starblue SG yah loh... i think i like that kind of feeling a lot more than the feeling of being in love...
brokenluv SG hmmm…we were talking bout stuff andi asked a girl if im special / impt to her… then she say ask her 6 mths later if we are still toking.. wad is she implying?? shes not looking for a relationship? or shes jus testing wether im serious or wad..?
starblue SG maybe you asked too early in the rs. she doesnt feel comfy answering such questions. but if thats exactly the way she phrased it, then perhaps it hints that she has entertained the thought that the rs will have some progress in the next 6 months. then again, just one paragraph liddat is too vague for me to analyse accurately lah...
starblue SG eh... wait, on sec thought... that "if we are still toking" sounds as if she is skeptical about a continued friendship/rs.... hmmm.... its really too hard to tell.
brokenluv SG orh okay...cause my friend says she might not be looking for a r/s but im not exactly sure... she said 6mths later if rmb then ask her...oh ya she oso included if you ( me ) ve the patience ba? have?? is she asking me to be patient and test whether i really like her? or telling me if i can wait that long then she will accept me? oh ya we were talking on msn and she suddenly showed me a love letter( quite touching d )she read b4 d, means sth?
gigabyte14 SG archerly rite, i think many people in sg are confused to the “more than friends” term and the ‘couple’ term
starblue SG erm..... /ps rainee jie.. a lil help here leh... you're a gal also mah... help to give advice to the poor souls here leh... i think hor.... best bet is to wait 6 months loh. and during this time, assess if you really like her or not loh... she sounds like a really difficult case. the love letter thing... erm.... i dunno wad it means lah... where did she get that from? some blog??
starblue SG is it?? but i am confident i can love someone without ever getting into a rs with him leh... in fact hor.... sometimes rs scare me so much that i'd rather dan1 lian4 then to make it official. so hor, if i know the guy also like me back, then i will be really satisfied le leh... no need to go into the rs path de.... at least not immediately lah. i wouldnt know wad to do in a rs loh. but if dun have that "title" of a gf hor, i will be more at ease and more treat him more naturally de loh...
rainee SG no guarantee she will accept you la...and the love letter thing, it might not mean anything. It might be something that touched her and she decided to show it to you on a whim. So don't read too much into it. If you can wait, then 6 months later ask her again if she is interested. But meanwhile, do keep your options open
rainee SG haha...maybe I am different ba, I will feel more secure once I know that the guy is committed to me. Because if I just love him from afar, there is no guarantee one day he will go away with another girl
starblue SG sometimes i wonder if i am just plain weird... cos i realise that i sound like mistress-material in that post.
starblue SG wah piangzz... ok, i got a question... no one in this world is perfect, right? so what do you people do when you realise those those imperfections in your partner? do you honestly think that you can live with those things that might irritate you to no end for the rest of your lives???
rainee SG Like what I have said before, I acknowledge the flaws in my partner, but it is because I can see that he has more good points than his flaws. Can't say I dun have my own weaknesses too, Rin can testify to that
starblue SG so wad do you do liddat? tolerate his flaws for the rest of your lives? what makes you confident that you can do that? and not feel too sick and tired of all the irritating stuff he does after say, 10 years into the marriage/rs?
rainee SG Of cos will feel tired and irritated at times, but that's when I will remind myself that he has his good points also, so will try to tolerate lor. If it gets too bad, I will point them out to him and hope he will change a little bit But wun try to change him too much la Actually hor, if dun have those flaws and what you called the irritating traits, it wun be him anymore
starblue SG really ah?? i dunno if i will ever be able to do that loh... i see my dad with all those disgusting stuff, and i really, really, really wonder how my mum can live with that man for 25 years..... i dunno if i will be able to do the same...
rainee SG for me it is like, I will remind myself, that I also have my own flaws and weaknesses. If he can tolerate them so well and can still see all my good points, why can't I do the same? Relationship is all about compromise and learning to live with another person
