Is love always enough?

the Bear SG

well, then.. your loss Wink

BabyRS SG

I have been through some serious heartbreak too - and I have been carrying the pieces of my heart in a plastic bag with the little red merlion heads ever since.

I don't know what you have been through, neither am I here to tell you not to give up on love. What right do others have to judge another's dreams if they have not walked even a mere step in your shoes?

That's the weirdest thing about matters of the heart... it never ceased to amaze me how something that can be so beautiful cause so much pain. Ironical is a gross understatement. Just like the stark contrasts between night and day, tears and laughter... good and evil... as much as it brings you happiness - it carries with it as much heart rending sadness. What would you do? Where would you turn?

It's a persistent ache in your heart that shadows the smile on your face,
It's a longing that is sated momentarily by a flash of a vision.
It's awakening to a pleasant thought that has no end in sight...
It's a restless fall into slumber with the promise of a dream.

When the veil of darkness has draped itself around your life and concealed the tears of your pain and despair, when the destiny you had envisaged has all but faded like water amongst the golden sands of the desert, when you stand alone in your hour of adversity and need and no-one is willing to stand beside you, when the battles within your life are on the verge of defeat and ruin, when you are in exile within your own mind, when your heart is empty and is merely watered by the tears of your agonized and anguished soul...

What do you do?

When it seems the haunting silence of the darkness hangs like a shadow within the depths of your heart... When you cling like a child to the dreams of yesterday, when the light of dawn refuses to appear and the sun refuses to shine, when each day has become an eternal struggle to survive...

What do you do?

I believe that within the midst of our suffering there is always something to be learnt. With every obstacle overcome, we will become stronger... and wiser in the ways of life.

As Carl Jung once commented:

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart.
He who looks outside dreams.
He who looks inside, awakens.

I hope that one day you will find it in yourself to love again... and be loved in return. Wink

oldbreadstinks SG

something similar's happening to two of my friends right, they both went though a bad patch together mainly because of the guy (debts). and though it all she shouldered it with him despite protests from her own family(+extended family) but now that things(moneywise) are more stable for them the relationship's rapidly going downhill with divorce being brought up now and then

they quarrel often, quite a number of the arguements about money and she would bring up the matter of her helping him in the past quite often in a quarrel, making the guy feel quite bitter about it naturally. plus the fact that she has a tendency to lash out even at her husband often . its all contributing to him thinking that he should consider getting someone with a more gentle character because he got married thinking he could get home after work to a happy family\loving wife, instead of going home to quarrels everyday.

lol come to think about it , because of them i'm having 2nd thoughts about getting married. Laughing

Rhonda SG

I've been through heartbreak so bad, and not just once, nor twice, and not even just thrice Razz , that my buddies sometimes tell me that it's amazing I managed to pull through, remain resilient, and have not written off the possibility of falling in love again in future. Laughing

I've also seen relationships around me end bitterly, heard close friends lament about the state of their marriage, and even had to run to help those in the midst of divorce.

However, I'm still hopeful about love, in spite of and despite.

Just because you see 'most' people of the opposite sex respond lousily in relationships does not mean that ALL those of the opposite sex will act in the same way. It's only fair that when you start a new relationship, give that new person a clean slate, and don't let him/her shoulder the burden of baggages that you've brought over from your past relationship(s). Afterall, not everyone is the same, and therefore, not everyone will behave in the same manner as your ex(s). Always give your newly-chosen partner a fair chance instead of confining him/her in a small room with walls built from your past experiences, baggages and prejudice.

When the right person comes along, it won't be a bed of roses either but the difference would be that instead of opting for the easy way out when things go bad, or when you're having a bad day and somehow acted badly, he/she will still stick around simply because he/she loves you and is not about to go away and abandon you just because of little hitches now and then. Afterall, all relationships experience highs and lows as well and if someone loves you, they're in for the entire ride, whether it be a sky-high rise or a rock-bottom pitfall.

Wink

choco B SG

Yes, there is also good sex.

Rhonda SG

Are you the sister I never had?! Surprised

Mr. Green

Rhonda SG

Laughing

MMMmmmmmMMMMMMm Yeeeesssssss!!!

*high 5's choco!

Mr. Green

BabyRS SG

Mr. Green Never know... Wink

ShrodingersCat SG

HurHur~~~~ Love, Good Sex, Some Chocolate hmmm... that comes close to enough I guess...

littlestream SG

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