What do you like about people?

last SG · 2006-05-11T23:20:18+00:00

*sigh* You are too right. I guess in order to recognise the good, we have to be reminded of the bad. It's purely human nature... it's easier to see and reme...

BabyRS SG

I love the 'resilience in the face of adversity' trait that lots of people have when faced with something daunting or trying.

There are too many times when I see sorrow, pain and sadness, yet it warms my heart when I see people turning these into lessons learnt in life... and move on as stronger individuals.

My faith in humans is always rekindled when I see them bonding together to face the aftermath of a natural disaster, letting their personal grief take a backseat so that they may help others who at that present moment, need all the support they can get.

I am awed that most people who are less fortunate find their own niche, and develop these abilities to overcome the odds and their handicap.

It touches my heart to see a youngster help an elderly / pregnant stranger by carrying their load, even though it may just be a short distance from the store to the parked car.

I love the fact that for 1 person who hates the world and its inhabitants, grouse about every small little thing that irk them and feel that life is generally unfair,... there are 1000 more who love and treasure their very existence.

What about you?

thinkdifferent SG

Originally posted by BabyRS:

I am awed that most people who are less fortunate find their own niche, and develop these abilities to overcome the odds and their handicap.

[b]you?[/b]

How many of them do you know personally or over the net?

BabyRS SG

Do we really need to know many people who are disabled to realize that many of them do work their way around their shortcomings?

I personally know of two individuals - one who has lost the use of her legs due to polio, and another who's born blind AND deaf.

That didn't stop them from having jobs and earning their keep. Their disability didn't stop them from keeping up with society, which is more than I can say for some able bodied people.

I don't know anyone over the net personally, but I have come across those who (in their own words) are handicapped. Since it is the net, after all - the fact cannot be verified... but they aren't any different from any other person.

Just knowing of one who has managed to not turn their disability into some self-pity and attention seeking tool - is reason enough to make me smile.

But that's just me.

thinkdifferent SG

Nice words as usually.

I didn't ask that because I would doubt what you said in your thread. I just wanted to know.

BabyRS SG

I didn't take what you asked in the negative sense... I do understand that sometimes advertisements, donation appeals and charitable organisations do sugarcoat the reality. It is easy to just gloss over the fact - many would be none the wiser.

It's different when you know some of these individuals on a personal level. I may be slightly 'biased' in a sense toward their achievements, perhaps because I know that it isn't easy for even those who are of sound mind and body to go through life. Many times we are faced with problems and obstacles that may prove too much to handle for some - so much so that people who have less than most do and yet go on the best way they know how - earn my respect twice over.

Somehow they make me rethink my life, my problems, and my burdens... and suddenly what I may face isn't so bad, after all. Wink

thinkdifferent SG

Ehmmm, I still have the feeling that you are preaching to me or something in that sense.

I may be a sibling of a disabled person, I may be a parent of a disabled person, I may be a child of a disabled person, I may be disabled, I may be a teacher of a disabled person, I may be a coach of a disabled champion, I may be a friend of a disabled person ....

Anyway, your attitude is correct Wink

coffeeortea SG

i like watching the history channel, and always, things like these come to light.. the berlin wall, basically the falling of iron curtain.. reconcilation.. movies like the green mile.. the color purple..

BabyRS SG

No... no... no... no way I would preach to anyone about any of my beliefs. I may inform in a legthy, preachy (read: naggy Laughing ) manner, but these are but how I see it, and I have no right or intention whatsoever to force it down anyone's mind.

I am not saying that you aren't familiar with those who are disabled - in fact, from the core of your very first question, I know that you have valid reason to ask if I do know what I'm talking about. In my following post, I did explain in no uncertain terms that I have come into close proximity with some of these people; but I really don't blame anyone for being sceptical. Even if I were to say that the girl I mentioned who has polio is my cousin... I'm sure most would take it with a pinch of salt; perhaps also thinking that I mentioned that for added effect.

If I come across as being obnoxiously rude and overbearing, I truly apologise. It was never my intention, perhaps just a bad choice of words. Smile

Kan_i SG

Originally posted by BabyRS:
I love the 'resilience in the face of adversity' trait that lots of people have when faced with something daunting or trying.

There are too many times when I see sorrow, pain and sadness, yet it warms my heart when I see people turning these into lessons learnt in life... and move on as stronger individuals.

My faith in humans is always rekindled when I see them bonding together to face the aftermath of a natural disaster, letting their personal grief take a backseat so that they may help others who at that present moment, need all the support they can get.

I am awed that most people who are less fortunate find their own niche, and develop these abilities to overcome the odds and their handicap.

It touches my heart to see a youngster help an elderly / pregnant stranger by carrying their load, even though it may just be a short distance from the store to the parked car.

