This guide is for guys who don't have looks and/or money and
think that without those two things it is important to get women to
be attracted to you. If you define yourself by your looks and
money, then women will too. Instead, if your identity is built
around your strengths then women will judge you based on your
strengths. Be a version of yourself that is larger-than-life, don't
focus on your weaknesses.
1. Maximize your looks
Just because looks don't matter doesn't mean that you can go
around looking like shit and expect women to "like you for who you
are". If you want to believe that, then good luck. Get out of here.
If not, groom yourself. Trim or shave overgrowths. Get a good hair
style. Don't overdress. A simple, and clean look is fine.
2. Work out
You don't have to be bufflord to get girls. But going to the gym
helps improve your mood, tone your body, and boost your
self-esteem. It is a good habit especially if you are on the chubby
side or too skinny.
3. Improve your knowledge
Read a lot. Catch up on current affairs. It is important because
most boys don't know shit. Intelligence and being well read is
attractive to most women. Sharpen your wit. Speak good english.
Watch movies with alpha males in them to get a sense of their
personality. You don't have to mold yourself exactly like them, but
carry yourself with authority. Don't be a clown, but humor is an
attractive trait--especially witty verbal game.
4. Push and pull
The general rule of thumb is when she's attracted, push/tease
and when she's becoming less attracted pull/compliment. Keep the
dynamics within the sweet spot of sexual tension. This is where
most guys fail, they just keep pulling and giving her validation
and never push the girl away. This suffocates her and makes you
incredibly predictable. And predictability kills attraction.
5. Watch your body language/posture
Don't slouch. Watch the way you walk. If you gesture a lot, stop
it. Use one handed gesturing. When pointing of offering your
handshake, DON'T look at your hands. Most people miss this, but it
screams insecurity when your eyes trace your hands. Don't believe
me? Next time you notice when guys offer their hands for a
handshake where do their eyes look? Are they confident or not?
6. Verbal/Paralinguals
Use strong words like "That's nice.", "I'd love to see that.",
"That sounds naughty", "Very enticing", etc. Also, speak slowly in
a hypnotic fashion when you're moving into intimate topics with
her. Practice speaking with a low but strong tone of voice. Smile
lightly. Playful smirk. If she can't hear you don't speak louder to
accomodate to you. Just smile and repeat yourself in the same way.
Sometimes it's fine not to repeat yourself. Many times, people say
"huh?" or "what?" because their brain is taking time to process
what you said. Just pause. Look at them and smile. Then you'll
realize they will suddenly understand what you said without you
having to repeat yourself.
7. Physical contact
Know how to use physical touch properly. Don't pretend to bump
into her. You can stay close and let your hands accidentally graze
past each other. It's fine. But other than that all touches should
be intentional with you taking control of her body. Move her
around. Grab her hands to see her accessories. Hand on her lower
back to guide her through doors. Easy control to test for
compliance.
8. Don't reveal too much
You must keep your cards close. Be selectively authentic.
Honesty doesn't mean unloading everything to her. Once they know
you, the gig is over. And they will control the interaction. Let
her find out a bit at a time slowly piecing together the puzzle
that is your life. Don't be overly secretive, though. If she thinks
you are hiding something, she might decide it's creepy and not
worth it.
9. Don't talk about her problems
You are not her knight in shining armor or her BFF. You are
there to simply bring her out of her boring life. She has to leave
everything behind when she's with you. Cut her off, change topic.
Directly show disinterest if she keeps telling you about her
problems. Don't be afraid to offend her. Don't friendzone
yourself.
10. Bring her into your world
Show her what you are good at. Your favorite bands. Your
hobbies. Show a little interest in her life, but never talk
extensively about it. It should not impress you. Let her learn new
things from you. Let her tell you about herself and her stories,
but don't grill her about her interests and seem overly eager to
impress her.
11. Make her feel good around you
The way you talk about her to her. The way you look at her. The
way you smile at her. Put your phone away. Don't lash out or
complain. These behaviors are unbecoming of a man. Don't be a
little bitch.
12. Look into her eyes
A good way is to just figure out her eye color or try to find
her irises. When looking at her, project thoughts through your
gaze. Sexual thoughts, raw openness, amused mastery, control, deep
thoughts, etc. Flip through the whole array while looking at her
and I guarantee it will increase attraction.
13. Don't be afraid to walk away
Most guys don't have boundaries. They let girls step all over
them with no consequences at all. Don't be afraid to offend her.
Don't be afraid to have an opinion. Women respect a man who knows
what he wants in life and isn't afraid to show it. And if she's
acting up and refuses to be good company, don't be afraid to walk
away.
