Poor shinta......there may be more to come you know. Most can
still be salvage.
Dont worry too much about the return of some gifts from your
mother's side, you can still do that returning stuffs on your
actual tea ceremony day.
I think most traditions requires that when the guy goes over to the
gals house to bring the bride home to her mother's place, he still
has to bring some gifts, like maybe a roast pig, some oranges and
some more angbaos.
What you can do, is after the tea ceremony at your mothers, you
return to your husband's home, to bring some of the items that was
not originally returned on the 'guo da li' ceremony back to your
husband's home as 'dowry'. That is traditionally okay. So dont fuss
too much.
I am sorry you werent happy on your ROM. It reads like you got too
many people at the ROM and they were inconsequential people being
'indian chiefs' at your big day?
Well, I hope you are happier at the honeymoon. Why dont you
consider going to the ROM at your honeymoon location and any other
locations you visit with your hub and do your vows again?
I remember long time ago, SBC actors Chen Zhi Chai & Xiang Yun,
after they ROM in Singapore, honeymoon in Vegas USA and did their
vows again at Vegas. They were saying they are going to do it at
every country they visit. So...if they ever think about divorce,
the hassle of divorcing in every country of the world is most
likely make they dont want to divorce liao.
