An unexpected outcome for my recent pregnancy

Mrs Bubbly SG

Everything went well in my pregnancy and hubby and I were looking forward to my 2nd baby who is expected to be deliver tomorrow.

But unexpected situation happened when I went for my routine check-up in my 36 weeks of my pregnancy. My baby's heartbeat has stopped and he was dead.

We were very devasted when we heard the news and there were noting that we can do about this. The next procedure was that I had to give birth to him to end this pregnancy.

Finally, on 30 May, I gave birth to him naturally. The cause of his death was clear. He was strangled by his umbilical cord around his neck in my womb. I carried him in my arms and took a last look at him. He looked just perfectly normal like any other newborn but the only thing was that he wasn't moving and breathing anymore. After 2 mins, I passed him back to the mid-wife and told myself that I had to let him go.

It has been three weeks after this incident. I missed him dearly but I have to be strong for my son and family members. I will try to conceive again when I have recover and ready.

I learn that I should never take things for granted from this incident. I should have been more careful.

octega SG

Take care manz.

^spidee^ SG

Crying or Very sad May your baby rest in peace. It wasn't your fault mah.

Mrs Bubbly SG

Yeah, I know that it's not my fault and there's noting I could have done to prevent it.

I actuallyfelt my baby's inactivity the day before the check-up but I was hopeful that this could not have happened to my baby although I heard stories about it.

hisoka SG

i would say just forget about it. but i think thats only applicable to certain pple like myself and i doubt it would help you.

so just to say take care and try not to think

Mrs Bubbly SG

Yes, I will try to forget this painful incident but I think the memories of this baby will always stay in my mind.

I will be able to overcome this fear until the next baby to be delivered. I don't dare to expect much just be healthy and normal.

jOhO SG

when we lose something, it's always good to focus on and appreciate what we still HAVE.

for you, it'll be your husband and first child. Wink

Mrs Bubbly SG

Yes. I know I need to be strong for them. Initially, I had hard times adjusting my mood to focus my energy on my son. I lost my patience with him easily.

But after a while, I told myself that I have to be back to normal so that I won't regret what I have done. Now, I am happy to have my son to be with me and he loves my company.

shinta SG

this got me wondering… how can this kind of thing happen? i mean teh cord strangglin the foetus..

Mrs Bubbly SG

He could have been turning and changing position in our womb. This happen in 1% of all pregnancy.

At the very last trimester, the baby would have grown very rapidly and the space in the womb will be very restricted and confined.

His weight was about 2.5kg when I delivered him at his 9th month. It's like the size of a normal newborn.

shinta SG

Sad

this reminds me... there was this doc who claimed that my bro died in my mother's womb.. and he's alive n kickin now... not very tall, my height..

imagine i would not have my bro if my mother had believed that stupid doc Mad

Mrs Bubbly SG

Ultrasound scanning is never 100% accurate and I believe her gynae was also not 100% sure that there's any fetal problem based on that.

But for my case, it's quite sure because we could no longer hear his hearbeat and seen it. It's totally quiet.

When I feel about the baby's inactivity the day before, I had the bad feeling that something must have happened to my baby. But as you know, we always feel that we are not that unlucky and such things will never happen to us.

To think back, it's really scary and devasting feeling that I will never forget easily. It's even more hurting than anything else. It's the fear that I gonna carry thru next pregnancy till my baby is able to be delivered healthy and alive.