G-spot is the nickname for the Grafenberg spot, named after the
guy who noted its erotic significance in the 1950's. The G-spot in
women is analogous to the prostate in men (which seems to play a
more direct role in sex and procreation).
The G-spot is a gland located behind the pubic bone and around the
urethra. It can be massaged or stimulated by reaching up about two
finger joints distance on the upper surface of the vagina. If
already aroused, some women will find that stimulation of this area
leads to an intense orgasm which may be of a different quality from
a clitoral orgasm. Stimulation of the spot produces a variety of
initial feelings: discomfort, feeling the need to urinate, or a
pleasurable feeling. With additional stroking the area may begin to
swell and the sensations may become more pleasureable. Continuing
stimulation may produce an intense orgasm. Like the prostate, the
G-spot can produce an fluid like semen (but not as viscous) which
may be released on orgasm- even known to "squirt" a couple of
centimeters.
For comparison, the prostate in men is also located behind the
pubic bone and around the urethra. The two ejaculatory ducts also
end here (bringing sperm from the testis via vas deferens). The
prostate can be reached through the anus (as in Doctors performing
a prostate exam). Continued stimulation of the prostate may produce
intense orgasms in men. The prostate is the glad which produces
most of the seminal fluid that is ejaculated (other than the sperm
in the semen).
For those who never had a close look at a vulva before and are a
bit worried, I should say that, except when quite sincerely
aroused, female genitals are usually clearly set out. The clitoris
likes to hide under it's own little hood, the lips stick pretty
close to one another, and it is quite likely that if the owner of
the genitals is standing up and unaroused you won't really see more
than some enticing tufts of hair and maybe the outer lips. People
whose knowledge of these matters derives mainly from Playboy
pictorials may be quite surprised that there's more here than "just
a hole".
Traditionally it was thought that all of the sensation available
from the female genitals derived from the lips, entrance to the
vagina, and especially the clitoris. In other words, what you see
above. It was thought that the interior of the vagina was
practically numb to sexual sensation.
Now one of those old coots who spent his"professional" time
sticking their noses into other people's intimate businesses was a
guy called Grafenberg. Dr. G. had this theory that there was an
area within the vagina, which was called the Grafenberg spot or
G-spot, which not only was sexually sensitive but which could
trigger bigger and better female orgasms than the clitoris and the
exterior bits could by themselves.
Now the trouble with Dr. G.'s claim was that not everyone seemed to
be able to find this spot, which he reckoned was analogous with the
male prostate gland, and those that did find it didn't necessarily
like it much, and so there was some controversy, especially in the
popular press. A number of folks who did find it and did like it
eventually soused out the mechanics of the spot, and in recent
years there have been a number of good books about it.
The story is basically this: The G-spot is a flat area about as big
as a nickel, about two inches inside the vagina. It's just behind
the pubic bone, on the vaginal wall that is closest to the belly
button. You can reach it with your index finger. If the genitals
you're playing with are not very aroused then you might have
difficulty finding it, or it might not feel very interesting or
nice to the owner. The trick is to make those genitals very
aroused, and then have a go at the G-spot. The best way is probably
cunnilingus, which is Latin for having a lick, but any technique
that provides good stimulation of the clitoris will do for
starters.
Now bear in mind that I'm skipping over a lot here. I strongly
recommend a good deal of foreplay before diving into a woman's
muff, like at least half an hour, and longer if you like. If you
can manage dinner and a good bath beforehand, even better.
Actually, I imagine that a bath or a shower before sex is a
reasonably good idea anyway, because we're dealing with equipment
that can be quite undesirable if it's on the nose when it's on the
nose, if you take my meaning. Besides, bathing together is fun, if
that's an option.
So, presuming that your woman is content with the preliminaries
and you're going hunting, you're going to have to begin by
relaxing. If you're so messed up that slamming your dick in the
door has a pleasurable side to it (sorry feminists, I'm not certain
what the female equivalent to that state is) then forget all this
until you've had a bloody good rogering or two.
Once you've achieved a state of patient interest, slowly start to
stimulate the clitoris. You've got to be really careful here,
because clitori are damned sensitive little beggars, and too much
of a good thing is not really a good thing at all. Also, different
clitori like different things. Some like very direct stimulation,
some prefer one side or the other, others are so sensitive that
they like you to mainly stick to the clitoral hood or the labia.
Some like a circular motion, and others like to be lightly flicked
back and forth. The best way to find out what your clitoris likes
is to ask it's owner, and if she doesn't know then do some
experimentation. That's fun too, so don't get pissed off if it
takes a little while to figure out what's good for you.
As I said, my preferred method is cunnilingus, but if the owner of
your clitoris doesn't like that for some reason ("no, my dear, it's
not germy and it does taste rather nice") then you'll have to use
your fingers. I find that the best thing for clitori is a nice
regular stroke, with regular exotic interludes. Basically it's the
same thing as for penises - you don't want all sorts of
unpredictable jerking around, and you don't want to feel like it's
caught in a vise, and you don't want it to feel like it's attached
to a reciprocating engine going at 5000 revs. Take it easy. If the
owner of your clitoris wants more stimulation you'll notice her
writhing around and pushing it at you. If she wants less then
she'll draw away. If it's just right then she'll sit where she is
and enjoy it. Pay attention to what she does. When it comes to
pleasuring a woman, she says a lot more with her actions than with
her words.
So, you've got a nice regular stroke going - say, seven strokes and
then something exotic, and then another seven strokes and another
something exotic. Of course the G spot is in the vagina, and you're
going to have to know what's going on in there if you're going to
find it and do something with it. Slowly insert a finger or two.
Don't grab, because that can be rude and distracting.
Now hopefully the vagina that you're dealing with is well
lubricated, but that won't necessarily be the case. If you spend a
long time at this even the juiciest woman can start to dry out, so
it never hurts to have a little lubricant handy, just in case. I'd
recommend K-Y jelly, which you should be able to find at any
pharmacy, but there are lots of alternatives. One that I wouldn't
recommend is Vaseline - too thick. Another is baby oil, it's too
thin.
You can entertain yourself by running your finger around the inside
of the vagina, trying to discern its shape. Unless your female is
coming (having an orgasm), you should probably find that the vagina
is reasonably form-fitting, although some are tighter than others.
If your female is not coming or consciously causing contractions
you'll probably find that the vagina isn't doing anything in
particular, just sitting there and producing lubricant. If you
bring your finger to the front wall of the vagina then you'll find
it less yielding than the rest, because there is a bone in front of
it called the pubic bone, part of the pelvis. If you feel along
this unyielding section or just beyond you may find a slightly
raised area. This is the G spot. It might not be raised, but it
will engorge once your female starts to come.
Don't poke this spot yet. Don't do anything with it, yet. At best
you won't have any effect, and at worst you'll be distracting.
You've got to wait for your female to start to come. Now this might
happen in thirty seconds, or it might take an hour, and you've just
got to be patient and keep things regular and smooth. You'll be
able to tell your woman is coming when:
she tells you: she moans one hell of a lot and her breathing
changes
she flushes: over her face, neck and/or chest
her vagina begins to flutter rhythmically around your finger
You may see all of these things, or you may see none of them. If
you miss an orgasm, don't stop unless you or she wants to. Women
have startling recuperative powers, particularly when they're
receiving the right level of attention, and generosity is its own
reward. Multiple orgasms are not mythical.
Once you believe that your woman is coming you should shift your
attention from the clitoris to the G spot. Keep up