Can a guy be too nice?

last SG · 2006-04-19T11:46:24+00:00

Thanks for all the response... everyone. Just goes to show that there are and always will be differences in opinions of whether a guy can be deemed 'too nice...

BabyRS SG

...well?

I've often heard my buddies complaining that if they're too nice... chances are the girl would climb all over them. When they don't really care because they aren't so keen on that particular girl - the reverse happens.

I have to admit I've had my 'bad boy' phase as well - the guy that mothers warned you about, and you know will eventually break your heart.

Older (but not necessarily wiser now), I wonder what is it about the nice guys that remains elusive to some? Is it the quest for excitement, the constant adrenaline rush or just a rebellious stage that we go through?

Can a guy really be too nice? Confused

dcx SG

y not? Laughing

rainee SG

yup, have had my bad boy phase too Laughing

i tink when you finally want to settle down you will look for a nice guy instead of those bad boy type?

alexkusu SG

Im so nice that girls treat me like carpet and walk all over me Crying or Very sad

RaTtY81 SG

err think the nice guys finish last theory is quite true Laughing

The man who was death SG

nan ren bu huai, nu ren bu ai

why like this??

Crying or Very sad

dcx SG

who asked you to be so chee hong......... Laughing

BabyRS SG

Good things come to those who wait... Mr. Green

I suppose when a girl has gone through that period of heartbreak, heartache - and the feeling of getting trampled and used by a guy, they would appreciate even the smallest things done for them even more.

Maybe we need to experience the bad in order to recognise the good. Neutral

Ah Cek SG

wa...u better dun look up hor...

deathscythe99 SG

Must sometimes exert influence and authority mah....dun like me also Sad

drx SG

Sadly only a few girls truly learnt their lesson.

DailyFreeGames.com SG

Well, I guess nice also must have tactic lah. There were times when I was too nice to people and they were freaked out, they were like, how come this guy is so nice to me, he must be having ulterior motives. I guess that’s a common way of reacting to nice people, because as the world grows smarter, people tend to be overly cautious of others. I’m not saying that it’s bad to be distrusthful of others, but this is why nice guys often freak people out, it’s the instinct that if people are too nice, they will be thought of as having ulterior motives. I guess often the movies portray such things, like evil people pretending to be nice with a deep hidden agenda. Well, movies are movies afterall, there can truly be really nice sincered people in this world. I’ve met my fair share of them, and I’m a collector of such friends, because I love to be surrounded by such people.

RaTtY81 SG

o0 hmm wat if the guy is the rebound? the gal picked herself liao n find another bf?

LazerLordz SG

And the sad part is when she has finally recognised the good, he's already 2 miles away into the distance.That happens to many guys..

Rhonda SG

I've had my share of being with the bad guys too - guys who are extremely exciting and 'forbidden' and needless to say, disliked by my family and close friends! Razz

The forbidden fruit tastes sweeter, what can I say? Twisted Evil

It's not just nice guys who finish last, cause nice girls do finish last too! Razz

Maybe, it's this need for 'challenge' in some of us. If someone is 'too nice' and 'too available', we tend to take that person for granted. However, if someone's touted as a 'difficult' catch, it might suddenly render that person extremely desirable, notwithstanding their bad boy or bad girl image, which, in these instances, can actually enhance their desirability because of the exciting challenge they become to people who love the thrill of the chase. Laughing

Hopefully, we get over this stage and move on wiser and become mellower and more mature. Sadly, some don't proceed beyond this stage!

If you're very restless, easily bored, and are always on the lookout for exciting, new stuff, you might find a nice guy/girl too boring, too predictable, too stifling, etc. However, if you're more or less a homebody sort who like the idea of a stable relationship with little to no nasty surprises, you'd go for the 'nice' peeps.

We go through stages of our life when we prefer different people and oh well, different strokes for different folks, as they say.

Me? I'm looking for a nice, decent guy I can hole up with and go on discovery vacations with, share interests with, and journey through life together, hand-in-hand. Embarassed No more adrenaline-rush, bad boys liao! No more a teenager liao! Razz

Laughing

alexkusu SG

One might think, whats the point of being nice when one could be just as bad and have fun doing so?

BabyRS SG

That's so very very true.

Fatum SG

to quote from a 31 year old female friend .....

girls want to bed the bad boys .... but they want to "breed" with the good boys .......

true ? ....

of course ... some females think differently ... that's why you see tattooed gangsters pimping their gfs and such sick shit like that ... men (and sane women) can never imagine why such farktards can get access to a .... ermmm .... receptacle, at all ..... but then again ... women's logic circuits are wired differently of course .... Confused Laughing

drx SG

All the best.
I believe you can find the rite one.

av98m SG

I think some women see the so-called "bad boys" as a challenge. Maybe they're exciting to be with, just a bit rough around the edges. And the women delude themselves into thinking that they can change the person over time.

That being said, who says a person cannot be nice and yet interesting/exciting to be with? The stereotypical definition of "nice guy" seems to be that of a guy who's nice, caring, but boring.