URGENT i need advice (me and a guy)

nonn.ahs SG

there's this guy he's really sweet and nice to me. went over to his placeand we made out. nothing much just kissing and cuddling. and i thought he really likes me but a month later, we drifted but i saw this coming. even so, we made out a couple of times too and then things escalated after some time even though we drifted bc we started talking again. he fingered me before but no we didn't fuck.

a few days back he started to talk to me again and i was kinda annoyed w him bc he'll come to me when he needs something from me. and then he wanted to sext and send him a video of me fingering myself which i obv didn't. i never say much bc he's the horny one lol. he asked me to go over to his place but i managed to come out w excuses for the past few days. then yesterday he asked me to go over in the afternoon but i said no bc i had something on. he got kinda pissed bc i kept rejecting him and he said "do you want people to know i fingered you?" and "so you want people to know?" stuff like that. i had no choice so i went over. we didn't fuck or what but things is kinda bad and i want it to stop. i know he'll come back again but i don't know what to say to him. i went over ytd bc i had no choice he's somewhat threatening me by saying those kind of stuff (eg exposing me to others) what do i do?

Juojuo SG

Tell him you don't think he has the video? Even if he has the video and shows it to anyone, you at most you lose face. You show your chat logs to the police he go to jail. I mean unless hes retarded and would rather face jail time then I got nothing to say.

Just my 2 cents hope someone else can help you on this matter good luck!

nonn.ahs SG

Just my 2 cents hope someone else can help you on this matter good luck!

besides the video what if he asks me to go over again next time? wat should i say to him

FireIce SG

cut off all ties with this guy. right now.

^Acid^ aka s|aO^eH~ SG

cut off ties. report blackmail to police...

keep evidence.

if no evidence, then tell him that you will make a police report if he continue to harress you and that ultimately if there is any video leaking, he will go to jail because, you are underage at that time...

nonn.ahs SG

cut off all ties with this guy. right now.

how do i tell him? i wanna say more than just "i can't do this anymore bc i don't want to do this anymore"

FireIce SG

F**k off.

nonn.ahs SG

cut off ties. report blackmail to police...

keep evidence.

i'm pretty sure he don't have any videos. 80% sure only

how to tell him to stay away?

nonn.ahs SG

F**k off.

do you think he'll say anything to anyone? bc his parents will kill him bc he said he'll be f**ked if his mum knows that he brought a girl home. plus it won't look good on him also what.. my mum will kill me man

FireIce SG

since he oso need to save his own ass, i dont think he will be happy to be announcing to the whole world or what

btw, what will he gain from this?

probably just trying to scare u so u will give him what he wants

so, be smart and get out asap

nonn.ahs SG

since he oso need to save his own ass, i dont think he will be happy to be announcing to the whole world or what

btw, what will he gain from this?

probably just trying to scare u so u will give him what he wants

so, be smart and get out asap

yeah i agree w you too

bc the stuff he said through text will kinda look bad on him bc i never say anything THAT BAD that'll look really bad for me.

i think it'll look bad for me bc i wasn't firm enough that's why this kind of things happen

he won't tell people about it right? like it'll be kinda awkward for him to be like "hey xxx yknow i did xxxxx" bc it shows he got issues w his morals and stuff.

FireIce SG

u can report to the police if u think he is harassing and threatening u

that is, if u are comfortable with providing the text convo as evidence

protect ur own ass 1st

no have to be kind to this kind of ppl liao

Kg ng SG

be firm and dont give in to him. otherwise it will give him the impression that he has succeeded and will continue to pester u. in the worst case, he will spread about fingering u but if u look at the bigger picture, this kind of thing typically happens during courtship and dates so it is really nothing to be shameful about as many girls would have gone thru it too. once he is tired of chasing, he will give up and move to next target.

nonn.ahs SG

u can report to the police if u think he is harassing and threatening u

that is, if u are comfortable with providing the text convo as evidence

protect ur own ass 1st

no have to be kind to this kind of ppl liao

It’s not that severe to get the police involve plus police involved = mum involved and she’ll get a heart attack. Maybe I should try telling him that I’m not comfortable w him around anymore and I can’t do this anymore because I don’t want to? And if he continues to disturb me then see how to take things from there.

What do you think? Or how can I phrase my words so I’ll sound more firm and serious about things?

nonn.ahs SG

So tbh things not as bad as I thought it is right? I’m not sure though like he can say stuff that’s not true but the messages reflect that he’s actually the horny one so it’ll kinda look bad on him is it?

FireIce SG

how about just stop replying

Kg ng SG

The best words to use is what comes from your heart and what you truly want to say to him. It does not have to be coated with a layer of honey so as not to make him angry or annoyed. The key thing is the way you would need to say it to him. It has to be assertive and to show that is the stand you are going to make. Still, it all very much depends on him. If he is stubbron as a mule, it means no matter what u say, it will never get into that thick fat head of his.

nonn.ahs SG

how about just stop replying

we aren't talking for now but idk if i should draw the line across like tell him face to face or when he asks me again then i tell him?

and if i ignore him he'll be angry and stuff maybe he'll act harshly? idk :/

nonn.ahs SG

it's best to tell him in person right? i guess he's kinda stubborn but it depends on the situation though

so i just have to say that i cannot do this anymore bc i'm not comfortable doing it?

FireIce SG

huh? u still wanna meet????

if he is also keeping quiet, most prob oredi gave up (bcos he's not getting what he wants) or oredi traumatising someone else.......
or maybe the mom found out. hahaha!