Traditional Chinese Wedding Dinner Horrors!!

last SG · 2005-09-23T23:23:54+00:00

ello folks, i've got an invite to wedding dinner @ Hilton Hotel next month! Bride's my best pal from Pri sch. But rarely keep in touch since then. She invit...

Deportivo SG

I had one with Takashimaya. It was all good. My friends bought me pots and pans, knife sets, plates, clocks, pillow, pillow cases, bedsheets.

Takashimaya took the effort the wrapped everything up nicely, and my wife and i had the time of our life opening them up.

edLow SG

ya.. if u noe u cant attend the wedding becos u cant fork out the money becos of finicial prob. let them noe early tat u cant attend.. so they dont keep a place for u and u end up not turning up.. which cause a lost to them..

and if possible. try to give an ang pow tat is ard the market rate of the dinner lor so tat ur frd wont make a suffer becos of it. if u are niao with ur ang pow.. ur frds perhaps would do the same for u on ur big day next time.

edLow SG

hahaha. den u save even more table..

choco B SG

I got no problem with packing an ang pow keeping in mind the amount to defray cost. Isn't it part of wishing the couple well? Confused i.e. let me help out with the cost - to the best of my ability.

If you can't afford, give less - the couple should know you well enough not to penalise you. If you wanna give more, by all means!

Nelstar SG

The main idea of giving... is to show how well you know the person to know what to give.

And what is best to give.

And no matter how many 'white elephants' are given, as a receiver, you learn to respect the gift.

Laughing

Rhonda SG

See, the thing is, you WANT to celebrate your friend's wedding, but you can't because of your tight budget.

It would hurt me to know that my friends won't be attending my wedding because they cannot afford the money.

Now, why not hold an event where everyone can attend, and money's not a huge huge barrier to any party?

That would make it a true celebration in all sense of the word, wouldn't it? Wink

edLow SG

ya.. i noe it isnt like paying a dinner bill. but at least follow the market rate lor. if every frds whom attending is paying this amt... it wont be weird wat.. if everyone is paying 50 for it.. of cos if u pay any more or less will make urself outstanding...

edLow SG

tat why follow the market rate. if everyone is giving a certain amt. why give less or more to make urself stand out?

Rhonda SG

In my previous job, giving ang pow's to friends / colleagues who were getting married was a joy, because I could afford to give.

Now, it's a heartache - torn between wanting to celebrate their joy, and not being able to afford it sometimes. Neutral I know they wouldn't penalise me, but at the same time, a lot of them aren't rich and NEED to defray the costs.

shinta SG

no money, dun hold wedding dinner. simple as that.

Ang pows are meant given in teh past as some sort of a blessing for the wedded couples. OR you could think of it as a gift. With cash being more practical.

It doesn matter if u're malay or chinese. The meaning behind is the same.

No money dun hold the dinner at a 5-star hotel.

Nelstar SG

See? That's why I hate the idea of red packets.

Laughing

Rhonda SG

You don't get it, do you? Laughing

It's NOT about the market rate... it's about you giving the money as a wedding GIFT! A GIFT! NOT a restaurant bill! Razz

edLow SG

if tat the case.. give within the dinner rate and ur own limit.. if u noe u be attending a dinner. the card are usually given out as early as a month before.. so start to save if require lor... u hav a nice dinner celebrating ur frd's wed and at the same time u dont make ur frd suffer frm loses wat.

shinta SG

we're talkin from the bride n groom's perspective n u're talkin from another perspective...

Rolling Eyes

Deportivo SG

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Rhonda

who else?

edLow SG

\but it's still help out rite?
since u all mention bout "HELPING OUT" for the couple.

there are things which we can help and things we cant..

u cant possible pay for the whole dinner for ur frd becos u are really damn filthy rich rite?

shinta SG

u're makin it sound like u're payin the bill for dinner.

Rhonda SG

That's why I think, in order to let people come and enjoy themselves without worrying about the ang pow, next time, I might wanna keep everything secret and on the invitation cards, just be mysterious and say something like, "There's a party going on! Turn up at XX MRT STation at XXpm and be transported to the secret location!"

And then, ta-da!!! Wedding party!!

There'll be no "Sorry, I can't attend"s solely because of money. Wink

And later on, whether the guests want to give gifts or not, that's totally secondary and up to them.

Now, that frees everyone to enjoy and celebrate your wedding, no need to talk so much about money! Isn't that so much better?

Wink

shinta SG

He's not gettin it, dun think he'd ever will.

Rhonda SG

SL and chocoB are married too. Wink

Shinta and Nelstar aren't married yet. Laughing Bear's also single.

Erm... who else?

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