What do u do after a break up?

last SG · 2006-09-20T15:54:06+00:00

Collect cars and motorcycle licences.

maggot SG

Check for HIV and STDs in case he/she gives them to you unknowingly Twisted Evil

stellazio SG

stay in my room doing nth or just hang out with my close friends.. Laughing

Rhonda SG

Cry myself a river, locking myself up in my apartment (heng, ah! Living alone so no need to face others!), staring blankly out the window, then cry again when I see loving couples walking past downstairs, watch TV and cry again when the screen couples are dating or worse, making out. Razz

And then, when I have cried up a river so large I need a dam to hold it all in, I'll call up my close friend(s) and talk talk talk talk talk.

And after that, I'll talk to anyone and everyone who'll listen. Razz BUT, if it really hurt me so much, I will just stick to talking about it with my close friends. Basically, the more it hurts, the less I'll talk about it or the more selective I will be over who I confide in.

I did odd things before too... like visiting the Botanical Gardens alone, sitting at the water's edge, staring at the water surface. Razz Or walking around Sentosa alone or just taking the monorail round and round and round the island... I used to spend hours in Van Kleef Aquarium but hmm... I guess now, if I suffer a breakup in Melbourne, there's the wonderful FishBowl in the Melbourne Aquarium where you can sit, be engulfed by the darkness and be lulled by the mesmerising music, and watch the large sea creatures swim around and around and around... Laughing

Oh well, I haven't had a relationship for a long time liao, which means, I have a Zero Probability for Breaking Up! Twisted Evil

Rhonda SG

Gluttony sessions... hmm... if it was a 'happy' breakup, as in I'm utterly relieved the whole fiasco is officially over, (read : I did the breaking up Razz ), then I will have a feast! Twisted Evil

However, if it was an 'out of the blue' or 'gut-wrenchingly sad' kinda breakup, I'll totally lose my appetite and all interest in everything else and just lay in bed crying and whining. Razz

So, whether I eat or not depends on what type of breakup it is. Laughing

Rhonda SG

ShrodingersCat SG

just wondering that's all... I'm not having a breakup right now Smile just interested to know how different people deal w it that's all.

Yeah.. when it happened the first few times when I was younger, it hits a lot harder.. and I remember taking hot showers in middle of the night crying my heart out.. I've cried at multitudes of places.. airports... etc.. but mostly in the bedroom, staring at the ceiling fan.

But as time passes, I find I have become more hard hearted... or perhaps, better to say, less sorry for myself because come to realise this is part and parcel of life ba... and in time I know i'd move on. That knowledge makes the hurt easier to bear but I guess it makes people wonder, if you move on faster, do u love less? I am not sure abt tt Smile

Ferret SG

I dont sleep well after ingesting huge amts of alcohol >.<

I rather sulk alone at home and eat tubs of ice cream Mr. Green

av98m SG

The tubs of ice cream are included in my gluttony menu Mr. Green

av98m SG

When I'm happy, I eat. When I'm sad, I eat too. Laughing

I think, if I don't touch my food, its a sure sign I'm going to jump off the MRT tracks, or you're looking at an imposter Twisted Evil

ShrodingersCat SG

gulp ya sounds like me.. i eat damn a lot happy or sad or bored or.. busy.. or...

I call ice cream the ProblemConverter. Convert problems into fats.

av98m SG

Laughing

soothingrief SG

like almost everyone else.. cry.. reflect on what happened. what could have caused it. what i did. he did. what might have went wrong. called and confided in close friends. did a whole lot of crying.. when something as simple and right is suddenly taken away, it was too much to handle. taking long walks in the middle of the night to faraway places. immersed myself more in my studies but without much success. wrote a letter seeking for reconciliation, with old photos. had suicidal thoughts but that was it. just thoughts.

eventually you've got to move on. how long it takes really depends on yourself and what you do with your life when he's no longer around. its about independence. how much are you willing to let go. also the support around you. i guess what was good about my last breakup was he let me hold on for another 5 mths. but it was during that 5 mths where he's lack of presence, care, attention and love helped me get over him. after that, it was going out with different guys and finding out who i could click with.

its also good to have friends who dun mind hearing the same story from you over and over and over and over......... sometimes a listening ear is all the person needs.

Kuali Baba SG

That's always a suspect statement.

ShrodingersCat SG

Hur hur.. yeah.. but there are times when bewildered people wonder what happened that they suddenly fall out of love. Didn't see it coming I guess. Oh well.

Gedanken SG

Shrug my shoulders and carry on. There’s too much going on to stop for one thing that goes wonky.

pensanto SG

i guess if someone breaks up with u whether stupid reason or wad… in the end its all about hw u able to manage it… time heals hurts so let nature take its course and get over it… yeah

Honeybunz SG

The best thing to do is to meet up with friends. Go out with them. Keep yourself occupied and you'll get over it faster and easier.

If it is a breakup after a long relationship (the feeling is deeper), on top of what I suggested, taking up a new hobby or learn new skill is a great thing to do.

kaobeikaobu SG

sit cable car…in case if want to…

Honeybunz SG

Shocked
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the_fallen SG

there are lots of places to cry your hearts out.
beach, sea, hill-top

i personally dun really cry ba, no point crying for someone who dunno how to treasure us right?

you can go east coast, sentosa, nature reserves, jetty, tour around neighbouring countries to refresh yourself. or go take a look at the huge sea ahead of you, let the sea breeze blow away your problems.

i personally do light jogging and often go look at the sea walk near the beach when i feeling low. when i unhappy or sad, i dun like to go crowded areas thus i tend to find quiet places to go to. the most often place which i go to is kallang river side park, lots of quiet places to allow you to be alone. another place is marina south park (marina bay there de park-need to walk a distance; but i also walk there from lavander-possible, can be done.)

just think it like the other half who just broke up with you doesn't deserve to be with you.

i will feel sad and moody but never had i cried after breaking up with gals.

there are other methods to release the tension you have inside your heart, as per mentioned by others. (NOT RECOMMENDED)
1-drink
2-eat til u can't eat
3-jogging, exercise til you're worn out
4-work (to keep yourself busy, slowly will forget; but take super long time, tried it already)
5-go out shopping with friends etc.(no wise, why spurge on money when it's your hard-earned money?)
6-go chiong, meet 'other halfs' make your ex- jealous when he/she meets u! (super stupid- ppl will make use of this reason to get what they want out of you den dump you also; end up getting more hurt)
7-trying to commit sucide-not wise, super stupid too, coz u need not kill yourself over a rotten tree, there's still a jungle of trees and woods for you to choose from.
8-just treat ur ex- like pigs. dunno how to eat good stuff.

doing these silly things will either danger your own life in one way or another.
will lead to depression, mental unstability, hallucination, nightmares, sooner or later will collaspe. my fren happens to fall into this catergory, so my advice is to face the music, dun run away from it, where you fall down, you have to learn how to get up on your own at the very spot and move on!!

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