I used to think experienced guys would make better lovers in a
relationship. However, looking back and seeing the relationships
breaking up around me due to infidelity, I finally realized
something. This "liberal" society has been focusing so much on
sexual freedom that it neglects to address the values of promise
and commitment. Instant gratification, immediate pleasure, else
it's on to the next lover! Many people dun realize however
pleasurable the feelings an exp lover can give u, it is only
temporary. If you're in a long-term relationship, other factors
like handling the bills, withstanding each other's quirky habits,
pressure from family, work, household matters will set in.
As everyone knows, the mind is the greatest and most influential
organ in love-making. When pressure from all directions set in,
regardless of how skilled a lover is, without building a strong
foundation of understanding, sex will still not be pleasurable
because it's all in the mind. By then, you would connect the notion
of stress with the image of your partner, which is why some
husbands can have the most good-looking wives at home yet still go
out to fool around.
Also, the more sexual partners you have, the more dissatisfied
you get with your current partner. Therefore, instead of focusing
on how to bring your sexual intimacy to the next level, your mind
would be fantasizing abt how great your other lovers are.
By plunging into an immediate sexual relationship, the sexual
chemistry blinds us to partners which would have turn out to be
unsuitable for us had we been able to look at him/her in a rational
state of mind. We could have avoided all that heartbreak and
"complications" but because by then we are too emotionally
invested, we are too heart-pained to realize anything else.
Hence my preference would be, it doesn't matter if my partner is
experienced or non-experienced. The most important thing would be
to focus in the now with my partner. We need to build more trust
and understanding before we embark on physical intimacy.
Else sex would gradually erode into a non-special event
which something such a
vibrator can satisfy and as mundane as getting up for work,
fu(k and roll off.
