Did you know it takes the average woman
about 12-14 minutes before being able to
climax? What’s even worse, did you know
it takes the average man only 2-3 minutes!
The problem faced by almost every guy is being able to last long
enough for our partner to finish. We’re not being selfish or
inconsiderate. It just happens. So, we’ve all tried the cliché
responses of thinking about baseball, a math problem, grandma in a
tube top, or anything else that’ll keep us from losing it. But does
it really work?
Try as you might, it is still going to happen. The male body was
just designed to orgasm before a woman’s. Speed is built into the
pesky Y chromosome of the species to ensure our survival. So, maybe
that’s a good thing. After all, if you give a woman enough time,
she’ll sober up and realize the horrible mistake of sleeping with
you in the first place. But for those of us who aren’t as worried
that a woman will run away screaming when the lights come on, here
are a few things you can do to please and satisfy your
partner:
Tip #1: Play it
Cool
Age has a lot to do with your climax control. Someone older and
more experienced has had time to figure out what works for him to
delay ejaculation. Also with age comes the familiarity to be
relaxed and comfortable during sex. The biggest problem for teens
and young men is the anxiety of being with someone new or being
nervous about sex in general and your skills at it. Or more likely,
the sight and especially the touch of a naked woman is a billion
times more intense than your “alone time” with the hidden stash of
girlie magazines and tapes and of course . . . ta da! The Internet!
Mmm . . . electronic porn.
Being able to relax during sex goes a long way. Realize that sex
isn’t a competition or a test of your manhood. Once you get
comfortable in your own skin (and hers), you’ll be able to enjoy
the moment and your fears and anxieties about sex will pass
Tip #2:
Masturbation
Another problem with youth – but also a huge factor at any age – is
masturbation. Let’s face it. You’ve just discovered the wonderland
that is your body and the rides are FREEEEE!! The problem arises
when you take a few too many turns. Over masturbation can actually
make you come faster. You’re teaching your body what feels good and
training it to orgasm even faster than it already does. Remember? 2
to 3 minutes!
We’re not asking you to stop masturbating. What’s the point of
living if that were the case? What we ARE asking you to do is to
make sure you don’t over do it. Excessive masturbation makes your
penis more sensitive. Also, the parasympathetic nerves responsible
for ejaculation control happen to be the same as the ones that give
you an erection. Constant use can “wear out” the nerves and make it
harder for you to not only control ejaculation, but to get a firm
erection in the first place.
Also, over masturbation exerts your body’s resources of hormones
and nutrients. You think sperm just magically appears? Well,
sometimes. But for the other times, the ingredients needed by your
body to produce your demon seeds are also needed for other sexual
and bodily functions. Regulating how much you use up can go a long
way in keeping you from coming too soon
Tip #3: Health and
Diet
Your age and health have a lot to do with your sexual abilities.
Everyone reaches a point of life when the body begins to slow down
and your risk factor for certain health concerns rise. Men have to
worry about their prostate health as they pass the age of forty;
fatty foods and genetics may make your blood pressure an issue; a
low production of testosterone due to age or diet may be a factor;
or an imbalance of hormones due to hyperthyroidism or some other
hormonal condition may all reduce your ability to delay orgasm. By
ensuring your good health, you may just add a few more minutes to
your bedroom escapades.
If you already have health problems, then realize that the
medication you are currently taking may actually reduce your sexual
endurance. A loss of libido, a weak erection, and premature
ejaculation are common side effects to some drugs. Besides
prescription and over-the-counter medication, illegal drugs (such
as marijuana, cocaine, ecstasy, etc.) are notorious for taking the
wind out of your sails. Most likely to happen are impotence and a
diminished sex drive, but problems with ejaculation control can
also occur.
Lastly, just be aware that your diet and the amount of exercise you
get can affect your time in the sheets. Caffeine has actually been
documented to shorten your intercourse length. Large amounts of red
meat and fatty foods can affect sexual health. Even weight gainers
and testosterone boosters for body builders and exercise
enthusiasts can ruin your ejaculation control. So control your diet
and regulate the amount of exercise you’re getting – it helps more
than your general health.
Tip #4: Techniques and
Exercises
If you’re looking for a more proactive approach to delaying
orgasms, then the best thing to do is to “train” yourself to
control the point of ejaculation. Like your reflex reaction to cry
like a little girl when you get slapped, your body has an instinct
of when to orgasm when stimulated. There are several things you can
do to delay this reaction, such as the Natural Ejaculation Control
Technique, where controlled breathing and meditative efforts help
teach your body to endure physical stimulation.
Another technique known as the Masters and Johnson’s Squeeze Method
teaches how to find the point of no return and learning to avoid
it. Or the similar form known as the Start-Stop Method. Both of
these techniques require a partner and are designed to build your
tolerance to the heightened stimulation of sex and to control when
you ejaculate.
A simpler option known as the Kegel Exercise is extremely easy to
do. It’s so easy in fact, that I’m doing it right now as I’m typing
this! (No I’m not. But I could be. It’s that easy!) But one thing
you should be aware of is overuse of the Kegel Exercise can
actually have the opposite effect of what you want. That’s right.
You could actually kill your ability to control ejaculation, so be
cautious.
Tip #5: Herbal Products and
Drugs
Perhaps the easiest and most effective way to give you that extra
endurance during sex is through herbal supplements. Your body loses
a lot of nutrients, chemicals, and hormones throughout the normal
course of the day. Extracurricular activities like masturbation and
sex further drain your body’s resource of these essential building
blocks. Herbs offer a fast and simple way to replenish these
essential materials and provide extra energy. The added benefit of
improving your general vitality and any existing health problem
makes it a natural way for better healing.
Dietary supplements further aid orgasm delay by strengthening the
nerves responsible for ejaculation control. These sexual nerves –
also responsible for a hard erection – can be weakened by the
friction and overuse of masturbation, insufficient
neurotransmitters (the substance that transmits nerve impulses) due
to improper diet and drugs, or the blockage of sexual stimulus from
alcohol and smoking. By nourishing and fortifying these nerves, you
can dramatically increase your sexual stamina. (Want to learn more
about how herbs strengthen sexual nerves? Click Here)
Along with herbs, there are topical agents to desensitize the
penis. Numbing the sensation of sex can help add the few extra
minutes you’re looking for. However, your partner may not enjoy the
smell and trouble of this method. Also, topical agents must be used
continuously for desired results. Herbs are easier to take. And
once your body has healed and you’ve reinforced your ejaculation
control, you can choose to stop taking herbal supplements. Don’t
cover up the problem. Solve it.