I am not too old. My mum is still alive at 78 years old. My son
is 18 years old. I don't know whether I qualify to talk on behalf
of parents.
My son, hated me. I had not done any bad which he agrees. However,
I do nag at him for things that he did... I do not wish for my son
to be a burden to himself or society and I always nag at him when
he did something wrong. He hated me for that. We just cannot
communicate. I spoke to him many times. I tried each time to make
up with him but each time I failed.
The last time I spoke to him I told him, parent are human too. I
admitted I failed as a father. However, although we can attend
school for many things, there is never a subject or course to tell
you how to be a parent. There isn't a book to tell you how to
behave like one. Like others, I tried it out on trial basis... I
maybe wrong now but at that time, the was the best decision I made,
" for his sake ". I know many parent will say " this is for your
own good " and youngster get fed up listening to it. So I learn not
to repeat this. There, parenting is a learning process ... but
there are much more to it ..
Many of the complaints here doesn't reflect any serious issues. In
fact, you can see the love the parents try to give to each
individual here. The problem is, they are not able to put it in the
way the youngster can accept it. Please reflect on your own action
and try to put yourself in your parents' shoe and see if you can do
it better. When I had my son, I told myself that he will not get
the treatment my parent treated me. He will be special... but look
at it, I failed misery and is even worst than what my parent it.
Both my parents came from China and without education. I felt that
they score better than me in term of parenting... Today, at this
age, my mother still nag at me.... at time I am still angry with
her but for the love she gaves me .... and yes, she still nag
....
Just my two cents worth ....
