Originally posted by neuros:
i don't think she's saying having children in a marriage is a
mistake. i believe she's actually referring to having children for
the [b]sole purpose of saving a dwindling
marriage.
and i agree. if the marriage is failing and a child is brought in
as a last ditch attempt of resuscitation then it's probably not
fair to the child. isn't that too heavy a burden to put on an
unborn child?
children, being the joy and wonder that they are, should be brought
into the world for the sake of being. not as an
instrument.[/b][/b]
Lets not kid ourselves, how many couple would actually want to
have a baby with someone whom they dont feel comfortable? Do you
know of any friends of family members who will say, "Honey, I think
you are cheating on me, lets have baby"
What I was saying is that having children in the family will bring
ADDITIONAL joy and love into the family. and NOT having children to
save the relationship.
