hmm.....old uncle share my personal life story here....going 30
this year...
together with this girl 3 years, total time i caught her
cheating on me, 8 times with 6 different guys...i forgave her every
single time.
call me a cuckold? maybe....
i cannot satisfy her? not being egoistic, but she has an
orgasm at least once everytime we are making love. how sure am i
that she is not faking it? let's just say i am not a novice when it
comes to love making....i still get ' invites' from ex gfs....
i am too soft? i assure you, i can be very ' hard' on her. (no
pun intended)
the fact is? she is too spoilt and tends to do whatever she
likes...this, she admit herself, not i say one. Yet, she really
wants to change. Again, not i say one, she said it.
before you judge however, lets get something straight:
i enjoy sex with her, but it doesnt mean that i wun enjoy sex
with another gal. was she the best sex partner i had? No. if the
opportunity presents itself for me to have sex with another girl,
would i do it? Definitely MAYBE....Why? my life is too short not to
experience different things...no human likes to eat abalone every
day.....including girls.
So, ask yourself this: if you put urself in the same environment
with the same thinking and brought up in the same manner like
her, would you have succumbed? if the Answer is YES, then you
better know that you are no better then her. if you are no better
then her, then don't judge, yet.
a good litmus test: answer yourself honestly on the
following 3 questions; in succession:
1. do you love him / her and see him / her as a possible
companion for life?
2. can he / she fullfill your sexual desires totally? if its a
hesitant maybe not....
3. do you find it worthy to stick to 1 partner for sex for the
rest of your short life & deprieve yousrlef of other possible
experiences in life?
if the answer to qn 2 is a RESOUNDING yes, then you are
definitely ready for a lifetime commitment...but whether your
parter is or not, that is a different story.
if you had proceeded to qn3, whatever the answer maybe, that
answer and the reasons behind it, is YOU; it is who you are and you
should NOT be ashamed of who you are.
continuing the long story short: we are still together today,
and she is really making a lot of effort to change....and it is
really working ....everyday she finds ways and means to prove to me
she is trying (or maybe, proving to herself). she has gone 'clean'
for the past 1 year. (i assure you, i conduct very very stringent
surprise checks on her)
will we get married? we don't know.....but what we do know, is
that we probably will never be fully seperated for the rest of our
lives, no matter what kind of relationship we will have in
future.
u need help to confirm she have changed??? maybe she havent met a
guy that seduce her enough nia...
