I read this shocking post below in cozycot and
flowerpod awhile ago and feel I should post this here to
caution all girls.I know 1 of his ex girlfriend and this man
works at St Luke's Elderly Care and goes to St Theresa's
church.
Please read the post below and not fall victim.
links -
http://forums.cozycot.com/relationship/48960-theo-batman-theodr-really-a-friend-or-a-player-in-sheeps-clothing.html
http://flowerpod.com.sg/forums/Theo-batman-theodr-Friend-Player-Sheep-s-Clothing-t88975.html
The year started on the down side...at least for me...lost a
friend due to mishandling of certain issues
I got to know a fellow forumer afew months back through a mutual
friend.The friendship started off with casual chats and soon
realised we could clique in terms of common topics and a whole
string of amazing coincidences.
He was recovering from a rather bad patch of relationship that
ended only about 4mths back.I told myself not to judge him for what
had happened and opened up to be a friend & at the same time
get to know him better...
After knowing him we have been communicating via msn,smses &
occasional phonecalls almost everyday & before I realised mixed
signals started to come in through our daily conversations. He
started asking me out numerous times,suggesting meeting up even
before my biztrips,updating his whereabouts,nitty gritty things
happening in his daily life whether I am in SG or on biz
trips,sending constant thoughtful smses ( eg: Hows your day?, Did
you rest well?, Have u eaten?,Hows work? & so on...just to name
afew...) When I fell ill,his concerns would come numerous times
daily which in no way a platonic male friend relatively new would
do.He also mentioned to a friend that he feels potential in
me.
It escalated from time to time with concern in actions and
ultimately showing up all of a sudden at the hospital when 1 of my
family member is gravely ill. Accompanying the whole string of
signals & actions, I was deeply touched.I questioned his
intentions of doing so as it had caused abit of speculations among
family members who have met him. He told me that he just wanted to
see how I was coping and commented if my family members were
helping him *score points* and if I was attracted or felt anything
... amidst many ambiguous hints that came before this...in covers
of being *shy* etc...On Xmas day he even offered to meetup &
wanted to lend me a book of encouragement to tide through the
difficult time while he was with his family in church...
His actions & responses were obvious enough for people around
me to start asking & quickly assume what was going on.
I had wanted to find an opportunity to speak to him about it but
was at the same time bogged with workload & shuttling to &
fro the hospital to take care of the sick patient everyday.
Afew days ago I found out from him after I asked about what his
achieved xmas wish was...that he is seeing someone else, alot of
emotions was gushing within me when I 1st heard it and after
cooling off to prevent further damage I decided to have 1 last
conversation with him to clear things off before I cut off all
contacts and move on as I know continue being friends is likely to
lead to a vicious cycle.It was a decision best to the situation but
not by choice
He denied & tried to justify all his actions & signals by
claiming that he has all along been cheeky,just wanted to show
concern as a platonic friend etc etc which was all expected even
before I spoke to him.
No one who goes around fishing whether intentionally or not would
admit to doing so.
I questioned why he mentioned that there was potential when we were
just platonic friends? He did not further explained but merely
apologized. I took it as it is giving him the benefit of doubt that
he could have missed out the question.wanting to end things amiably
so I left things as it was...till I was told this morning that he
had a conversation with 1 of my very close pal yesterday
nite...& also read the log awhile ago. He admitted having
messed up the friendship but repetitively evade the * potential
issue * when probbed by my close pal. If he can justify for his
actions so quickly by putting it off as being mere cheeky, y didnt
he dare to see a statement he made in the eye?
To my disappointment...I can only conclude that he was just seeking
options among his pool of potential girls as rebound? viod-filling?
or whatever reasons he may have, I unwittedly crossed his path and
ended feeling hurt & upset...
I offered a sincere friendship from the start & sad it had to
end like that.I take it as a lesson learnt... & wish him all
the best in whatever he does or achieve to do in future...
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To make things worse after I posted this experience on
another women's forum yesterday,a string of other girls who were
once victim or had friends who are victim came to msg me asking if
it was this particular forum user when his name/nick was not even
mentioned yet.Girls or even Guys please beware of this player in
sheep's clothing as he is very active in popular forums
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