The Scorpio
Woman
There are two keywords you should remember about the Scorpio
woman: depth - meaning that hers is a subtle, complex, and
never obvious temperament, and will - meaning that this woman is
not about to bow her head to anyone or anything, unless it's
temporarily necessary to achieve an end. You might also keep
in mind other Scorpio qualities: the famous possessiveness,
intensity, pride, loyalty. No Scorpio is either easy to
understand, or easy to live with; but then, if you wanted something
light and frothy and unobtrusive, you'd be with someone else,
wouldn't you?
Let's consider the business of depth. Scorpio is a sign
which never takes a superficial view of life; it's almost
impossible for the Scorpio woman to accept something at face
value. This can span a pretty broad range, from the
caricature Scorpio who, when you say 'Good morning', wonders
exactly what you mean by it, to the Scorpio whose motivation and
deepest need is to understand - both herself and the people around
her. In short, this is a woman who expects something more
from a relationship than surface tokens. Love, to Scorpio, is
more than demonstrations of affections or security or sexual
gratification, or even intellectual camaraderie. It's a bond
which - hopefully, from her point of view - touches the soul, and
means no secrets. No secrets doesn't mean the superficial way
of interpreting it either, like where were you at five o'clock on
Thursday afternoon. It means that she expects honesty of
character. Scorpio, being a water sign, has a lot of
compassion, which usually comes from her own propensity to torment
herself. The Scorpio woman is probably more capable than any
other of both understanding and accepting human weaknesses and
human darkness. She's not afraid of ugliness, internal or
external, because to Scorpio dark and light make life
interesting. What she can't stand is the hypocrite, the
person who lives in pretence. If you need your masks and your
props, stay away from this woman, because that x-ray eye will see
through the lot; and she won't stop at seeing, either.
There's a strong tendency to try to remake others in Scorpio, and
the Scorpio woman will often take it upon herself, consciously or
unconsciously, to help transform you - especially if you've got a
lot to hide.
Unfortunately for her, there are a great many men roaming the world
to whom the idea of being emotionally honest, or straightforward in
revealing their own motives, is absolute horror.
Not that that's such a reprehensible thing. It isn't easy to
face the mirror, not to the degree Scorpio thinks you should face
it. But this is the one area where the Scorpio woman shows
her intolerance. She can accept anything in anybody except
what she considers to be weakness of character - that is, the
person who hasn't the strength to face himself. And she can
be pretty scornful, and pretty scathing, if she feels let
down.
That propensity for depth is a double-edged sword. On the one
hand, it makes her a rare woman, because she's capable of not only
seeing but also sharing your pain and your dreams and your burdens;
and her enormous strength of will and loyalty are unshakeable even
when yours are flagging a little. But her expectations are
high; and it isn't easy to live up to them. Basically, she
expects that you, like her, should want to be constantly engaged in
the great alchemical work of transformation, nothing less. If
you happen to prefer sailing and cowboy films to introspection, you
might have to explain yourself. Your only chance is in
convincing her of the justice of your rights to be yourself.
Justice is a thing the Scorpio woman understands. Her sense
of justice is so keen and so sensitive and it's virtually
inflexible. If she thinks you're in the right, then she's
capable of sacrificing completely her own desires and
opinions. If she thinks you're in the wrong, and you don't
apologize or change your viewpoint, she'll retaliate.
Let's talk about retaliation, since, if you're involved with a
Scorpio, you'll have to get used to the concept. Scorpio's
sense of justice, as we mentioned, is pretty acute. It isn't
an intellectually based judgmental faculty like Libra's either;
it's a powerful, gut-level, emotional reaction to any situation
where she feels she's been abused and treated wrongly. This
can range from being rejected or insulted - which in the case of
the more paranoid Scorpio may mean an imaginary rejection or insult
- to betrayal. Betrayal is perhaps the thing she hates and
fears the most. And if she feels betrayed, she's more likely
to strike back than to turn the other cheek. Nice Christian
patience and mildness are not, repeat not, qualities which you
should be trying to find in Scorpio. It's good basic,
primitive stuff - eye for an eye, and all that. Never
maliciously, or with cruelty. Just enough to teach you a
lesson.
Does it sound a little hair-raising? Well, it depends on how
you
look at it. The Scorpio woman's feelings run deep and
intense, and she doesn't like them to be taken lightly. She's
hurt easily because of this intensity and sensitivity, although she
can't really be hurt by people in general - only those few she
really cares about. Scorpio is extremely selective in love
and friendship. Everybody else can go to hell. She
isn't intimidated by either public disapproval or snide comments or
gossip behind her back. Only from those people who she loves
and respects can a criticism or a rejection wound. But then
it really wounds. And whether you argue philosophically about
the rightness or wrongness of it, that's her stance. Injure
her and she'll injure you back, if at all possible. Unless,
of course, you did it accidentally. Then she'll forget about
it immediately, because that isn't the same thing.
