Fatum SG I knew this chap for like, what ? ... 8 years already ? ... while I was still back in Canada he "came out" of his closet so to speak ... while we were all a bit surprised life went on as per normal ... sort of ... except that now I'm not 14000 km away, but right here ... it's getting a bit difficult to turn down a gathering of sorts, but I just don't think I'll be comfortable you know ... for sure, I don't mind homos and buggers or those who swings for the other team, just so long as they are safely away from me you know ... *cringes .. you have any friends who "outted" himself ? ... or herself ? ...
Ferret SG If he hasnt hit on u before, its unlikely he's gonna hit on u now... if thats ur worry that is. otherwise, whats there to worry ?
Fatum SG fyi, when I still used to pump irons I had more brokebackers hitting on me than females ! ... >.< ! .... though I know it's unlikely for anyone of either sex to hit on me now .... it just feels weird you know ...
Ferret SG whats weird... ? same person as he/she always is, isnt it ? knowing that he /she has a liking for the same sex doesnt change things and /or friendship... u didnt make friends with him/her based on him/her liking the opposite sex...
Fatum SG well ... maybe it's just me ... I've turned down 2 supper meetings already .... I feel bad doing it, but .... okie ! ... maybe I AM homophobic ....
Kuali Baba SG I have friends who are openly gay, and it's not a problem for me. He never tried to woo you, Fatum, and I don't think coming out of the closet means anything has changed. There's nothing to be afraid of.
Fatum SG ah ...see ! .... that's the problem ... I am a guy ! .... >.< ! it's easier for you ladies to preach ...
ShrodingersCat SG just like its not always possible that a girl might want to hit on you simply cos she is female and you are male.. and you are both heterosexual... and what if a girl you don't like, expresses her feelings towards you? You reject as nicely as possible. .. the same thing goes also just becos your friend is male and you are male, doesn't mean he will go for you. But more importantly, is the question - is the friendship more important to you than his sexual orientation?
OasisBlue SG yea... i don't think TS should avoid gatherings... you may have hurt him unknowingly as a friend... besides... i don't think that he may hit on you even if he's openly gay... If he really does, you can clarify to him...
ShrodingersCat SG i've lived with lesbian friends before. And seriously... like i said, u dont feel attracted to someone JUST becos she's a girl and he aint going to get all turned on by you simply being male.
Fatum SG well ... I am no longer comfortable with him under the new circumstances thank god he's not that close an acquaintance ...
the Bear SG why are you not comfy with it? are you doubting your own heterosexuality? seriously.... i know those who are.. and i don't care.. they're just people to me
MooKu SG You'll never know until you try. Maybe you could go for the first gathering and then decide what to do from there onwards.
Isis SG hmm i'm slightly homophobic becos i have some yin ying of lesbo friends hitting on me when i was young. But as i grew up, i slowly understand that the idea of discriminating people becos of their sexual orientation isn't right. I also have lesbo and gay friends and really.. they are usually nicer people to hang out with. We should respect people for their character, how they treat people and for who they are.. not becos of their sexual orientation. What wrong with being sexually out of the norm ? They don't harm people becos of that.
the Bear SG you're going to love the music video for Temptation by Cradle of Filth in the 2nd to last page of the music vid topic
Fatum SG I don't mind lesbians either, especially when they are making out ... but the thought of two guys making out is just disgusting ....
