jetta SG I didn't want kids until I got married. Before I was married, I was married to my job and had the best life a single gal could have. The rest as they say... along came a spider and sat down beside her.... Looking back, I'm glad that I have kids. They have enriched our lives immeasurably. Of course as with everything in life there are ups and downs but so worth it. My kids are in their early teens now which is great because we no longer have to engage babysitters, etc. Other than having to make sure they are good students, etc, life is good.
elindra SG I didn't want to have kids before I'm married And now that I am, I still don't want to have kids and I've been married for almost 3 years (Maybe still honeymoon for us) Maybe my bioclock is not ticking yet
av98m SG 31 Fortune teller also said I'm going to be a cradle robber.................that part I dun mind
tare SG b4 married, i dun want kids... i dun even like them lor... after married, still dun want kids, i still din like them [and i married for almost a decade] and nope i dun think we are still honeymoon... soon i won't be married, i lagi dun want kids.... i think my bioclock is spoilt
jetta SG Some people just don't want to have kids, I respect that. Kids really take alot out of you - financially, physically, emotionally, etc. Also, depending on their temperament, they can break up a marriage too.
elindra SG I dun like kids also lor I think of them as pesky squirmy things and I tend to refer to kids as 'it' The kids I'm ok with are kids over the age of 12
jetta SG For some of us, the honeymoon feeling doesn't really end. I guess I'm one of the lucky ones who still feel that way. Kids or no kids, sometimes we feel like we are a new couple, enjoying togetherness. My kids say we embarass them alot because we still hold hands, hug or kiss each other.
jetta SG Hey, I know some kids who are that way. But you know, your kids will be the best behaved because you will teach them to be wonderful people from day one.
av98m SG whatever you do, just make sure you lock the door. if they ever walk in on you you could end up paying for their lifetime therapy
elindra SG That is what I can't say I can do unless I quit my job There is no one to look after my kid if I have one seriously My mum is out of the question coz of her work and she does have to travel quite a bit My dad is busy with his social work stuff My mother-in-law ..... she can barely speak English. I don't want my kid only knowing how to speak tamil There is no one else besides me unless my boss allows me to bring my kid to the office Quitting my job is not a solution too coz that only means we have a big hole in monthly household income
tare SG tat is just sooooo sweet lor.... i wish i can do tat ... someday somehow someone?! i tried to get my parents to hug while taking photo once.... they embarassed me by making faces at each other, bickering under a huge heart made of flowers *piak forehead*
jetta SG Bwahahaha!!!! We've trained the kids from very young to sleep through anything. We would turn on the radio or vacuum the house when we put them down to sleep. So thankfully, that kind of thing has never happened *touch wood* *note to self: start locking bedroom door at night*
jetta SG *imagining the above scenario and giggling* So cute! My parents aren't demonstrative either. It was much much later when I was in my 30s that my mother confided in me that she wishes my dad would at least hold her hand. Now, my kids, whether it's a peck on the cheek or a kiss from hubby or me or vice versa, they'll say, "Geez, there are kids in the room you know! "
jetta SG I can understand the one income predicament. That's what happened with me too. The early years were very hard on us, financially and physically. We were in Sg until my son was 3 months old and my daughter, 2 years old. I thought life was hard then but it only got harder when we moved to Japan. The next three years there were the darkest days of my life.
Some people just don't want to have
kids, I respect that. Kids really take alot out of you -
financially, physically, emotionally, etc. Also, depending on their
temperament, they can break up a marriage too.