I love the fact that for 1 person who hates the world and its inhabitants, grouse about every small little thing that irk them and feel that life is generally unfair,... there are 1000 more who love and treasure their very existence.

What about [b]you?[/b]

LOL without breaking into tears i do have to aggree with you. It brings a tear to my eyes when i see people in times of hardship band together and act for the good and help each other along. Our world is growing ever so more "individual" and i see more and more people selfish and just uncaring. With the attitude well i am 1 and so what can i do? as their excuse.

I sometime see people not getting up for older people in buses or trains and sometimes see old people struggle up stairs or wheel chairs caught while crossing the road and people not helping. Realy pisses me off.

I want to cry when i hear of stories of children who are deaf and blind. and their parents still loving their children and trying to do what they can. And pisses me off when governement squabble over money when applying for assistance for these kids. ANd yes i have personally worked with these organisations.

elindra SG

Sadly, to me due to my work I only see alot of corporate sharks around Laughing *bitter laughs*

av98m SG

Let me guess, rigid and outdated eligibility criteria, refusal to look at applications on a case-by-case basis, rejecting applications over minor technicalities, snail-like processing? Confused

av98m SG

I see many species of invertebrates at work. And gymnasts. Laughing

alexkusu SG

i like how people are very predictable, how selfish and manipulative they can be. And how easy it is to push their buttons or triggers to suits one purpose. Mr. Green

mistyblue SG

people are funny

ölala SG

Yes
'Until I've fall,I'll never learn how to walk'

the Bear SG

it's something i've said here and look at in life...

when i feel down, i think of the people who live in deplorable conditions, like the garbage mountains... they are trying their damnest to get by, scraping together enough stuff to sell to the junk dealers from the mounds of garbage which they build their homes on...

they smile, they laugh, they somehow find joy, hope, and dream of a better life...

and i am humbled by their faith... their strength...

and if they, can do that in such conditions, why the hell am i feeling down?

what i like about people?

their strength, their faith, their ability to hope, find joy, and their sheer resilience in the face of adversity...

thinkdifferent SG

It's alrigt, that is not the case. It's vice versa, your words are too nice, like a speech of a politician who wants to get many voices in the election, or a speech of Miss Universe on the world peace or hunger in the world. Your attitudes are fine and you always present them polically correct, but sometimes , atleast from my view and I think the others will not agree with me, if the words are too nice and you make the article too touchy, it looks fake. I think it's only my view becasue I don't like anything mushy and I even hate women's magazines, so don't worry, it's only me who has a "problem" , not you. Laughing

You should publish in magazines, if it already isn't your job. Or you should write the speeches for politicians. Wink

dinky1409 SG

BabyRS, beautiful.. You are like my mind, why I say not like me? Because I'm not blessed with such gifts like your command of your language. Your words are beautiful and it really expresses what I feel in life. Thank you.. Razz
I'm making Club 30 one of my favourite forums.. Mr. Green Razz

BabyRS SG

Trust me when I say this... you're not the only one who feels that way.

Seriously though - perhaps if I appear "glossed over" (? for lack of a better term) - it's simply because I always leave my words open to interpretation. I will never force my values or beliefs down anyone's throat - and if in doing so, my text appears "contrived" or perhaps too good to be true, then that's something that may / may not work in my favour... depending on the situation. I would never intentionally "manipulate" others into seeing my points of view - although on another level, it may seem inclined to be so. It could also well be viewed as "condescending" and thoroughly patronising, much like how a parent placates a child. Laughing

Perhaps it's also due to the fact that I have always found it easier to place my thoughts in writing... and I DO recognise the power of words. It's funny about what you said regarding writing in magazines... although I'm not one, maybe the fact that I'm in print advertising has an (almost) imperceptible bearing to the way that I place my ideas forth. Only a few discerning ones who are sensitive to this style would recognise it for what its worth. Even *I* don't realise it, till you mentioned it. Many people have said it, in different ways - but I think I do understand why, now.

And for that, I thank you. Wink

ha8n SG

...kudos to you as u have genuine point of vew >> the people that came across everyday below >>

1.Ppl whom like to talk /manipulate others into smething that they themselves have insecurities eg. theres no Smoke without fire and usually these are the same pple whom dun have real friends , only hypocritical whom today can bitc abt someone (sure they can bitch abt you when u turn your back )

2.Ppl whom tot they like their views better and wont like another friend/person telling them the best solutions ( thats y they only exist in certain trades ...though they appear they can make it,but in actual fact they are not...)

3.Ppl with no hesitant to make lots of noise ( empty shells make the most havoc) when they are actually dunno anything / has any anyknowledge ...

...therefore its amazing when u came across all ppl , the ones that earn ur respect are the ones whom dun talk much