My dad has heart problem. since he had the operation he never be
like in the past so happy. was wondering how can i make him happy
beside studying hard. etc.
dear xinyi,
i think it depends on his personality and ur r/s with him as a
child. i believe he's aware of his own condition and ur mother, the
doctor and most adults around him are constant reminders of his own
illness.
imo, no one likes to be reminded they are sick. and no one likes
the sympathy vote for being sick. the sudden attention and niceness
they receive may even backfire.
ur father was once healthier, stronger, happier and much more
lighthearted. so perhaps u can try relating to him not as a sick
man because he has pride, but as a companion and child.
bring him out for meals, watch tv with him, tell him jokes, ask
him stories about his first job, his first date with ur mother, his
most daring travels, buy him a cd of his favourite artist, get him
an mp3, download all his fav music for him, the list goes on.
hopefully by helping to normalise his lifestyle, spending time
together or creating some laughter, u can reduce the stress he
undergoes post operation and bring the sparkle back in his eyes
again.
good luck and jia you :)