SG

Hi Isis & all,

Maybe u might find this helpful

Loving-Kindness meditation

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