Scorpio has a long memory for both good and ill. Help her,
show her encouragement, and she'll always remember it. Betray
her and she'll never trust again. In fact, very likely she
doesn't really trust you in the first place, or anybody for that
matter, because her sensitive and virtually psychic perception of
human character tells her that nobody, is really a saint.
She's always on her guard, against life and against the shadowy
side of others, and against the more convoluted fears and desires
in herself. It takes a long time before Scorpio settles into
a relationship. She may seem to. But she'll watch for a
long time to make sure that you're what you say you
are.
Of what use, you may well ask, is this kind of
hypersensitivity? Why not just go out and enjoy life and take
the bitter with the sweet? Fine if you're a Sagittarian or a
Gemini, but not if you're a Scorpio. And the use of it - if
'use' is the word we want - is that spending any time with a
Scorpio teaches you to be more aware. Aware of yourself,
aware of your motives, aware of your own needs, aware of what
drives others, aware of the whole invisible realm of the psyche
which we ordinarily, in our extroverted blundering western culture,
overlook. Why be aware? Well, if you aren't, then you
get nasty things happening - like inadvertently being hurtful and
destructive to other people and yourself, and on a broader,
collective level, being destructive to all cultural groups and
societies. If we all had Scorpio's insight, we very likely
wouldn't have much in the way of human cruelty, because we'd catch
it first in ourselves.
But for this kind of depth the Scorpio woman pays a price; and the
price is that it's hard for her to be frivolous and carefree.
Here she needs the help of a partner, and a lot of tenderness and
understanding. She'll always have secrets; all Scorpios
do. But to watch Scorpio come out of its tangled brooding
into a little sunshine is a lovely thing to watch, because then the
real warmth and generosity of the element of water is available to
other people.
There was that other word, will. It's wise to remember, in
dealings with Scorpios of either sex, that you ask, rather than
order. This is important to remember if you have a Scorpio
child; if you have a Scorpio employee; and if you have a Scorpio
woman as well, because (a gentle reminder) the two planetary rulers
of Scorpio are Pluto, lord of the underworld, and Mars, god of
war.
Not that Scorpio isn't a feminine sign. Remember Mata
Hari? She was a classic Scorpio. There's a mysterious
and often fascinating quality about Scorpio women; they often exude
a sensuality and a thinly veiled and lightly controlled passion
which can be intensely magnetic. They also often inspire fear
and mistrust, because you're never quite sure what's going on
behind those eyes. But those two powerful planetary rulers
point out that, along with the intensely female quality of the
sign, there's also a lot of fire and a lot of courage and a lot of
pride. Don't try to crush the pride. You'll get
almightily stung if you do. Scorpio demands respect, and this
applies to the Scorpio woman as well as the Scorpio man.
She's a person unto herself, not anybody's mate, servant, or
property. If allowed to offer herself freely, she's capable
of devoting her life. But if you demand or take for granted,
you'll meet either with a cold, frosty glare and a deliberate
reverse of what you ask for, or you'll suddenly get a screaming,
ranting Valkyrie running at you with a spear.
She can be temperamental.
The Scorpio woman needs an arena where she can release the fighting
qualities of Mars. Releasing them in a relationship isn't
always very pleasant, and she does need to have a good fight on
occasions. The warrior quality of the sign tends to take to
causes, and to other people's fights; the Scorpio woman may often
be seen championing the weak or the abused, whether it's in a
political arena or a medical or psychological one. But she
does need a theatre to work in; and because she thrives on crisis,
she needs space to promote them, to accomplish her thirst for
transformation and change. Otherwise, guess who bears the
brunt of it. Scorpio doesn't like things placid for too long;
she mistrusts too much contentment. She's always looking for
the worm in the apple, and if things are quiet for too long she'll
begin to suspect something's going on underneath. Then she'll
upend the whole apple cart, and start a quarrel or a scene, or
provoke you into one, in order to find the worm. Never
mind. When it turns out that there isn't any worm after all,
she's not the least bit chagrined. She accomplished what she
was really after: a change in the relationship, a deeper
look, a new expression of emotion. She'd rather have you
furious than bland and uninvolved.
The airy signs find her fascinating but a torment, because she
seems to contain all those depths they're so fascinated by but
terrified of; and she pulls them into their emotions, which is the
most difficult place in the world for the element of air to
be. The other watery signs generally understand her, but they
too are likely to be afraid of the probing eye that sees too
much. Earth, stolid and realistic, often doesn't understand
her; earthy people may love her depth and shrewdness, but miss the
fundamental point, and suddenly find themselves upheaved and
staring at a reality they didn't know existed. And fire
responds to her innate theatricality, but often flies into really
dramatic scenes and conflagrations. No other sign can really
subdue or tame the Scorpio; all you can do is decide whether this
is someone you can understand and love, and if so, then go along
for the ride, because it's bound to take you into some pretty
strange quarters. One thing it will never be shallow or
boring.
wah so long. heehee. thanks so much!
