discipline children is quite difficult.
Sometimes reason does not work. Some times, children just want to
test the limits. Sometimes the child tantrum is just too much.
However, canning is not always the only solution. I guess I am not
a parent so I cannot say, but watching the Nanny shows taught me a
lot of things.
I can only point out somethings I observe as not correct. I believe
that to discipline kids, both parents need to b e consistent. Both
parents need to support each other and do not interfere or undo the
discipline one parent is trying to enforce. When this happens, kids
know they can play the parents out against each other and cause
conflict. Parents have to be firm but flexible. Because the kids
will push the boundaries and so they will persist till they get
their way unless they realise the parents are not going to give
way. Sometimes, its better to let the child experience the hurt or
make the mistake or fail, than to "protect" them all the time. This
is to help them in life. People live on encouragement - adults and
child alike. For a child to be positive, first the parents need to
be positive influence and set the example. If the example is
broken, then a valid reason is needed to be provided. There are
many lessons I've gleaned from the 2 kids in my house. They are my
brother-in-law kids and being "taken care" by my MIL. Seriously I
saw so many mistakes the old woman makes with her grandkids. I saw
so many mistakes that the parents make that I didn't want to
interfere. I can only hope if I ever have any child, I pray they
will not be like my brother-in-law kids and I really hope they will
not learn all the nasty things from my MIL. I also hope my husband
step up to his role instead of always asking me to give way because
his mommy knows best and let his parent become king and queen of
the whole house which we pay for and these old folks make absurd
demands and treat other people like dirt.
