Hi all. This is a issue I wish to
seek advice on, please no rude or insulting comments alright. I
will not be listing names or anything here.
So last year in june 2015, this
guy posted a "work from home" job and I responded. At first, it out
turned out normal and I wanted to know more. He asked me to
communicate on skype and i did. We communicated via the webcam but
it slowly turned very weird and creepy when he started asking me
very sexual questions, to which I responded very coldly. When i
tried leaving, he threatened me saying he has a video of me on
camera and would post it online if I didnt listen to his demands. I
was only 16 then. I got really scared so I did whatever he asked me
to. He proceeded to take out his dick and masturbated on camera,
forcing me to watch by "showing my face" but i closed my eyes most
of the time. He promised me cash, I never got it but thats besides
the point.
After the first time, he started sending me
very lewd messages like "watch me take out my cock and shake" and
many more stuff. I said "no" countless of times but he was
relentless. It got to the point where he said he wanted to meet,
and he would delete the video he recorded of me on camera. I agreed
to that and got a few of my friends to come. He never showed up and
blocked me.
A year later on 3april 2016, he messaged me
again asking for blowjobs and to watch him "live". I declined all
and told him i would report him to the police if he continued. He
continued taunting me and even said "I still have the video of you
and I watch it sometimes" I told him to delete it but he never
replied. He made a lot more sexual comments and I was very
traumatised and would continuously search online if he really did
post the video. Why didn't I go the police? I wanted to but was so
very afraid of what would happen. I've been through so much because
of him and if the police were to come haunting me, I dont know if i
would have been able to take it.
Recently, I realised how I was
avoiding this issue so much and it was affecting me very badly. My
story was posted on an app, its not a social networking app, not
facebook not twitter not instagram, not even a blog or anything, in
hopes to somehow find any other girls who have contacted him via
his job post because he did ask me "were you the one im supposed to
transfer $380" to when I first contacted him. screenshots of the
conversations with him and my story was. His phone number and the
name he gave me (will not say it here) were posted which was the
only info about him. I still have the screenshots and conversations
with him.
I guess after that post, some
people got very agitated and sent him him threatening messages or
sth which I had no idea of. The only intention of that was to seek
out other girls who might have been affected.
He made a police report against
me using my phone number and others who threatened him as well.
calling it harrassment. He posted it on Facebook and I saw it. What
should I do or not do now? Should I make a police report against
him as well? I have evidence of him threatening to circulate the
video online and many more sexual and insulting comments, would
that be enough? I just don't want the police coming at my door,
prefer it if my parents didnt know.
If you study law or you're a
police officer, or if you've been through the same experience, or
anything, do help or give advice! im kinda desperate now. I called
up a few pro bono hotlines i found, some say I should report
against him as im a victim, some say i should ignore it since
according to them, the police will just drop the case.
Really at a loss now, have been crying so
much these few months sigh. Please help! :(