Unlike a more experienced woman, a virgin really doesn’t know
what to expect. This means that you’re going to have to put in some
effort before the deed is done and plan ahead to make sure that
she’s comfortable and completely willing. It may take some
considerable convincing on your part to get her into bed, and while
that isn't one of our five reasons not to sleep with a virgin, your
seduction skills will certainly be put to the test when it comes to
taking a girl’s virginity. Also, the older she is, the harder it
will be. If she has managed to protect her virginity all through
high school and into her 20s, it will be that much more difficult
to persuade her that she should give it up to you.
When it comes to having sex with a virgin, the potential for her
to freak out before, during or after the sex act is quite high. She
may decide at the last minute that she doesn’t want to go through
with it or she may feel massively guilty afterward for having done
it. Because so much importance is put on her virginity, her first
time is bound to be an emotional experience, which means that you
might have to deal with panic, sadness, guilt, and other unpleasant
reactions. She has probably imagined the event for a long time and
wants it to go absolutely perfectly. If even the slightest thing
doesn’t go according to plan, it could result in tears and
tantrums. If you don’t like watching girls cry, don’t sleep with
virgins. That’s a lot of pressure and that’s why it’s among our
five reasons not to sleep with a virgin.
It is fairly likely that a recently devirginized girl will
expect to have a lasting relationship with the guy that bedded her.
If you’re not planning on becoming her boyfriend, or at least
continuing to date her, don’t sleep with her. It’s really that
simple. Very few girls imagine their first time with someone who
drops off the face of the earth immediately afterward, never to be
heard from again. She’s going to want you to stick around, so if a
relationship is not in your plan, consider this point in our list
of five reasons not to sleep with a virgin and find someone else to
share your bed.
Since she’s inexperienced, she’s probably not going to be that
good in bed, and that’s a big reason not to sleep with a virgin.
There are exceptions to this rule, of course, since there are
plenty of skills a girl can learn before she loses her actual
virginity. If, however, she has little experience with sexual
activity in general, the encounter is not going to be all that
pleasurable for you. If all you want is the power trip that comes
from taking her virginity, then you’re golden, but if you want a
mutually satisfying sexual experience, you should look for someone
who has had time to develop some sexual skills.
There is a possibility that having sex with a virgin could
literally make a mess of your sheets. Being penetrated for the
first time is likely to hurt her and it could result in some
bleeding. If the sight of blood makes you squeamish, devirginizing
a girl is not for you. A woman’s first sexual experience can leave
a very unsexy mess to clean up.
As you can see, taking a girl’s virginity is not all that it’s
cracked up to be. There are groundwork concerns, emotional issues,
commitment questions, technique problems, and other more tangible
messes to deal with. So perhaps you should leave the devirginizing
to the high school boys and look for a sexual encounter that isn’t
quite so complicated.
