Obviously it's not only physical. Some major factors before even
getting in to it:
1. Time
Time of month, time of day, time of year. If it is the wrong time,
it ain't going to happen.
2. Mood
She better be very happy and ready to do anything. She needs to be
confident and ready to take the next step with you.
3. Environment
From music to your room setting. If you're a slop and ill-prepared,
nothing is going to happen.
You may think those are basic, but so many "clueless" men get into
it without ever thinking about those four basic things. I know sad,
very sad.
Step 1: Making the Right Move
If you meet the other criteria I listed, and that is not easy to
do, your shot at a one-night stand or successfully making love will
improve. Regardless of the occasion this strategy will work on most
women (80%). The exception would be super models, I am just
guessing here. Before I get into this first stop of foreplay (sorry
guys there are 2 steps), let me credit Men's Health for really
being a help. That magazine has been the best investment I as a guy
have ever made.
You must understand guys, women will not get naked if they feel
insecure (ie: they have tons of flaws). If you want them naked
(especially in the light), give them confidence. This is done by
romantically complimenting them. Notice the romantic? That does not
mean saying saying, "Your legs are as smooth as my condom." Wrong,
but I know plenty of guys that would pull that line. although I
would not compliment her legs at first (start with the face), if
you are going to shoot first with her legs say, "Your legs are as
soft as a cool breeze." That sounds ten times more romantic and
sweet. Women's insecurity is majorly in three areas (according to
Cosmo):
1. Butt
2. Legs/Hips
3. Boobs
Ironically, though, women think it is most romantic if you first
compliment them on their eyes and hair. Like I stated start with
facial features. You can move your way down after that, but
remember that the lower you get too early, the less chance of
anything happening. Stay focused on her facial area as you
compliment her and look her in her eyes with wonder. She'll realize
that this is more than just some good fun, but something that is
going to be special. Men tend to forget a lot of times that it is
about an intimate connection during sex.
Guys also don't get speech sometimes. Females prefer the gentle
whisper over rough yelling (we're talking about at the beginning).
I dated a girl who loved rough dirty talk, and I ignored that part
about her and pulled off my gentle whispers trick. She loves
whispering now even more. Practice makes perfect, so if you're not
quite sure how you sound get a tape recorder and find out and just
practice. But you have to be good ...
To do it right: a soft whisper very lightly blowing near where her
ear is (note: not necessarily in her ear, but near it). Compliment
her romantically very gently, make her want to kiss you BAD.
Whatever ear you are close to (right or left) go to the nearest
cheek and gently kiss and blow very softly, move a half an inch
towards her lips, kiss and blow again. Cross over her lips not
kissing them but kissing and blowing her other cheek until you get
to her ear, and then romantically compliment her some more. Repeat
this several times, make her beg to kiss you, but don't give in
yet. She just might beat you to it though ... Also after a few
times around it is ok to do a LITTLE (notice that word there)
wetter kisses, as these can really drive a girl nuts when you blow
on them. Some guys have used a special kind of peppermint that give
a tingly sensation when you blow on it. Basically you get the girls
cheek a little wet and then blow. Yeah, it drives a girls nut, but
this is just the beginning!
So finally your lips meet. Go gently at first, men like it rough
too quickly. All women have different tastes when it comes to
making out, but here are a few women tend to HATE:
1. The hanging tongue: letting your tongue hang in her mouth
without movement.
2. The darting tongue: no explanation needed.
3. Playing with teeth equipment: again no explanation needed.
Some they tend to LIKE:
1. Gently rubbing your tongue against their top lip causing a
tingling sensation (the peppermint can REALLY enhance this!).
2. Gently playing tongue tennis.
3. Gently stroking inside lip or top of mouth with tongue.
Amazing how it's all soft and gentle! Since every woman is
different pay attention to what she likes, you'll notice this by
rapid breathing and moaning - this right here is the greatest
indication that what you are doing is working. The same strategy
goes for kissing her neck, gently soft blowing and kissing. You'll
see what I mean. Patience will lead to some awesome sex before it's
all over with, you'll see.
Before I go on, let me just say if your girlfriend does not want to
go any farther than my last step mentioned respect her!!! It is not
ever a gentleman like thing to push a girl to do something she is
not ready to do. If she doesn't want to have sex until marriage,
respect her!
That being said, if she does want to go further, and you followed
the last steps you will know right off. She will begin to want you
to do things "farther down." It would be much easier if she got
fully naked for this next step, but if she only takes off her shirt
and bra, go with that.
This next step required one of three or all of three things:
1. Tongue
2. Massage oil/hands
3. Feather
A diamond may be a girl's best friend in life, but a feather is a
girl's best friend in bed - trust me! 
Depending on how fully naked she is you are
going to gently stroke her with feather/oiled hand/tongue all over
her body except three areas: her two nipples, and her
vagina/clitoris area. You will gently stroke every place on her
body going around those areas very gently for quite some time. Each
time you go over her body once, then go and whisper something a
little naughty and very gently in her ear. Saying something like
"Your goosebumps are incredibly sexy."
Top places girls loved to rubbed in:
1. Behind the knees
2. Neck
3. Back
4. Legs/hips
5. Feet
6. Around vagina area
7. Around boobs
Basically their whole body. Spend a great deal of time doing this.
The girl will very quickly beg you to "go inside of her." That is
because she will get incredibly turned on if you do this
right.
After much begging, don't go inside of her, instead rub the
feather/oiled hands/tongue over her nipples. Now gently stroke her
entire body including her nipples, and gently go around her vagina
area. Blow softly when you go over this area.
(BONUS TIP: To add some pleasure and fun take a couple of mints and
kiss her really wetly with "minty breath" then blow gently on the
wet spot. This causes a tingling sensation if done right.)
Very soon she will be begging, maybe even forcing you to go inside
of her. Basically, she's primed and ready. But guess what? You
still aren't going to get inside. First you are going to do some
oral action with her clit (Next step). Before you get there make
sure to whisper more dirty thoughts in her ear and kiss her cheeks
and lips. Also kiss her eyes (when they are closed). Tell her she
is beautiful and tell her what you are about to do (in a romantic,
and gently dirty way).
Once again be sure to be gentle and patient. By this time 99% of
men are so hard that their patience is growing thin, but trust me
your pay off will be so worth it.
