http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XAnTCYZPJsE
1) The reason why metals have high m.p. and b.p. is because the
high amount of energy needed to break the 'sea of electrons' .
Watch the video for more explanation it is much clearer that
way.
2) Pure metals and any other metals, the atoms lose
their electrons and comes together to form a sea of electron.
Those round structures that you will see in the video are
metal positive ions.
At O level Chemistry, you write Na + something
--> X + Y, when you go into A level or slightly challenging
O level questions, you will realise that there are spectator ions
which do not take part in the actual chemical reactions.
For example in this case, Sodium is the reactant, the chemical
formula is Na. The actual species that is taking part in the
reaction is actually the sodium ion. So in a chemical
equation, it is the reactants and products that we are more
interested in (not the ions). When you dwell deeper into
which ions take part in the reaction, you will need to write an
ionic equation.
I believe you have learn about ionic equation in your school
already, and you canceled ions that appeared on both
sides of the equations, these are spectator ions that do not take
part in the chemical reaction. 
reactant =/= ions that take part in
reaction
Chemical equation = Reactant +
reactant + ... --> product + Product +...
=/= , does not equal to