My condolence to you too... I find this book very helpful:
http://www.amazon.com/Death-Fear-Thich-Nhat-Hanh/dp/1573223336.
Can be found in major bookstores like Kinokuniya and also library
(availability: http://vistaweb.nlb.gov.sg -
search 'Thich Nhat Hanh')
Amazon.com
Thich Nhat Hanh always invites us to look deeply, and he does so
once again in No Death, No Fear. Recognizing interconnections, Nhat
Hanh brings us to beginnings, how they depend on endings, and how
they are but temporary manifestations. Everything endures, he says,
but in different forms. And this isn't just a palliative to make us
feel better for a while--Nhat Hanh's philosophy of Interbeing takes
the long view, challenging us to open our eyes to subtle
transformations. He shows how extraordinary things happen when we
are fully present with others and at peace with ourselves, both of
which require openness and deep looking. In his bestselling style
of easy prose, compelling anecdotes, and pragmatic advice, Nhat
Hanh gradually drains the force out of grief and fear, transforming
them into happiness and insightful living. Death doesn't have to be
a roadblock, and in No Death, No Fear Thich Nhat Hanh shows us the
way around. --Brian Bruya --This text refers to an out of print or
unavailable edition of this title.
And it's not just fearing for your own death but also very much
on how to deal with the death of your loved ones.. by realising
their deathless nature.
There's a video by Thich Nhat Hanh that can be viewed online for
free: http://buddha-inside.us/ - go down
to the Thich Naht Hanh video - Birth and Death are Just a Game of
Hide and Seek
