It's not about the issue who earns more, who earns less. It
regards to who's responsibility is that.
Both have the responsibility.
Back in stone age, men are out to hunt for food. Women stayed in
caves to take care of the young ones. Research has shown that men
has thicker skin than women. Nobody can deny that. I don't see any
women go out to hunt for food. That's not their instinct.
Stone age women went out to gather berries as food. And there
are many examples in the animal kingdom where the males take care
of the young.
Simply, women don't want to stay at homes to be homemaker,
because they can't cook, do laundry, and many more. Thus, maids
come into picture. Do you see any male maids around? No. If yes, I
am worried.
Yes, there are male ones. Not to cook, but to do the heavy
chores. I have seen one in a super rich family in the Camden Park
area near Bukit Timah.
Just because you have never seen one doesn't mean there isn't
any.
First, if women want to work, they have to make sure that the
house is being well taken care of by HER, not by other people. If
she can't take care of her house well enough, drop the idea of
going out to work. However, if women want to work, no problem with
that. Men are much more happier that there is an extra income.
However, the key issue is whether women can ENSURE everything is
alright at home?
The extra income helps in making the house being well taken care
of. Maids are there to help in the menial work. True taking care of
households require more brains than brawn.
And btw, both men and women have the responsibility of taking
care of a house.
Men don't do nothing at home, they do contribute to the family
with household chores. You got to choose the right men.
Exactly. Having a maid helps in reducing that. The time and
energy spent can be used more productively.
If you can fork out $1k more a month to save 4 hrs a day so as
to be more productive, why not? A truly productive person will be
able to generate that $1k within a week or less for that extra time
saved.
In practical Singapore, $$ talks. Your ideals have to stand
aside. It's a no $$ no talk world.
Men's role in the family: Bring $ back home(primarily), take
care of the house(secondary)
Women's role in the family: Take care of the house(primarily),
bring $ back home(secondary)
Wrong. Bringing back $$ is part of taking care of the house.
Both men and women have it as the primary responsibility.
Try taking care of a household without any $$.
Anyway, your ancestors as a female role in the family have been
doing it for centuries. Why CAN'T you? You cannot take up such
challenges as a 21st century women or women in this era getting
weaker? Perhaps both.
Just because ancestors do it, then modern people must do it?
Standing up to people like you is the challenge of elindra as a
21st century woman.
It's alright to engage maids at home, your children will start
to treat the maids as their mums. Take care of them, feed them,
bathe them and even coach them with their homeworks. What about
women's position at home? You are nothing but a child bearer.
If I can employ a maid who can coach in homework, it's a
boon.
