If you're over 35 and still single, are you happy or sad?

last SG · 2009-11-15T20:55:47+00:00

i'm gettin bitter n sad now.over 35. hard 2 find good man

OneWithTheForce SG

As a guy of a certain age, I've become quite aware of certain pressure, and it affects me sometimes.

I know this lady who is hitting 43 soon. Nice lady, average looks and a body of someone her age, still single. She tries hard, always goes to events, sports etc to meet people, but no success. For all the self confidence she has, it gets her down from time to time.

If you're over 35, do you feel that twinge of bitterness or self depression when you see another couple get engaged, or if you see someone you know wiith some hot young guy/girl?

Please, no married good looking guys/girls saying tripe s.h.i.t like- you should be happy with yourself, having another person in your life doesnt matter, etc etc

angel3070 SG

That's sad.

Rooney9 SG

getting married for the sake of it, is a no no. you tend to make decision that you may regret for the rest of your life.

its ok to stay single and lead a happy lifestyle. marry someone who is incompatible or irresponsible is the worst decision ever made by you.

deepak.c SG

Once you hit 30 y.o., it gets harder and harder to get hitched.

Blame it on the unrealistic expectations of Singaporean women.

Once you hit 35 y.o., I think you should make preparations for old age and eventual death alone, knowing that you have left no legacy behind.

Perhaps a life in vain is not a life in disdain.

Rooney9 SG

you can get married even after 30, 40 or 50, as long as you eventually meet the right person.

if you dun, better remain single, than marry for the sake of it. It will be the worst decision you ever made if you rush for it, just because you are getting old.

av98m SG

one of my female friends who is over 35 was telling me about men that sign up with dating agencies. the men in their 20s only want women in their 20s. men in their 30s also want only women in their 20s. men in their 40s also want only women in their 20s. that's why she pretty much gave up on these dating agencies. if you look at the mail order bride industry, its the same thing. ah peks only wanting 18 yr old virgins.

deepak.c SG

Getting married at 40 to 50?

Still can have children?

Yes. We have heard rich USA men in the 70s and 80s still marries under 30s women.

Not having children, what's the point of marriage, might as well cohabit.

deepak.c SG

That's the common thinking amongst men, if they can't get under 30s, they will find Vietnamese or PRC brides.

deepak.c SG

I think these western values only result in more unmarried Singaporean women, they think they have the earning ability, adopts a more liberal lifestyle.

Before they know it, they hit 30s and realised that they can't turn back the clock.

You only have yourself to blame.

Rational expectation is not so rational afterall.

angel3070 SG

30s or 40s is fine with me as long as the personality is compatible.

Rooney9 SG

cannot have children can adopt. heard of IVF? some fertile couple married at age 20-30 plus already decided not to have children.

its ok not to have children, just like its ok to remain single. its their lives, what they want to do with it. they are all kinds of people in this world, each choosing the lifestyle to live, single, married etc. there are also single parent who has never married. so who are you to lecture or say them.

deepak.c SG

cannot have children can adopt. heard of IVF? some fertile couple married at age 20-30 plus already decided not to have children.

When you adopt it's different. It's easier said than done, serious.

You ever try adopting a child, treat it like your own flesh and blood?

Ultimately, at the end of the day, the child is not yours, it doesn't have your genetic material, it's like being an orphanage.

Rooney9 SG

When you adopt it's different. It's easier said than done, serious.

You ever try adopting a child, treat it like your own flesh and blood?

Ultimately, at the end of the day, the child is not yours, it doesn't have your genetic material, it's like being an orphanage.

tell that to the pitts.

wee_ws SG

Hi,

The amount of happiness that you have depends on the amount of freedom that you have in your heart. -- Thich Nhat Hanh

Cheers,
Wen Shih

av98m SG

That's the common thinking amongst men, if they can't get under 30s, they will find Vietnamese or PRC brides.

why are men so like that? why? haiz

deepak.c SG

tell that to the pitts.

When these rich people adopt, they are like doing a social service, help the poor and under privilege of society.

Madonna also adopts lots of African children, but seriously is it her own child?

Why is it that these celebrity couples adopt children from 3rd world countries?

But seriously, these adopted children, are they carrying the parents genetic material?

deepak.c SG

why are men so like that? why? haiz

Like how charlize puts it, "men like SYT".

martial SG

I am a guy in my 20s. I only want women above 30 years ago because most of them are rich they can support me financially

Your female friend rich anot? If rich I want her

av98m SG

I am a guy in my 20s. I only want women above 30 years ago because most of them are rich they can support me financially

Your female friend rich anot? If rich I want her

she hates freeloaders.

SGporkz SG

I am a guy in my 20s. I only want women above 30 years ago because most of them are rich they can support me financially

Your female friend rich anot? If rich I want her

u want her?

more like she want you or not..