rainee SG being independent, for me, is still the best thing...no need to get used to being dependent on others...one day when they have all disappeared, u will know you can still have yourself to fall on... And "der" too much also will become a habit, in the end you will end up just letting other people do everything for u..
Rhonda SG Yeah, but like what k4korny said in his post, men DO like it when women 'der'... BUT, only if the women are chiobu's! Only then, they can 'ing1 xiong2 jiu4 mei3', see?
rainee SG I am tempted to call them shallow now...but I better shut up before I get assaulted by the male population here
k4korny SG huh.. where got? i tot i said i'm one of those who can see thru this evil trick.. anyway, i dun mind ppl 'der'-ing me.. not chio-bu oso nvm. Rhonda and rainee, u can der me, plsssss...
Rhonda SG Y'know, I was reading through your post again and you almost make it sound like it's a good quality for a female to use her beauty to her advantage and make men do stuff for her. So, that trait is valued above independance and quiet resourcefulness?
Rhonda SG Psst... rainee, not just by the male population but also by the chio females who do it! Looks like you and I had better discuss an escape route!
k4korny SG hmm... but if you have a stupid idiot who willing to do all your work, why not use it to your fullest advantage? Come to think of it.. if i handsome (IF lah).. will i get girls to do my work for me?
rainee SG Why not? Because everytime you get people to do for you, u wun learn anything rite? Like let's say I can get someone to do my hw for me now, I will get good grades, but what's the point? Learning only comes thru experience, not by sitting by and watching another person do the work... And one day what will happen when the guy decides to not want to do it for me anymore? Then won't I be helpless?
Rhonda SG Therein lies yet another gender discrimination - if you're chio and you make men do work for you by acting 'der', that's what most folks would call a 'privilege'. However, if you're a handsome chap and you try to make ladies do work for you, you're called 'spineless' or a 'xiao bai lian'!
Rhonda SG Good point! And let's put it this way, how long can they get away with being 'der'? Someday, they'll grow old too and then, who's going to tolerate their 'der'ness? THEN, they'll realise, 'Oh drats! I actually have to do it myself?!'
k4korny SG err.. my gastric not very good... i dun mind eating ruan fan!! keke.. *k4korny applies more sunblock on his face*
rainee SG One good example is..if you watch that show "You Are The One" starring Jacelyn Tay, Christopher Lee, etc...the youngest sister in the family..si bei der, everytime I watch that show I will get goosebumps when she starts her "der"-ing act
Rhonda SG I'm not a Channel 8 person but I couldn't help laughing at your expression, 'si bei der'! But hey, no one can beat the Taiwanese ladies at being 'der', don't you think?
