Female Ejaculation? You mean women can ejaculate like
men? Yes, we women can ejaculate – as many soaked
towels in my laundry basket can attest to!
Many of us women are simultaneously curious and
timid about the subject. Did you know that many women
ejaculate already without actually knowing they are doing it?
It can be an intimidating concept to imagine gushing crazy
amounts of fluid when you orgasm, but it can open you up to a new
level of sexuality and can offer you the wildest, deepest,
wettest orgasms ever!
As you might have guessed by now, the g spot is a big player in
squirting – in fact female ejaculation is even sometimes referred
to as
g spot female
ejaculation.
Its helpful to know that some women experience ejaculation due to
stimulation to the g-spot alone; others can ejaculate with clitoral
stimulation and others (like me!) do best with a combination of
both.
However, the g spot (with or without direct stimulation) is the
key area as it becomes engorged and swells when
aroused and thus sets in motion the release of ejaculate
fluid.
To get started with female ejaculation, set aside some time to
do the exercise we've written for you below.
Also, you still might be wondering what the substance of
female
ejaculate is made of, as well as where
it comes from. If are like most people, you have probably heard
that it is just pee, but this is not the case.
Although it is released via the urethra – the same tube we
release urine from – it is not pee! In fact, many cultures refer to
it as sacred female sexual fluid or “amrita.”
This female ejaculation exercise is for you – the woman - to get
comfortable touching and stimulating yourself, and bringing
yourself to ejaculation.
Leave about 45 minutes to an hour for this female ejaculation
exercise. You don’t need much – gather some lube, a couple of
towels, a small hand mirror, and your favorite dildo or vibrator
(harder is better than soft).
Here is what I keep on hand:
sex sheet,
lube, acuvibe and a
crystal wand.
You may also want to pee before starting, so that later during the
exercise, you know you are not peeing, you are experiencing female
ejaculation.
During this female ejaculation exercise, feel free to use a
small hand mirror to see what you look like touching yourself and
ejaculating – it is not something you often get to view!
1. Take a hot shower or bath, and get really relaxed and
comfortable. Its really important with female ejaculation that you
be relaxed and open (you are, after all, letting something
out!)
2. Set yourself up in a cozy and comfortable location, with
several layers of towels or the sex sheet underneath you. You will
likely want to be reclining or sitting up – lying down on your back
will probably not allow you to reach your g spot.
3. Begin to touch yourself, using your fingers or a dildo or
vibrator - any and all of your favorite techniques to get yourself
really hot. You can touch your clitoris, as well as your
g-spot.
4. When you are pretty aroused, take a moment to find and play
with your g spot. Reaching your g-spot with just your fingers might
be hard – it depends on where yours is exactly.
To locate yours, take one or two fingers (you might want to use
lube) and insert them inside yourself, palm up, fingers hooked, and
feel around about 1½ inches in, on the front wall of your vagina,
just above the pubic bone.
You will likely find a pea or walnut sized spot that feels a
different texture from the rest of the vagina. Play with this spot,
and notice what feels best to you. Also try using your vibrator or
dildo (again with lube) – it can offer much more access and control
when playing with your g-spot.
5. You can try the “withdrawing” technique of rubbing the g-spot
directly in a series of 5-6 repetitions, and then withdraw fully
your fingers or the vibrator suddenly; wait about 2-3 seconds and
then repeat. This can bring on ejaculation, and you often see this
technique used in videos.
6. If it doesn’t, just keep heading toward orgasm, touching
either your clit or gspot (or both), whatever works best for you.
Either way, keep noticing the full or watery feeling you are likely
experiencing.
If you bring yourself to orgasm, rather than stopping, keep
touching yourself – see what happens when you go beyond orgasm,
when you would ordinarily stop.
7. If you feel like you need to pee, you are on the right track
– but rather than backing off, push into this feeling. I have found
that I need to relax to let the ejaculate come out, but you may
find you need to assist with pushing out.
8. You are there! You are not peeing, you are experiencing
female ejaculation! Don’t worry about getting the area wet – that
is what the towels or the sex sheet are for – just relax, release
and let go.
9. Take a moment to appreciate your body and its capacity for
such immense pleasure, and the amazing experience of female
ejaculation.
If you didn't ejaculate this time, don't worry! Think back on
this female ejaculation exercise - what felt good, what you
noticed, where you got stuck or blocked, etc. Think of a few things
you'll do differently next time, and then try it again on another
day.
Practice does make perfect after all : )
You might be wondering what exactly is this
substance of female ejaculate? And if it is released
through the urethra but is not urine – which it is not – then what
exactly is it?
It is interesting to know that men also release ejaculate
through their urethra, the same tube they pee from. In fact, the
whole process of female ejaculation is much like male
ejaculation.
Confused at all? Here’s a brief description of the process:
As a woman, when you get turned on, your whole pelvic area
begins to get hot and aroused, and the glands that surround your
urethra, (called Skene’s paraurethral glands, if you care) start to
fill up. This is why sometimes when the g spot gets stimulated,
you may feel like you need to pee. Many of these
glands cluster to make up the organ known as the beloved g
spot.
When you feel your gspot get engorged and protrude more into the
vagina, it is the organ filling with female
ejaculate. The fluid will either get recycled into the
bladder and will come out when you next pee, or it will be released
through your urethra as female ejaculation. At times this
can mean a few teaspoons, and at others a cup or more!
You still might be wondering - is it urine? The
answer is, no, it isn’t! It is a fluid that can be either “milky”
or clear, that usually has little or no odor or taste, although
this can change depending on your diet or where you are in your
menstrual cycle.
The fluid of female ejaculate is a mixture of glucose, fructose,
some hormones and acids known as PSA and PAP, with here and there
traces of urine. OK – enough of the
scientific.
Although you now know a bit more about female ejaculate, many
cultures have not only known about it since ancient times but have
both celebrated and revered it.
In fact, it was known as “Liquor Vitae” in Ancient Rome, “The
Third Water” in Taoist traditions, “Waters of Gaia” or “Waters of
Life” in many different indigenous cultures, and is referred to by
Tantric or Indian traditions as “Amrita.” In ancient Japan, it was
common for women to own “Ejaculation Bowls” for capturing the flow
for later use.
And how was it used? Female ejaculate is considered by many to
be an aphrodisiac. Many ancient cultures
considered it to be a health tonic that had the ability to reverse
the aging process, and so they drank it and made tea out of it.
Many traditions believe that both male ejaculate and female
ejaculate are needed for conception.
OK, so even though most of us won’t be making tea out of
female ejaculate, I can recommend a few essential items
for your own exploration. Fingers and tongues are excellent, but
consider adding the
crystal wand to your
bag of tricks. It was the first toy that really helped my find my g
spot and ejaculate much more easily.
And, because you likely don't want to have an ejaculation bowl
like in ancient times, I recommend this
sex sheet
underneath you. Conversely, you can put down a couple of towels,
but we've found that sometimes these soak through and leave a set
spot.
Also, now that we've been experimenting with this for awhile,
I'll be ready to ejaculate without even planning with it. This then
used to leave us scrambling for towels, or just messing up the bed
and mattress which bothered me.
Now, with this
sex sheet
we just throw it down when we start having sex and then I can
ejaculate or not. It's got a waterproof inner lining, and a smooth
satin side, and a furry side.
Lately, I've taken to calling it my magic carpet! Generally, I
just love we can throw this down on our sofa, on the floor, or on
our bed, and it soaks up whatever comes out.
